Can someone help me to not be such a wuss?

[Rainbowreflect]

I am being screwed over at work and I know I should take a stand, but I hate confrontations.
It is costing me probably $1,000 in lost wages & I'm still afraid to fight.
Why am I such a wimp?

[billyskank]

1. That's Bush's America for you!

Management have us right as they want us. Spineless and desperate.

[sui generis]

2. do you have kids?

What about an invalid dependent? if not then why do you value sticking up for yourself as being any less worthy than sticking up for your kids? You depend on you too and you are worth sticking up for yourself.

It's theft. Bullies get away with it because they know that people like you prefer to avoid confrontation, and they profit from that.

Here's some help: You don't have to get mad to "confront". You don't have to throw a scene or any of those other things that help vent nerves. Don't pay your nerves any attention - they'll just get in the way.

What did Max Ehrman say in Desiderata: "speak your truth quietly and clearly" - and sui generis would add, "and in front of a neutral witness or with a recording device".

If you are owed money legally or contractually, then your boss is probably breaking all kinds of employment law by not paying you what you are owed and can be in twenty different kinds of trouble if you push the issue. If he keeps pushing you off and it's a legal issue go to your local state Employment Agency office and ask for help - they will aim you in the right direction.

[Rainbowreflect]

4. Thanks! I am going to contact human services & get all the facts.

Then armed with that I will calmly & coolly (with knees knocking) talk to my boss.
At least that is the plan. :scared:

[Shoeempress]

3. Sui is totally correct, don't lose your cool, but there is no reason not

to stand up for yourself. Fear is just an emotion, and it will hinder you in life if you always listen to it. Courage is not the lack of fear, it is doing what you need to do despite your fear.