My heart goes out to my cousin.She lost her second daughter in 3 years

[rhino47]

I am stunned.On the august 6th my cousin Lisa lost her second and remaining child in a car accident.I can not even begin to know what it is to lose two children under the age of 18.My thoughts prayers and love are for her and Bob.
She barely survived the loss of her first child Laura Ann who died in 2002 in a freak boating accident in canada.Lisa became so overly protective on Barbie after that.The comfort I and others gave her was that the odds of something so horrible could happen again where too huge.
I now despise those words ever came out of my mouth.
God Rest Barbara Ann Boyles.
Thank you for letting me vent my pain and stunned shock.

[Midlodemocrat]

1. My God! That poor woman!

I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

:hug:

[XemaSab]

2. Wow, that's really awful...

:cry:

[Not Me]

3. Unimaginable pain.

Please be there for her.

[ET Awful]

4. I'm sorry to hear it Rhino :(

My condolences to you and to the rest of her family :hug:

[LisaM]

5. That's unimaginable....

I actually have a friend who lost a brother in a rafting accident, and a sister in a car accident. But she still has two more brothers. I cannot imagine losing two children, all of your children, that way.

[acmavm]

6. I don't even know what to say. That's a pain that unless you experienced

it, you can't really know what it's like. But to have it happen twice. There really are no words that I can think of that could console a parent in those circumstances.

[Sequoia]

7. I's so very sorry.

Words just won't help.

[Swede]

8. That poor family.

You have my condolences.

[rhino47]

10. Thanks

I really feel so horrid of the platitudes I have told Lisa over the past years.I feel anything I say is never enough.Words just choke in my throat.I want to be there for her but there isnt anything I can do to lessen her burden.How can fate be so cruel to such an innately good person?

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

9. My God! I'm so very sorry

My heart goes out to the family, as well. I can't begin to imagine how agonized she must feel.

[redqueen]

11. Oh my God...

sending prayers to your family and Barbara Ann's friends...

:cry:

[BikeWriter]

12. I am so very, very sorry! That is so tragic for you all!

[Benhurst]

13. ...

:grouphug:

[sandnsea]

14. I am so so sorry

The poor woman. My god. I pray that she may find some comfort, somehow. There is no rhyme or reason to such tragedies.

[flamingyouth]

15. I am so sorry for your family

What a horrible tragedy. :hug:

[Shell Beau]

16. I cannot imagine the pain this woman must

be going through. When you have children, you live for them. I am sure she feels there is no purpose to live anymore. I hope she makes it through this horrible tragedy. My prayers are with you and your family.

[Pithlet]

17. To go through something like that twice.

I can't even imagine once. How awful.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

18. When our first grandson died two years ago...

my daughter-in-law comforted herself with the happy memories of his five months on earth. He lived as full a life as anyone his age could have...maybe fuller than many.

He'd been to the zoo. He'd had playmates. He'd been to a baseball game, and put his feet into a wading pool. He'd tried several kinds of food and enjoyed being read and sung to.

There were also, of course, many things he did not live long enough to experience or understand...hatred, cruelty, indifference to suffering, heartbreak, or the loss of a child. The last is one we are most grateful for his never knowing.

I'm so sorry for your family's loss, Rhino47...
:hug:

[BikeWriter]

19. I'm sorry you've been through that, Dear...

I lost a Grand Daughter and living through it is the most difficult thing I've ever done.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

23. I think it's the most profound sorrow anyone can experience...

I'm sorry for your loss, too...

...and the loss that parents, grandparents, children, and siblings suffer every day that we continue fighting in Iraq.

Hugs to you, my friend. :hug:

[BikeWriter]

24. Thank you, Ma'am. Yes, as a parent I feel the loss of each vet...

As a vet I feel each loss as the loss of a Brother or Sister.

:hug:

[GreenPartyVoter]

27. I am so sorry your family has been through this too :^( *hugs*

[warrens]

20. I have no words for that

I have one child. She was hit by a truck this winter, and fortunately only suffered broken ribs. A inch either way and she might not have lived. So I know in theory part of what she is going through. I hope never to know the reality.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

28. Thank goodness she's ok!

Has she fully recovered?

[Love Bug]

21. There are no words

How horrible. My deepest sympathies to you all. ((((((hug)))))))

[faithnotgreed]

22. there are no words right now

but i do send big hugs and much love to your entire family

[Kire]

25. Condolences

I hope she can make through this.

[GreenPartyVoter]

26. Oh my heavens. I am so sorry!!!! *hugs and prayers*

[lildreamer316]

29. I don't mean to be weird

but I would not be suprised if she didn't last the year. Sorry to be like that, but I just don't think it is likely that she will be able to see her way clear of it; and to me it is kinda like someone who has been injured badly & is on life support; just emotionally. (I do have a son btw) I don't mean to sound down or have no faith in her; I just think she may see it as for the best. Be prepared for that. Death is not the worst thing that can happen,as I'm sure you know.

[GreenPartyVoter]

31. I understand just what you are saying. I am not sure I could survive

losing my kids either. But maybe I could. Maybe I would go out and gather up all the little broken babies I could so that we could help each other.

To be honest I try not to think about the possibility of losing my kids at all.

[lildreamer316]

32. Yeah; don't even go there.

I cry inconsolably at the thought. If this happend to my son I would probably not consider the rest of my life worth living unless my beloved husband could talk me out of it.

[driver8]

35. I know what you are saying...it is inconceivable how much pain

I would feel if something were to happen to one of my children.

My mom lost her first son to crib death. I was born a year later and I guess my mom wouldn't sleep. She sat there to make sure I didn't stop breathing. My father was so worried about her, he called my grandmother to come and take care of her.

My cousin lost her 15 year old daughter in a car accident two years ago. I cannot imagine the pain.

[BreweryYardRat]

30. Jeez...

My deepest sympathies.

[Mutley]

33. That is awful!

I'm so sorry rhino! :hug:

[rbnyc]

34. Just devestating.

I am so sorry to hear such heartbreaking news.

:(

[Cathyclysmic]

36. Sorry for her, and your, loss

:hug:

[AwakeAtLast]

37. {{{{{HUGS}}}}} to you and your family.

I will be praying for comfort and peace. I cannot imagine the sorrow and grief she is feeling. She has a great cousin to support her. Take care of your own grief process, too. Sometimes those that are taking care of the grieving person fail to grieve themselves.

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[Lydia Leftcoast]

38. What a horrible, horrible thing to have happen

To lose all one's children. It is a devastation that few people know these days.

I hope you can be strong for your cousin. :hug:

[Darth_Kitten]

39. That is so terrible.

I am so very sorry for your loss.

[ulysses]

40. good god almighty.

I'm so sorry to hear that.

[lumberingbear]

41. Horrific!!! I'm so sorry.

:grouphug:

[Wapsie B]

42. I am so sorry.

My deepest sympathies to you and your family. That is tragic.