So, my boyfriend wants to marry me.

[Clark2008]

Oh. I love him.

I adore him!

I've also been married before and was cheated on and he beat me and he never pays child support.

So, we're moving in together. (on edit, I mean the b/f and I, not my ex! I skipped a beat, there!)

Oh, man. He's wonderful. He's fantastic!

How the hell do I get over the willies?

[swag]

1. So is Keith Olbermann your old boyfriend and Wes Clark the new one

or the other way around?

[Clark2008]

7. LOL!

Oh, I doubt you'd hear too many complaints if Keith was my ex and Wes was the new man in the stable!

Growwwwllll..

I'm not complaining now. I'm just nervous and happy and scared and content all at the same fucking time.

I hate flux. :)

[usedtobesick]

2. time and patience...

[proud2BlibKansan]

3. So marry him already

and Congratulations!

[Book Lover]

4. After the 20th load of laundry, the willies will have vanished

to be replaced by the great and comfortable casualness. Many congratulations on your wonderful news.

[Clark2008]

8. I'm going to start counting.

But, with us... it's the stove.

I live in an old house and my stove is just as old.

The first change he's making, as an amatuer (but very good) gourmet, is a new stove. Although, see, I'm Southern, it's a stove - he's from Boston. To him it's a "range." LOL.

So, after 20 meals cooked, I'm sure you're correct.

We're taking turns on the laundry. :)

[Catch22Dem]

5. But can he compete with Wes?

I'm kidding. Marry the guy! :D

[barackmyworld]

27. yeah, that sig pic caught my eye!

I hope the second time's the charm :)

[liberalnurse]

6. Move in AFTER the wedding.....

Sure he is fantastic but........it's worth keeping your independence. Just a recommendation.

You can practice all ya want.....just be sure to go home after the cigarette is out.:smoke:

[Clark2008]

9. I did that with the first husband

and well, other than my beautiful son, it was a big bust, as referenced above.

So, I've learned that you can't do the same thing and expect a different outcome.

[liberalnurse]

15. But you are more experienced and mature now.....

:woohoo:

[Clark2008]

19. Not so much.

I was 27 the first time and I'm only 35 now.

I haven't changed all that drastically.

The ex is who changed. He never wanted the child we were blessed with (AFTER our marriage, I should point out).

[jobycom]

10. Congrats! Don't get over the willies! They add spice to life!

(Unless your ex was named Willie, but I digress)

[Floogeldy]

11. Marriage blows.

Why would you want to engage in such a folly, religiously or legally?

Seriously, what is the point? The future kids, maybe.

[Clark2008]

17. Not folly.

And I have a son and he wants kids, so, yeah, I believe in marriage.

However, I also believe in your right not to think marriage is so hot.

But, I, am a nice Catholic girl (ha ha!)

Of course, our children will be the poster children for World Peace.

My ex is Palestinian. My future hubby is Jewish.

How's that for living a good life? :7

[SarahB]

12. Congrats!

To happier loves: :toast:

[Redstone]

13. How do you get over the willies? You wait.

Time will tell. If it's good, you'll know.

Redstone

[Child_Of_Isis]

14. I've never been married.

And I turned out just fine.

[JohnLocke]

16. How long have you lived together? What's his family like? (nt)

[Clark2008]

18. We haven't lived together.

He's moving in this weekend.

His parents adore me. His Mom hugged me the night she met me and he said that she has never, ever, ever hugged any of his girlfriends before - not even those he dated for awhile.

[Floogeldy]

20. I think you are on a mission to get married.

Marriage should never be an object to be pursued. Rather, it should be a natural result.

;)

[Clark2008]

22. Actually, I'm the one that wants the natural result.

But, it's nice that he's not scared to talk about the subject.

:)

I really AM that sweet, btw. I really do impress parents because, well, I like myself and I like people around me - even some fundies, which, of course, his parents aren't.

We're gonna have the biggest hoedown for a bunch of Dem parents in the South after we get settled. A bunch of former hippies just hangin'. That'll be a treat!

[Floogeldy]

23. Okay. You convinced me.

Lucky guy. :)

[Clark2008]

25. Thanks.

I'm a lucky girl, too.

He brings me flowers every week.

He brings me CDs.

He cooks for me.

He emails me a sweet note every morning when he gets to work.

He really is a jewel.

I shouldn't be scared, but I am. Thanks for challenging my thought process, though. I need this. :)

[caty]

21. Look at his parents marriage.

If they have a good marriage, then your b/f should be a good partner. I've heard we get our "marriage training" by watching our parents interact. Of course, there are exceptions to every rule.

[Clark2008]

24. OK. Here's the deal

Every woman in my family - every one - has been married twice. The second one being the productive and long-standing one. The first was whimsical, produced beautiful and intelligent children (I'm one!), but lasted all of about five years max.

The second marriage was the one that took.

Say what you want, but the women in my family learned between the first and second marriage.

Same for his family. His father was a dick (and he died, actually, a week after we started dating. He didn't go to the service on request from his aunt). He considers his step-father to be his father.

[NNadir]

26. My wife's parents had a rotten marriage, but my marriage is wonderful.

My wife is a dream as a wife, a lover, and a mother.

She is just trying to NOT be her mother, which is fine with me.

I recommend the living together by the way. I think if my wife and I hadn't done that, and if we hadn't been friends before we were lovers, things might not have gone so well.