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Well, the baby shower for my friend's pregnant sister was Saturday. If you'll remember, the pregnant sister of my friend has had one drama-queen moment after another and insisted my friend drive her 2 hours one way to one of pregnant sister's friends baby showers. My friend finally ended up putting her foot down with pregnant sister being such a baby about her pregnancy and insisting everyone wait on her 24 hours a day. So that was Saturday and me, my friend, the pregnant sister, and the family were all to have brunch Sunday morning. This brunch was to celebrate their grandmother's 84th birthday and sister #2's completion of her Master's degree.
We arrive, kiss and hug everyone including the pregnant sister, and everything seems fine between pregnant sister and my friend. My friend and I are sitting at a round table across from pregnant sister and sister #2. As most of the table is getting up for food, I glance at sister #2 and see her absolutely flustered and collapsed in tears. I immediately see pregnant sister leaned across her husband, finger pointed at sister #2 completely railing on her. I was really very unsure what to do, because sister #2 is about the sweetest person you'll ever meet, and it is supposed to be HER celebration and pregnant sister is apparently saying something to make her cry. I wanted to go across to sister #2 and comfort her, but did not feel like it was best to get involved. Apparently, sister #2 had come to my friend's defense and said what many of us have felt for a long time, which is that pregnant sister is acting like a spoiled baby and is being way too dependant on her mother and the rest of her family to solve her own adult problems. Pregnant sister took this opportunity to completely ream out sister #2, make her cry, CONTINUE for another 5 minutes to rail on sister #2, then literally - in the middle of brunch at a fancy restaurant - stomp out of the room. Her husband of course rushed right after her, and the sisters' mother (who continually coddles her) followed. It was more than apparent, given pregnant sister's love of drama, that she wanted my friend to run after her and start coddling and babying her. My friend chose not to do it for that reason. They all eventually came back and it was a very uncomfortable rest of the morning.
When pregnant sister finally left, everyone hugged, said the I love yous, and my friend and I went out. Around 10 pm that night, my friend's mother calls her cell phone, crying and carrying on that pregnant sister is having "extreme depression" and that she "thinks she is going to go into labor from all this stress." The mother starts crying and BEGGING my friend to call pregnant sister and "just tell her how much you love her and that you're sorry." Naturally, my friend said she did not feel she had anything to apologize for, but she would send her an email when she got home because it was so late.
Email was sent and apparently that has only further infuriated pregnant sister, because my friend said that she was under the impression this issue was over and that she felt like it was inappropriate for her to make her sister cry at her own party, and that it was inappropriate for her to get the entire family involved in what is a matter between 2 people. Apparently, pregnant sister wanted a full-on "you're so wonderful!", "we all love you so much more than anyone else!" and "we're so sorry that you're a baby". Pregnant sister wrote back saying that she understands where we all stand now and she'll "never again ask us for anything as long as she lives." :eyes:
I'm sure that this will again lead to pregnant sister calling the mother again threatening to harm herself or some other equally dramatic ploy for attention, but I'm just unsure what to tell my friend. All these women are like my own sisters, so obviously we love pregnant sister but all of us (except for their mother) are having serious concerns for this child she is about to give birth to in about a month. We're worried that she *literally* won't be able to handle the labor or the actual challenge of being a parent.
Is there any polite way to handle this? I can only see this behavior continuing and while we all love pregnant sister, we are not going to raise this child for her. Cutting her off is not an option, but what else can we do? Any advice is desperately needed, and thanks for reading all this and any possible suggestions.
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