All Right Guys - What are Subtle Turn-ons for Men

[leftylady]

The little something that gets you going? Something that is not very noticable to other people.

This is important. I have a guy I need to make crazy without him knowing what hit him.

[oneighty]

1. If the un-snapped

overalls trick did not work nothing will.

180

[Robb]

2. There's nothing sexier

...than a clean house. ;)

[leftylady]

95. Oh God. I'm doomed.

I don't have a domestic bone in my body.

[Ready4Change]

3. Complete nudity?

I don't know who this other guy is, but I thought I'd step in on his behalf.

;)

[Ready4Change]

18. Ok, gave that a while. Here's my real thoughts.

1. I agree with the post below, that most guys aren't subtle. Or at least, aren't as sublte as most women. Our brains are just wired mored directly.

2. Whatever it is either needs to be natural, subconscious, or very VERY well practiced. Because if I think it's "a move" it totally fails with me. Example: I dated a lady and this subject came up. She asked me what her thing was. I told her, truthfully, that there was a particular posture, almost a pose, she sometimes used. She tried to "do" it, but it just wouldn't work when she tried. But, every once in a while it would just "happen" and wham! Hopefully not in a public setting. :evilgrin:

3. In my experience, different things have worked with different ladies. More specifically, one ladies things does NOT work for others. A silly example: On Gilligans Island, Mary Anne was very sweet and homespun, while Ginger was aloof and high fashion. Their "things" wouldn't work well for each other.

So, what I'm saying is, be yourself. Are you interested in him? Great! Act that way. When you make eye contact, does that make your stomach feel butterflys? Let that feeling become a smile. NOT "smile at him." Let your feelings become a smile. I can tell the difference, or at least I THINK I can. :)

Don't "DO" things. Because those things might cover up who you are. Be yourself, and if this is meant to be good, something about YOU will be your thing. That is Soooooo much better.

[Silverhair]

4. Most guys aren't very subtle.

It just isn't one of our strong points. Sitting on nude in his lap may work, unless there is a major football game on.

[matcom]

5. long hair and baseball hats

with the pony tail sticking out the back of the hat

oh and if she is naked too, that helps

[Wetzelbill]

8. oh the long hair and baseball hat is hot

good call, matcom. Good call. :)

[Mrs.Matcom]

59. What???

you never told me that!!!

[matcom]

69. yes i have!

Mark and I used to joke about that all the time! silly girl.

[Dhalgren]

6. Look directly at him from across the room

and when you've caught his eye, smile your most winning smile - all for no reason (when he asks). It is a killer and guys have no defense...

[matcom]

7. tough to smile

when your tongue is down his throat :D

[no name no slogan]

9. a nice neck

I have a bit of a neck thing-- if a woman has a soft, sweet-smelling neck, I'm hers for the asking. I'm so easy.

[tjwmason]

22. I'm the same

A woman's neck - particularly if she has long hair which is up - is stunningly gorgeous, I'll do anything she wants, and I'm gay (go figure).

[Silverhair]

10. Serious answer

Get a copy of "Anatomy of Love" by Dr. Helen Fisher. It has a chapter on that sort of thing. It begins with eye contact that lasts a little longer than normal.

[BikeWriter]

11. What always gets my hormones raging is women.

Looking at them or thinking about them. I hope this is helpful.

[leftylady]

81. Yes, that is very helpful.

You guys are pathetic.

Come on. Lets take it up a notch.

[BikeWriter]

99. LOL! Hey, that's how we are.

:shrug:

[jobycom]

12. Prolonged eye contact, intimate smiles, casual contact

Smile at him and take a moment longer to avert your eyes than you would otherwise. Smile at him like you are sharing a secret with him. Gets him thinking, also simulates the actions of someone already in love.

Don't overdue it, and if he looks more incomfortable than startled, discontinue--that means he thinks you are coming on, or worse, already hooked. It has to be quick, and uninterpretable.

Also, provocative clothing exposing just a hint of what he's not supposed to see. Nudity doesn't work on most guys, unless you have a Playboy body, and then he's just thinking about the body, not you. But wear something he can peak down or up, and be sure to occasionally--not often--position yourself so he can peak for a moment. It will make him want to peak again, and again, and that's what you want. You want him thinking about you, anticipating what you'll do next. Creates mystery.

Again, don't overdue. If he thinks you are doing it on purpose, he'll think you're desperate. And don't do both at the same time. If you flash him a hint of cleavage, or sit just right so your skirt hikes up your thigh, or with your legs slightly apart so he's tempted to look up your skirt (though make it so he can't without staring), and then follow that up with prolonged eye contact and a smile, he'll know it's a come on. Be subtle.

And finally, some guys are more turned on by directness. The last couple of women who have driven me crazy have done it by speaking to me. Challenge him. If he says something illogical, point out that it's illogical. Give him some insight about himself--maybe even about a shortcoming he can correct. Risk bruising the ego but not going too far. People are so used to being lied to that a little honesty helps.

Okay, one last thing: Watch for the moment when you've got him, and don't expect him to do all the work. Maybe he'll get it right off and make all the right moves, then you're set. But most guys, especially the good ones, are shy and cautious. He'll start dropping hints, too. When that happens, kick it up a notch. Assume the sale. Act as though you were already intimate. This way he'll be sure, and he'll think of youas already having something, and you'll skip that whole fear-factor thing.

That's my manly advice. Would work on me. Your milage may vary.

[henslee]

13. A pulse.

[BikeWriter]

15. Yes, that always helps.

[Richardo]

14. OK here's one. A necktie.

Neckties on women slay me.

[Ready4Change]

23. Here's an example of one of my points.

Be yourself.

I knew a lady who very much had this look. Perky little brunette. (Hope that offends no one.) At a party she gave me almost the exact look in this picture. And Wham! There was that effect.

Was it her hair? Smile? Tie? (Not the tie. Think she was wearing a collared buttondown shirt.)

Nope. It was the wrinkles at the corner of her eyes. Something most women would HATE. Something our society says are turn offs. Avoid wrinkles! They are Doom! So says society.

Hogwash!

This lady smiled at me, and the wrinkles at the corners of her eyes drove me wild. Insanely so. She could've been wearing a potato sack and I'd still have gone nuts. You cannot fake that. And had she taken steps to cover them up it would've never happened.

Be yourself.

[tigereye]

78. oh I used to wear those!

not sure it ever worked.... hmmmm

[leftylady]

90. Maybe we could start a whole new fad.

What kind of a necktie is sexy? I'm not sure I know that. And I don't know how to tie one right so I will have to just tie a knot in it.

[tigereye]

102. i used to wear them in the 80s

with my men's suits from the thrift store!

[KG]

16. tube tops.

[no name no slogan]

17. her own teeth

at least six of them.

[leftylady]

20. Thank you

I'll think I'll just try the nude thing. Come on you guys. This whole thing is supposed to be fun - a game. Women like the game.

I know this guy I I try to make him crazy because it is so much fun. He is just such a "guy." Course - he does stuff back that makes me crazy, too. Like dancing in the middle of HyVee. I can't stand it.

And I have to be direct. He doesn't get it if I'm not. It will just go right on by him.

I think what makes this so much fun is that we are so opposite. He is 6 foot five and just all guy. And I am little and a real smart ass.

So the goal here is to drive him completely nuts.

I really think the tie might do it - with the overalls. And a cap on sideways. He would just die to be seen with me like that.

[Ready4Change]

25. Blatantly, openly flirtatious? Ok.

Find excuses to do little bits of Meg Ryans infamous scene from "When Harry Met Sally." When drinks arrive at the table, get his attention as you take your first sip. Act like it's so good it gives you a little "o". Wink wink.

Little private "o"s in public setting? Oooo yah.

Not something to use in those delicate starting moments of a new relationship. But fine if you're just palling around.

[leftylady]

27. I don't think I can be that obvious.

I'm kind of shy. But I'm also onery.

This morning I told him I was heading for Crawford. Gonna get me a picket sign and go meet up with Joan Baez.

That makes him crazy. He's a good ole boy Baptist.

[Ready4Change]

29. Well, I guess you're back to nudity, then.

Guy'll just have to be happy with that, I guess. ;)

[leftylady]

30. Don't you think that would a little over the top?

In a grocery store?

This guy is a good Baptist. No - that would probably work with a good Baptist.

[4_Legs_Good]

82. I actually find that VERY annoying

I would roll my eyes and just think she was pathetic. I thought that scene was very funny in the movie, but every time I see it in real life, I just gag.

Just my $0.02, though.

david

[leftylady]

68. Not with my boobs.

Tube tops are for young women.

[DS1]

19. Let your skirt ride up a little and show some thigh

or is that not subtle enough?

[leftylady]

26. I don't wear dresses. Hate them.

And then people can see my tatoos so I can't wear them to work.

[RandomKoolzip]

21. Starting sex threads.

Guys love that shit, especially the Admins.

[derby378]

24. Number one on your list: Be yourself

Too many women downplay their own sexuality because they just don't think they're "pretty enough." Last night, ginbarn and I were watching an episode of My Hero (A British sitcom), and I remarked that Emily Joyce, the female lead, was rather gorgeous. ginbarn seemed a little surprised, saying "She's not exactly a supermodel." But my point is, so what if she isn't?

There are too many supermodels out there who are wafer thin, puke up their dinner every night, treat their employees like scum, ditch their loyal pets whenever they get tired of them, and/or leech off the public trough like so many spent pieces of used jet trash who don't know how else to get along in the world. That, to me, is anything but sexy.

So, there you go. And for the record, I think ginbarn is gorgeous.

[WCGreen]

28. A good sense of humor

and a lot of double talk, talk that can be "taken" either way.....

a little exposed cleavag, bending over in fornt of him....

Touching him, a spontaneaus neck rub.....

Twirl your hair and tilt you head sideways to expose your neck just a little....

Wear the overalls with the come on Eileen look and make sure you raise your arms up more than usual,

That kind of stuff is what females have done since we all climbed down from the tress and look where that has got us.....

[kick-ass-bob]

31. wearing a man's dress shirt.

that is just hot.

:shrug:
I'm not sure why...

[leftylady]

33. I could do that.

Maybe I could find one at the thrift store.

[gmoney]

36. Get it pressed and lightly starched...

One that looks like it's been through the wash a hundred times isn't as good.

Button-Down collar, too...

Should be worn untucked... ideally with just panties or a super short skirt/shorts, but this may not be practical out in public.

The appeal is in the notion that the woman is wearing HER guy's shirt

[leftylady]

38. OK - but I don't get it.

How about if I wear that under my overalls - and with a tie?

Noen of this is making any sense to me.

[ProfessorGAC]

42. Don't Be Quite So Subtle

After all, it is men you're talking to. We're just not that subtle about relationships. Too much subtlety just confuses us.
The Professor

[gmoney]

46. a semi-related joke...

A young single guy is on a cruise ship, having the time of his life. On the second day of the cruise, the ship slams into an iceberg and begins to sink. Passengers around him are screaming, flailing, and drowning but he manages to grab on to a piece of driftwood and, using every last ounce of strength, swims a few miles through the shark-infested sea to a remote island.

Sprawled on the shore and nearly passed out from exhaustion, he turns his head to see a woman lying near him, unconscious, barely breathing. She's also managed to wash up on shore from the sinking ship.

He makes his way to her, and with some mouth-to-mouth assistance, he manages to get her breathing again. She looks up at him, wide-eyed and grateful and says, "My God, you saved my life!"

He suddenly realizes the woman is Cindy Crawford!

Days and weeks go by. Cindy and the guy are living on the island together. They've set up a hut, there's fruit on the trees, and they're in heaven. Cindy's fallen madly in love with him, and they're making passionate love morning, noon and night.

Alas, one day she notices he's looking kind of glum. "What's the matter, sweetheart?" she asks, "We have a wonderful life together, I'm in love with you. Is there something wrong? Is there anything I can do?"

He says, "Actually, Cindy, there is. Would you mind, putting on my shirt?"

"Sure," she says, "if it will help." He takes off his shirt and she puts it on.

"Now would you put on my pants?" he asks.

"Sure, honey, if it's really going to make you feel better," she says.

"Okay, would you put on my hat now, and draw a little mustache on your face?" he asks.

"Whatever you want, sweetie," she says, and does.

Then he says, "Now, would you start walking around the edge of the island?"

She starts walking around the perimeter of the island. He sets off in the other direction. They meet up half way around the island a few minutes later. He rushes up to her, grabs her by the shoulders, and says, "Dude! You'll never believe who I'm sleeping with!"

[redqueen]

47. hahahahha

cute!

[ProfessorGAC]

41. We Have A Winner

I don't know why either, but it is sexy as all get-out.
The Professor

[gmoney]

32. Wise advice from Leon Redbone...

(I WANT TO BE) SEDUCED
(Gary Richard Tigerman)
As recorded by Leon Redbone

I want to be seduced
I want a woman to take me out to dinner for two
I want to see her eyes gettin' moody,
Flirtin' with the thought of what flirtin' ought to do
I want to act real cool, have her think about gettin' little me in bed
Have a chat about Magna Charta, or Puerto Vallarta, or somethin' Gandhi said

I might demur politely, falter slightly, if she starts to fondle my knee,
But I'm relatively certain I'd compromise if I know me

I want to be seduced,
I want a woman talk to me suggestively;
Want to hear her say she'll be with me tomorrow morning
Drinkin' hot jasmine tea.
I want her to make me laugh,
Make a point of touching me when she talks,
Leaving all the jealous men in the joint to
mumble in their beer and gawk.
I know it only happens when I'm napping,
Nodding in a reverie,
That I find myself a woman who wouldn't mind seducing me.

(Instrumental break)

I know it only happens, when I'm napping, nodding in a reverie
That I find myself a woman who wouldn't mind seducing
Starting from the moment that we'd been introduced
I'd like to find a woman who wouldn't mind seducing me

[leftylady]

34. I thought guys didn't like forward women.

Guess that's not true, huh?

[gmoney]

37. Well, there's a difference between forward and seductive

That's kind of the point of the song, apart from the "say she'll be with me tomorrow morning" -- the guy wants to have her do the subtle things, like making him laugh, and she touches him when she talks and such.

It's not universal, by any means, but I'd certainly agree with the song's sentiments.

[magnetism]

35. tickle, touch, nudge...

make small bits of physical contact.

[leftylady]

39. I can't do that.

He sits at a whole nother table.

I have to make him crazy from a distance of about - oh, twenty feet.

[magnetism]

48. what's the setting?

is this in a class, at work, how much can he see of you? are you in constant view of each other?

[leftylady]

49. Its breakfast at HYvee Store

I see him every morning.

He just got divorced so I have to be careful.

But so far we have a pretty good time just making each other nuts. Its a pretty good way to get to know someone. Without making the whole situation too scary.

[magnetism]

60. what's your goal?

date him? hook up? just make him nuts? If he is recently divorced, turning him on should not be that hard as he is probably used to getting some on a regular basis.

How about ordering two pakcakes with a glob of whipped cream on each pancake, each glob of whipped cream topped with a cherry.

Eating food can be pretty seductive if done properly. Think 9 1/2 Weeks.

[leftylady]

66. Naw, we are just having fun.

We are older - its not the same as when two people are young and hot to trot.

We are just having a good time. Can't be that racy or its over the line.

[magnetism]

72. do you own a good push-up bra?

I would have to go the cleavage route then...always a good winner. Tight pants, good smelling perfume...

I am torn because how do you go sexy without being too racy? Guys like racy.

How about reading a book which has sexual inuendos, holding it up so that he can see the title?

[leftylady]

79. Remember - this guy is a Baptist

Got to be subtle.

Besides, I don't need a push-up bra.

[magnetism]

88. how about subtle cleavage?

he may be a baptist, but he is still a male.

O8)

[leftylady]

91. I know

But that gets confusing to me.

These Baptist guys all talk about how great the preacher is - and then do things that are pretty sexy.

I nev er know how to read that.

[silvermachine]

40. A steady gaze...

...and then a smile. As if there were no others in the universe than the 2 of you.

[flvegan]

43. Steady stare, lick your lips, put your finger all the way in your mouth

and provocatively pull it back out...slowly. Then, flip your hair back.

If he's not panting by now, grab your breasts and squeeze slowly (maitain the eye contact).

[Sugar Smack]

44. LOL! OMG!

:spray: :spray: :spray: :spray: :spray: :spray:

[leftylady]

45. Oh, yeah. That will work!

I'm not talking jumping the guy.

I'm talking fun stuff. Its the game. Its all about the game.

[flvegan]

51. Right. But when he comes over after that production

you play coy. "Oh, I was meaning that for the guy behind you. Why? Did you see something you liked?" Be sure you're staring at his zipper the whole time.

When he walks away, whistle and say (just loud enough for him to hear) "what a great ass!"

I'm kidding, of course.

[shockra]

55. That's a trick models use to keep lipstick from getting on their teeth.

Put your finger in your mouth, pucker, then pull it out.

You could say you were doing that. Putting on lipstick first would probably help too, LOL.

Looking at his zipper. Some of us do that unintentionally. I'm shy and I look down a lot. Some guy asked me once, "Why are you staring at my crotch?" :blush:

[flvegan]

58. "Window shopping"

That's what you should've told that guy...

[In_The_Wind]

50. That ALWAYS works for me!

>

[flvegan]

52. It would work for anyone.

Any guy, seeing that, immediately mentally starts writing the Penthouse Forum letter.

"I never thought it would happen to me, but it did..."

[In_The_Wind]

62. Life is meant to be enjoyed!

I always knew that ... even 30 years ago when that picture was taken and earlier this year in Boston ~ >


I still do the same thing today BTW that is one of my green capes since the 'Green Caped Joani' story started ~>

www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=3890975&mesg_id=3891237

[Sugar Smack]

53. HOT STUFF! HOT STUFF!!

Holy freaking hell, how'd I miss THAT one?

:wow: :wow: :hi: :loveya:

[In_The_Wind]

56. YOU bet! Hot Stuff!

Steady stare, lick my lips, put my little finger oh so slightly into my mouth ...

YOU are going to have a BLAST looking at all the pictures I wouldn't load into the photobucket ... proving once again ... they don't have to be nude to be HOT !

[Sugar Smack]

61. OK, that dancing bunny is cracking me up!

Can't wait to see your pictures, Joani~!

:pals:

[no name no slogan]

76. damn, that made me want to watch Madonna videos

and drink Lite beer and do push-ups.

[Left Is Write]

80. I'm pretty sure that doesn't qualify as "subtle."

[flvegan]

84. One man's ceiling is another man's floor

I'm pretty daft when it comes to the ladies. If she wants me to know she likes me, you gotta be convincing.

[leftylady]

93. Ok - what does that mean?

You guys are losing me here.

[flvegan]

96. What one might think subtle, one might not.

I've had a woman tell me that she was giving me "all the signs" but I didn't pick up on them. Too subtle for me, I guess.

The subtle glance and smile wouldn't make me think you were interested. But then, I'm a moron.

[Wapsie B]

54. I will chime in and agree with the eye contact thing.

Smiling and flirting would be right up there in the subtle turn ons dept. Maybe a pleasing fragrance. Cooking his favorite dish. I'm just trying to involve all the senses.

[NewJeffCT]

57. it's really different with every woman

On one woman, it might be the look in her big blue eyes when she is happy...

In another, it might be her perfect feet in her trendy sandals (I never really noticed a woman's feet until dating a woman with terrific feet like 5 years back)

With another woman, it just might be how she confidently carries herself.

Or, in another, how nicely toned her arms or calves are.

I can't really put a finger on one single thing, as I think every woman is different this way.

[dback]

63. Go rent "To Have and Have Not" immediately.

The young Lauren Bacall will teach you everything you need to know--the Look, the Voice, the insinuating (but funny) dialogue, the slow walk. Hoooooooooooooooooo baby.

[In_The_Wind]

64. hmmm

I was wondering where I learned all that ...

[m_welby]

71. love that movie

bacall: Give the lady my love
Bogart (eying Lauren's dress): If she was wearing that I'd give her mine !!

[jpgray]

65. Make eye contact and think sexy thoughts

When directed at me, that usually works.

[leftylady]

67. I'm trying to keep this light

and funny.

This guy doesn't need anything too heavy going on right now. And I'm good at funny - but not very good at "sexy."

[m_welby]

70. bare shoulders are totally distracting

I don't know why. It ties in with the unsnapped overalls thing I guess.

the only fashion in the eighties worth a damn were those big sweaters and sweatshirts (ala flashdance) that always fell off one shoulder.

[edbermac]

73. If she's breathing, that's a turn-on...

[Crazy Guggenheim]

74. Intelligence.

[Name removed]

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[Kurovski]

77. See if he likes getting his ears worked on.

Kissing,stroking, etc.

Eye contact, real eye contact.

Gently brushing the inner forearm.

Speak in a gentle voice. Hang a thumb through a belt loop when walking or standing next to him.

Just some of the stuff that works on me.

[leftofthedial]

83. slight, tasteful display of cleavage

drives me wild with slowly crescendoing lust

[4_Legs_Good]

85. If you have long hair...

getting it to fall lightly on him one way or another is very seductive.

It might be hard since he's so tall, but if he's sitting there come behind him with your hair down and whisper something in his ear or something so your hair falls lightly on his face kinda.

Hard to explain, but it will send him through the roof - at least it will me.

david

[leftylady]

87. That's a good idea except for my hair is really, really

short. And kind of platinum.

[no name no slogan]

86. It helps if you've got a huge

bank account, too

[leftylady]

89. No - that wouldn't be me.

Besides I think he does just fine in the money department.

[Jara sang]

92. Full frontal nudity

[leftylady]

94. I'm sure that would work just fine.

If we were at his house in the shower.

But I'm talking in a very public place, here. Full frontal would probably make him faint.

[flvegan]

97. Then by all means, DON'T

walk up to him and grab his package!!! You'd kill him for sure.

[leftylady]

101. Like I would ever do that to anybody.

Come on. I'm from an older time. We just don't so stuff like that.

[Jara sang]

98. Try partial nudity then

when he shows up to pick you up for a date, answer the door wearing a thong bikini and high heels.

[leftylady]

100. And be carrying a Bible?

This is getting too kinky for me. I'm not very kinky.

I like things pretty straight and upfront. Kinky scares me.

[Moderator]

103. locking

We've passed the point of what is acceptable here