DU Guys - Halp!

[NashVegas]

Poll question: DU Guys - Halp!

I'm dealing with a divorced (for one year) father of two who's been sending me all kinds of mixed signals. Oh, and a Southern Gentleman to boot. ie, acts like he wants to be romantic one day, friendly the next. Driving me batty.
Do I:

[NashVegas]

1. *coughs*

Gee, sure got quiet in here.

[StuckinBFE]

2. I vote "Grab him by the nads" but gently and say

"I live you would you like to go out on a date?" or kiss him no mix signals there.

[Deep13]

3. "...romantic one day, friendly the next..."

That's how people are. I wonder if he knows that he mood is being interpreted as signals. I assume that by friendly, you mean simply sociable.

[NashVegas]

5. Sociable But

*highly* sociable, but physically unapproachable, on those days.

[July]

4. Where's "Walk away from Confused Guy"? nt

[NashVegas]

6. I'd Rather Take the Risk

Of falling on my face at this point. Who said he's the only person in the equation with some baggage?

[NewJeffCT]

7. Guys usually appreciate it when a woman is blunt

about what she wants. Guys can sometimes very easily miss what a woman thinks is an obvious hint. So, just "grabbing him by the 'nads" is something that will most likely work if he is interested that way.

[NashVegas]

8. And If He's Not?

I don't even want to think about that.

[NewJeffCT]

11. at least you'll know for sure

instead of being filled with doubts

[all.of.me]

9. divorced one year? not long enough.

it takes about 3 years to get over that mess, and until then they are QUITE ambivalent. i speak from experience... build a friendship, because he is not available emotionally.

but what i would do is ask, just outright ask. not in an offensive way, but just as a conversation. keep that friendship in mind while you're doing it.

good luck!

[NashVegas]

10. Thanks

I posted the poll last night, and this morning had pretty much resolved to do just what you've said. Whichever way it goes, I'm thinking it'll be a relief. If it doesn't go my way, sure, it'll be a bummer, but it's better than wondering.