What do you do when a friend continues to borrow a dollar here a

[Catfight]

dollar there and never pays you back? Do you still give them a buck and write it off? And what if you ask to borrow one and they say they don't have it?

[radwriter0555]

1. stop loaning money. if you keep giving them money, then you're the fool

no offense intended, for allowing them to continue to take advantage...

Just don't have it on you.

Had a few like that... it takes a while to catch on, doesn't it?

*sigh*

[Catfight]

11. The thing is, I usually carry a few bucks on me, but I just said I didn't

have it today. LOL Freeloaders suck.

[democracyindanger]

2. Tell him you can give him a quarter today and the rest later.

Eventually they'll get the hint.

[Misunderestimator]

3. Me? I would say "No, I've given you enough already."

:shrug:

[Shell Beau]

4. Either stop loaning or consider it money gone.

Loaning money can ruin a friendship. I give money and if I get it back, great, if not, I never expected to anyway.

[jedicord]

8. Amen.

My husband is always trying to help a needy friend out. And trust me, we're not that loaded either.

Last time, a kid needed $1,000 to put down on a truck. I told my husband we could only afford $500 (even then we stripped our savings). He assured me the kid would pay us back. I told him that I considered it as gone.

One year later, we got $100 and the kid had totaled the truck after having it a month.

Yet next time, my husband will still be the generous one, gotta love him.

[Shell Beau]

13. Some people just love to give. I find that to be

a wonderful quality even if it can go too far!

[pdx_prog]

5. Carry a little pad around.....

mark it down everytime they want a buck, then present them with it right after their payday....

I actually had a friend who did that....

[CaliforniaPeggy]

6. You tell them ...sorry...can't do it today..I'm short myself...

Sounds to me as though you are being walked on...and how...

Some friend...

Don't let your so-called friend take advantage of you...

That person is not a friend, who would do such a thing...

Are you a goddess, or a doormat?

[demnan]

7. Ask if you can borrow some money from them

if they give it to you, that's your payback, if they don't, that's your reason.

[MrSlayer]

9. If it's a true friend I don't worry about it.

If it's a moocher acquaintance they get told off. My friends can have the shirt off my back if they need it.

[donheld]

10. stop loaning money stop loaning money stop loaning money

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dont be made a fool of.

[Baclava]

12. Howsa about complete strangers?

...could you loan me $100?

Yes - I take PayPal.

[skygazer]

14. Fool me once, shame on you

Fool me twice, shame on me. Or as our fearless leader likes to say, "Fool me once... uh... uh... we won't get fooled again."

If it bothers you, tell them you are no longer going to feed a black hole. If it doesn't bother you, write it off and don't think about it.

[4_Legs_Good]

15. Maybe let him/her know that you're keeping track

Like pull out a piece of paper and write it down. I bet s/he quits very quickly after that.

Alternatively, just say, actually I only have $X and I need it tonight every time, and I think s/he will get the point.

david

[Shell Beau]

16. But it would have to be done gently. A friendship

may be at stake here. Money causes a lot of friendships to go kaput!

[4_Legs_Good]

22. Definitely! For me, if it was only a few bucks a month, I'd just blow it

off. But if it's like a habitual deal where the person really doesn't carry cash because s/he knows s/he can get it from me, I'd be a little more aggressive about stopping it.

I have a neighbor who was having hard times who almost got into the habit of asking me for $ when things were rough. He's never paid it back, and that's fine, but I certainly could not afford to be his bank. Luckily he stopped after a few trips.

david

[Shell Beau]

24. Well you certainly don't want to be taken advantage of.

That is why I don't loan money. Like I said earlier, I give it if I have it. If I get it back, great, if not, I didn't intend to anyway. Friendships are too important for money to get in the way! I know you probably feel that way too. But a true friend also wouldn't take andvantage of a situation like that either!

[Taverner]

17. Stop loaning him money - if you want to GIVE him a dollar

Qualify that with him....

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

18. I stab them.

They never ask again.

[Shell Beau]

20. I guess that is a fool-proof method!

[NaturalHigh]

19. I've loaned to friends before.

If it's paid back, I consider it "found" money. If not, I let it go. Everybody needs help sometimes. Now, if it became too frequent, I would probably have to cut it off.

[SoCalDem]

21. Every so often when you lunch together

just hand them the check, and say.."It's your turn ..those borrowed dollars add up..Thanks for lunch":)

[CaliforniaPeggy]

23. ROFLMAO! The PERFECT answer!

:rofl:

[Nay]

25. If the sums really are a dollar here and a dollar there and you are

never paid back, this person is not your friend but a mooch. A dollar cannot get this "friend" out of a jam, nor can it do anything for him in an emergency. He is buying cigarettes or junk food, and he's found a way for someone else (you) to pay for it. It is also a subtle way some people use to 'dominate' others. Don't fall for it. This kind of mooching is the same kind of mooching displayed by a coworker who always assumes he can dump his work on you -- and you should just go along and accept it.

This person is not your friend. Just because he "borrows" very small sums means nothing. His attitude is that you are a permanent ATM. The next time he asks for money, don't apologize, don't say you don't have it, don't explain in any way. Just say "NO." If he gets indignant (and I bet ya he will!) and demands an explanation, offer none. Just walk away.

[pitohui]

26. i don't lend any more

they are not a friend, they are a user

[SarahB]

27. It's called being a doormat.

Don't do it! If they stop being your friend over this, they aren't really your friend to begin with. I only have a small handful of friends because so many people in the world are irritating leeches like this. It's not worth it.