Need Relationship advice!!!!! - Democratic Underground

Solon

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Thu Aug-18-05 11:55 PM
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Need Relationship advice!!!!!

Of a sort, so to speak. Awww...shit I don't really know what I'm doing, or she is doing either. That's the problem. OK, I'll lay out the situation, and then go from there. About a year and a half ago, at a previous job, I ran into this girl, a fellow co-worker. Anyways, she wanted help with college studies, and for some reason asked ME to help. Exchanged numbers, but schedule conflicts and my changing jobs and homes caused me to lose her number. She lost mine when her cell phone died, literally. Nephews are like that :).

OK, fast foward to the beginning of July, this year. I ran into her again, at her new job, I worked close by(keeping it general here :)). So, we recognized each other, hugged, but couldn't talk much, she was starting her shift. Anyways, about two days later, I show up to buy something, and low and behold, she was the cashier(funny how those things happen! ;)). So I told her we should go out somewhere and catch up on things. She said sure, and gave me her number, I gave her mine in return. Also, she mentioned that she is leaving at end of summer to go back to college, that put a damper on things.

Now, oddly enough, our schedules, this time around, didn't conflict(ahh, the glories of being a sub-contractor with my OWN schedule). Anyways, so we went out, had fun playing pool, drinking a little bit. Also, she said that she wasn't ready for any relationship, refer back to end of last paragraph for the reason. So, for the next month or so, we were going out to dinner, celebrated her first tattoo, in fact I was the first one she called after she got it, which I thought was odd. A couple of times, we couldn't go out for one reason or another, but it is just casual after all, nothing serious.

OK, now onto the weird stuff that I have no clue what to think about. In between going out, I would call her one day, to setup for the next time we go out, and then she would call me for the entire weekend, damn near everyday, to talk. We would talk for hours, on one cancelled date, I called to tell her I couldn't go to the movies, left a message. She called back at 7:30 pm, and we didn't hang up, except for phones dying/switching, until around 4:30 am. Mostly we would talk about relationships, love, poetry, she even recited some of her own to me over the phone, etc.

During all this time I sort of, ah hell, I'm have a fucking crush on her, can't help it, really. I don't really know what to do, but now onto the complication, another guy. She ran into him at work, he hit on her, she thinks he's hot, so they exchange numbers, though she told me that she just want so see if they can be friends. So, for the past week they have been hanging out, and he told her that he just wants to be friends, and she's the one with the crush, at least that what she told me tonight when she called.

So, here's even more weird shit going down, first, she said that no guy and girl can be just friends when they are either attracted to each other or cool with one another(then what the fuck are her and I?). Also, she thought he was giving hints at more than being friends with calling all the time and talking till the wee hours of the morning(refer back to rest of post for that type of shit). Second, she says she doesn't play 'games' anymore with guys, again refer back to the rest of my post.

The thing is this, I never really told her my feelings, though I didn't exactly hide any intentions from her at all. I mean, c'mon, I did ask her out on a freaking date at first, wasn't even that subtle about it either. I did sort of play it cool, knowing she was leaving in less than 2 months, but still, she has to know I like her that way, doesn't she? She's smart, witty, and we have like a 99% compatibility in interests(I forgive her her sometimes liking of country) :). The thing that is killing me is she tells me EVERYTHING about this damned guy, like I want to hear that shit. I mean, I don't really know what to think about her, I don't have a clue as to how to read women, hell, most of my girlfriends had to ask ME out on dates to even get started(I'm shy so sue me).

I'm guessing(hoping?) that maybe she is trying to force a response from me by telling me about this other guy. Or maybe she is really as clueless as I am, and doesn't know what to think either. This is like a goddamn soap opera of sorts, and I hate those shows. Any advise as to what to tell her later? She's supposed to call me after watching a movie with her little brother.