What's something romantic you *wish* someone would do for you?

[tjdee]

This is kind of a copycat...but seems to me that sometimes you wish someone would just friggin....make the coffee sometimes, or show up at the job with flowers....and they just never do because they're dense asshats! Okay. Maybe that's just me.

But what about you folks? What do you wish someone would do, that would make you fall for them all over again or for the first time? Pick wildflowers? Clip your nails? Sing a song to you in Hindi in a cheesy see through shirt his stylist probably got from International Male Catalog (again, just me)?

Do guys even want romantic things to happen to them ("Food, Sex, and Silence" LOL!!)?

[RandomKoolzip]

1. It's media conditioning that makes women expect this kind of

behavior from men, when the great lot of us are just not predisposed to acting like that (also due to media conditioning).

Expecting some hot dude to just walk into your office bearing flowers is about as unrealistic as us guys expecting all our sex partners to act like porn stars.

That said, my wife has complained on many occasion about just this sort of thing that you describe; after a few years, I've learned that it's in my best interest to randomly buy some flowers or chocolate once in a while.

[tjdee]

5. Well, Shah Rukh says...

:loveya: that after so many years of marriage (to someone who is not me, blech) that romance is basically walking past each other in the hallway, and that they don't need the kind of "I LOVE YOU ALREADY, OKAY!!" things that people may like/enjoy at first.

I think it's less about 'romantic things' than romantic *feelings*, as in a feeling of appreciation/love/sexual attraction from a person.

[SarahB]

11. Maybe it's media conditioning that tells men not to.

:shrug:

i.e. whipped, etc.

[RandomKoolzip]

14. Yeah...I pretty much said that in my post.

In the parenthetical section.


But I do believe that things like soap operas and pop songs can do strange things to people when they're very young, just as playing "army" and buying boys fetishized toy versions of adult guns does weird shit to malleable young boy brains.

I think it'd do the world a hell of a lot of good if both sides learned to deal with "love" and procreation with a good-sized dollop of realism and logic, rather than fantasy.

[SarahB]

17. True true!

All the icing stuff is great, but the real meat in sustaining long term stuff (I think anyway) is the ability of both people to just be able to talk and be open overall- to just be human with each other and all that that entails (besides sex, romance, and the fun stuff, there's kids, jobs, car repairs, relatives, etc.). That's the human factor relationships deal with a lot more. :)

[short bus president]

18. Just like a woman

to want icing on her meat. :P

[SarahB]

19. You!

:spank:

[bertha katzenengel]

16. I don't expect this behavior from any man. ;-)

Nor do I expect it as an entitlement of my marriage. It comes to me at random because we are both romantics.

My best friend, male, is a HOPELESS romantic. He keeps doing the sweetest things for his love and they fall on deaf ears. It's very sad. :(

[RedCloud]

42. or just fall into a vat of chocolate!

This trick always works! Even if they suspect it is a trick.

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

2. Wash my hair . Let me lay my head on their lap and fall asleep ...

Or just tell me that they love me ...

[tjdee]

7. I saw that in a movie once...

Ah yeah, it was...can't remember her name, washing Ralph Fiennes' hair in The English Patient. That did seem really sweet.

[RedCloud]

43. Collectively they have but one lap?

They=plural

Lap=singular

Or is this like Spanish where we presume each person has one lap?

[sleipnir]

3. Kiss me where it smells funny.

:evilgrin:

[tjdee]

6. Under your arms?

EWWWWWWW!

:evilgrin:

[kwassa]

23. In New Jersey?

[MuseRider]

4. Write a song

about me. I had a boyfriend once who would write a nice ballad about all his ex girlfriends and I have always wondered if he wrote one about me.

Being a musician who hangs with mostly musicians I just think that would be so cool.

[tjdee]

8. Mmhmm, that's a kind of permanent cool thing.

Unless of course, you hate the guy, LOL. I always wonder whether "Joanna" wanted to rip that guy's eyes out.

[no name no slogan]

21. hey, i've done that before

several times in fact (don't believe me? check the link in my sig). with any luck i may get to do it again!!!

writing songs is great therapy no matter what the situation. that and it seems i only get inspired when my heart is aching/breaking. ah well, it's only rock and/or roll i guess...

[friesianrider]

9. Write me an email/letter, for no reason.

Just telling me that you were thinking of me, missed me, and thought you were lucky to know me - sent for no special reason, just out of nowhere.

[tjdee]

29. I just got one of those....

he's gay :cry: but it's still nice and makes one feel all special like.

[SarahB]

10. I don't have to wish anymore.

I have gotten all of the things people above me wanted (except the hair washing thing, but he would). And he likes it. He better stick with me too because he has totally raised the curve here for other men to live up to. I don't know if anyone can.

If anyone wonders why I get so ga-ga and stupid? This is why. :D

[tjdee]

30. UGH! The envy, LOL, the envy!!

I'm glad you guys are happy--you both seem so kind and decent.

:toast:

[matcom]

12. do me in the back of their van and...

put the movie on the Internet :crazy:

[tjdee]

31. Now THAT'S romance!

Why doesn't anyone do that for anyone anymore?

[Doctor_J]

13. From an old love or a new love?

After scanning these posts, I am a bit verklempt. I am trying to strike up a romance with an old friend. I've already written her a song (as yet unsung), sent her an e-mail, left a voice mail, had a CD of her favorite artist waiting in her mailbox when she returned from vacation (with a nice note). It hasn't even gotten me a hand-hold in return. Maybe that's why we don't do these things - alot of times they go unappreciated.

[tjdee]

32. Awww, sorry.

Hope she realizes what she's got before you get sick of waiting around...*crossing fingers for you*

[Doctor_J]

41. Thanks

I am really a better-than-average catch for someone in our age group (I'm 48). Alas, the woman in question is way, way, WAY better than average in all categories, so perhaps it's not to be.

[bertha katzenengel]

15. cuddle on the couch and watch a movie

really, that's all I want.

[tjdee]

33. Yeah, but don't you have someone wonderful though?

She probably does lots of other things too!

Cuddling/movie, top of my list.

[bertha katzenengel]

45. I do, yes.

You don't? I'm sorry. I didn't mean to rub it in.

You will have someone wonderful. S/he'll pop up, right out of the blue. She popped out of my blue in the form of an email.

:hug:

[sniffa]

20. tweak my eyebrows

:loveya:

[tjdee]

34. That's it?

Wow, y'all are such softies with your small demands!
:hi:

[no name no slogan]

22. only one thing: i'm sorry

(bear with me, i'm going thru a divorce)
i'm sorry that i said those mean, hurtful things about you.
i'm sorry that i didn't get you help when you cried out for it.
i'm sorry that i said it was all your fault.

that's all i'd like to hear. but even if i heard them from her, i would NEVER take her back.

[Trigger Hippie]

25. NNNS, here's your daily

:hug:

As for me, the only thing I ask for romantically is a real emotional and mental connection with that person. I don't want anything materialistic from that person. :hi:

[no name no slogan]

26. aw shucks

:hug: for you too! I'm picking up my keys to the new apartment this afternoon and moving in my matress. I get the kitties tomorrow, so I'm on my way!!! :woohoo:

too bad the cable won't be in until next week though :(. oh well... :)

[Trigger Hippie]

28. Good for you, babe!! (n/t)

[tjdee]

35. sorry can be very, very difficult.

I know you're going through a tough time--I hope you get through it okay....even if she never says that to you.

[no name no slogan]

38. she won't and that's okay

i forgive her. i don't have any need for the hatred. all it does is eat away at your soul and bring you down a notch.

that's one thing i learned the hard way: live every moment, every second of your life, as if it were the last one you'll ever have. life has a funny way of playing tricks on you, and those things that seem etched in stone may crumble away the next day.

:pals:

[VelmaD]

24. I like little things...pecks on the cheek or forehead...

or brushing his fingers across the lines in my forehead (to rub away the worry) when I'm feeling blue.

[tjdee]

36. That's adorable!

The brushing away the worry on your head!

Aww, great, now I want that too.

[Old_Fart]

27. Take me out for an old fashioned ice cream cone

[tjdee]

37. Mmm. The way to your heart being the tummy then.

Do you mean with a stroll and everything? Somehow driving in the car doesn't seem to be as neat. Maybe it is?

[Dastard Stepchild]

39. Oh... I'd just like a nice love letter....

That would hit the spot. It doesn't have to be sappy or overly poetic. Just a nice little letter to me.

[u4ic]

40. Allow me

to tickle them silly. Every day. :bounce:

I'm a tickle-holic.

[Wapsie B]

44. Show up on my doorstep

in a thong and heels and tell me to run away with her. Hey it's a fantasy right? Might as well make it a good one.

[hickman1937]

46. All I ever wanted was for someone to get to know me.

Stop seeing me as the solution to their life.

[AVulgarianHue]

47. Tar the roof n/t