What do you consider a good curfew time for a 16 year old?

[WI_DEM]

school night?
and
Friday and Saturday?

[JVS]

1. 7 on school nights. 9 on weekends

[Shell Beau]

5. 9:00 on weekends for a 16 year old?

[JVS]

8. If they don't like it they can GET THEIR OWN FUCKING HOUSE

[OldLeftieLawyer]

11. Did I raise you?

That sounds so ............ oh, never mind.

[JVS]

17. Well, maybe if they have a specific event going past 7 I could entertain..

giving them permission. But I'd never allow my kid to just be hanging out until 10 on a school night. I want everyone in the house so I can go to bed without worrying about them getting in trouble.

[OldLeftieLawyer]

22. That was my stance

Friday and Saturday nights were fine for going out, but weeknights were for staying at home - unless there was something really extraordinary going on at school, which rarely happened.

Of course, I also had my daughters convinced that a can of hair spray was Mace. Then the little twits had to go and learn how to read ............

[Shell Beau]

15. Well now, don't you sound like my dad.

Yep! You do, except he was a little more lenient on the curfew. Hell, when I went away to college with no curfew, I still had a 12:00 when I came home to visit. That is why I spent the night at friends.

[eleonora]

7. that's a bit early IMO

My bus would let me off after school around 7pm!

[JVS]

9. When did your classes end?

[eleonora]

13. 6PM - french school system

then about one hour to go, counting walking to the bus and taking it and walking back to my parent's house. I'd have to get up at 6:30AM too

[JVS]

21. Then your case is atypical. Most high schools let out between 2 and 4

[eleonora]

23. I gotta say too that...

I was staying home every night of the week. No hanging out with friends after school until 10PM, just at home and going to bed at 10ish

[Left Is Write]

38. To clarify my positon...

My daughter never "hung out after school until 10:00pm". Unless she had a school-related activity or practice, she came straight home from school. Sometimes she'd go out afterward, though - for example, a 6:00 lacrosse game, followed by a trip to Dairy Queen with friends.

As long as her homework was done and she got up on time for school, I didn't mind if she went out in the evening.

[eleonora]

2. Well, can you remember what your parents did?

Mine would say 10PM on weekdays but let me up til Midnight sometimes. I still did good in high school.
Friday and Saturday, just about the same.

[XNASA]

3. School night 10, Weekend 12.

But I'd never let my kids out of the house if I lived in Wisconsin.

;)

[LaurenG]

18. This seems reasonable to me too. nt

Edit for Spelling

[tigereye]

19. yeah I think that was what I had in hs

I was always out at some school event though. And date nights... well, I don't remember. I think my parents were usually asleep when I got home! ;)

[myrna minx]

28. That was my curfew in the 80's.

And I grew up in Wisconsin. :evilgrin:

[DS1]

48. agreed nt

[Shell Beau]

4. School night- 9:00

Weekend- 11:00

That was mine and I had the strictest dad in my class. Everyone elses was 12:00 on weekends.

[tk2kewl]

10. that's about what mine was in '81

[Shell Beau]

29. That was mine in 1996. I don't really see a reason for the

curfew to go up. What really can kids do after 11 or 12:00 anyway. Nothing good.

[tk2kewl]

32. I didn't mean to imply there should be a change over time...

just stating that I am somewhat out of the loop at this point since I was 16 almost 1/4 century ago and i dont have any kids today

[Shell Beau]

33. Well I am also out of the loop. It has almost

been 10 years since I graduated high school and so much has changed. Kids seem to be allowed so much more freedom than when I was a teenager.

I wasn't sure if you were implying it should change or not so I went ahead and posted that I didn't think so, but some people would think that as time has progressed maybe also the curfew should as well!

[Left Is Write]

39. They could go to a movie that doesn't start until 9:30.

[Shell Beau]

41. Well sure, but when I did things like that, there was

an exception made as long as I came home immediately after the movie.

[Midlodemocrat]

6. My 15 yo doesn't go out on school nights, unless it is to

a game or something at school.

And she is home by 11 on Friday or Saturday.

[LynneSin]

12. I was allowed 10pm/12pm when I was a kid in school

although I was not allowed out every school night and occasionally I was allowed out later on weekends if I asked ahead of time.

My mother gave me a simple rule - if I wanted to have generous curfews then I needed to call her any time I thought I was going to be late and to ask for a ride anytime I felt my ride was not capable of driving me home (ie - date was drunk, not that I dated alot of drunks when I was in HS but it was the 80s and booze was a little bit more free at the time).

Provided that I followed these rules she was pretty good with the curfews and never judged me if there was a problem.

[AngryAmish]

37. You had to be home at noon on a weekend

Wow, you must have had either really lax or very strict folks.


(forgive me for being persnickety)

[LynneSin]

42. 12am

sorry, still peeved at how I'm being crucified because I like to shop in silence

[Debi]

50. At least we all know you weren't hanging out at stores

pestering the clerks til all hours of the morning! :P

[MadAsHellNewYorker]

14. When I was 16, I had no "curfews" per say...

I didn't go out during the week and I would stay up however late I wanted to, but I just had to be able to wake up for school. Weekends was probably 1am-ish, but as long as I would call and my mom knew where I was I could stay out later

[caty]

16. My parents used the grade we were in

for a guide. 10th grade was 10:00 on school nights and an hour later on week-ends.

[bearfan454]

20. School nite 9:00 Weekend 10:30 nt

[eyesroll]

24. Mine was 10 pm weekdays, midnight weekends

With special extensions for Homecoming, etc.

Weekdays, though, I had to have a good (not just "hanging out) reason to go out -- school function, work, etc. And the homework had better be done.

Weekends, I did have to tell my parents at least who I was going to be with, if I didn't know specifically where I was going to be.

[crispini]

25. School night - I had no set curfew.

I just let them know where I was, when I was going to be back, etc. Weeknights, I think it was 11 or midnight when I was 16.

[xultar]

26. 7 on school nites unless they have school activities. 9 on the weekends.

As things happen positive or negative I'd re-evaluate.

Deducting an hour as they get into trouble immediately not doing chores, grades, not doing homework, being late for curfew, talking back etc. Adding 1/2 hour as they do well every 2 months doing extra around the house, good grates, being courteous and respecting parents and family etc.

[mconvente]

27. I didn't really have a curfew

I never went anywhere during the weeknights, and even on the weekends as well. I'm just content staying at home and such, but I would chill with friends sometimes. I get tired easily, so by 10:00 pm I'm ready for bed anyways (on weeknights) and on the weekends it doesn't really matter, but I don't do stupid things anyways.

[Dora]

30. I guess it depends on why she's out.

I was actively involved in drama and speech activities when I was that age, and would be at school rehearsing or at someone's home preparing for a tournament until 10:00 on school nights, later if it was week of performance or tourney.

Weekends? My folks started me at 11:00, moved it to 11:30, then 12:00... by the time I graduated they were telling me just to get home safely.

[Divameow77]

31. I really didn't have a curfew when I was 16 on the weekends

but that's probably because I ignored it so much mom gave up.
I really didn't get into too much trouble, not with the law anyway.

When I was 17 and lived with my dad I wasn't allowed to go out on school nights and had to be home by 11:00 ont he weekends, but that was probably more them needing me to watch my siblings.

[EC]

34. 8:00 on school nights if homework is done

11:00 on week-ends, (most movies get out at 10 or so, then snack) 12:00 for special occasions.

[AngryAmish]

35. None

Especially if you have them out working selling your crank.

[Left Is Write]

36. We did curfews by grade.

Sophomore year - 9:30 school nights and 12:00 midnight on Friday and Saturday.

Junior year - 10:00 school nights and 12:30 Friday and Saturday.

Senior year - 10:30 school nights and 1:00 Friday and Saturday.

These were the curfews I had in high school and the same curfews I gave my daughter when she was in high school.

[Divameow77]

52. cool mom

[tsakshaug]

40. Way back when

1 am weekends, not clear about school nights, I would get home after practice or a game, eat, and get ready for bed. Usually in bed by 9:30 or 10. Not enforced, but I was usually wiped out by then

[Rabrrrrrr]

43. Depends on the maturity level and responsibility of the lad

By 16, I had pretty much no curfew, because my parents knew they could trust me, since all I ever did late was hang out with friends playing D&D and doing other geek things.

On school nights, they wanted me in by 11 or so, but I also did drama, and if we were wroking on a play, I might not be home 'til midnight.

On the weekends, it was pretty much whenever I wanted. They always knew where I was.

The only thing that really bothered my parents was when I would stay out past the time my dad left for work in the morning -- then they'd yell at me because they left the light on for me, which was obviously a waste of electricity, and thus of money, to leave the light on all night if I wasn't coming home.

I was always tempted to flip them a penny and say "Here - let me cover the cost of lighting that 40 Watter for 6 hours; keep the change."

[lakemonster11]

44. I didn't have a strict, unchanging curfew.

When I was going out, I would tell my parents where I was going and when I expected to be back. If it seemed reasonable for the activity, they would just say okay. If not, they would give me an earlier time to be home. The main thing was that I had to be back when I said I was going to be back. If something delayed me, I could call and let them know---it wasn't usually a big deal.

But then, I wasn't much of a problem child.

[Rising Phoenix]

45. I didn't have a curfew and I turned out ... well, never mind

[bicentennial_baby]

62. hehe, same here

look at us...we're sooooo normal! :P

[the_spectator]

46. I had no curfew

because I had no social life in high school, so it wasn't necessary! Plus, I've always needed my sleep.

Take a look at this site: www.grouphug.us Read enough there, and you might end up permanently grounding him or her until graduation!

[Debi]

51. Sniffa's been there

'412536425 all i want to do is lick girls toes.'

[Divameow77]

53. My favorite confession

933872737 George Bush is an asshole.

[Solon]

69. Go to search and type in "Bush"...

look at all the funny confessions from former Bush voters!

[northzax]

47. girl or boy?

and do you have a backup younger sibling in case this one doesn't turn out right? (or a previously successful older sib?)

without a backup: boy:8 on weeknights, 10 on weekends. Girl: never leaves the house alone.

with a back up? ah, let Darwin sort it out!

[Lilith Velkor]

56. I know you're kidding, but:

eeeeeeeeew!

:hi:

[northzax]

57. kidding? hell no.

girls need chaperones at all times until they are married. Boys can't be trusted.

and not having a spare is so, well, 20th century. :)

[Lilith Velkor]

58. um...

"girls need chaperones at all times until they are married. Boys can't be trusted."

Shouldn't the ones who can't be trusted have the chaperones? I'm not following your logic here.

[northzax]

59. see, the boys will tell other boys

about their dirty little actions. Once everyone thinks the girls are tainted, you'll never be able to marry them off. There aren't any good nunneries left, so they'll be living off you, mooching for the rest of their lives.

duh.

[Lilith Velkor]

61. In that case

you pimp 'em. That way they make you money. And don't forget the boys, they can make you money too.

DUH! :banghead:

[northzax]

64. well sure, but the sheiks don't pay as much

for spoiled good, you know?

[Lilith Velkor]

71. Like I said

Don't forget the boys, the sheiks complain less for fear of being found out.

As for the girls, unhappily married men tend to want one who knows what she's doing, which she will if you don't go in for that chaperone nonsense.

[Debi]

49. My son and his two best friends don't have curfews

We just figured that out last weekend.

They're always at each other's houses and there is always a parent home.

After going to a movie or just 'out' they end up atone of their homes with mom & dad, so who cares what time they get back to their respective houses?

I guess I'm raising a nerd, but I'll take it. :P

[kid a]

54. 10 weeknights - Midnight Friday & Sat

[seemunkee]

55. My daughter is allowed 9 on weeknights, 12 on weekends

Maybe later on weekends depending on where, what is going on. It was the same with my son. She doesn't have a license yet so my wife or I would have to go out and get her, sixteen year olds are supposed to be off the road by 12 anyway.

[CitrusLib]

60. That takes me back, but mine was 9:00pm school night, 11:00 Fri/Sat

[Lex]

63. That was my curfew too. 9pm school nights. 11pm Fri/Sat. nights.

I think my senior year they let me stay out 'til 12:00 on Fri/Sat.

But 10th and 11th grade, the curfew was 11:00 on Fri/Sat.

If there was something particular going on, I could stay out later than 11pm (a long movie, or something like that).

This was in the early 1980's.

[CitrusLib]

65. Ah, my parents had the same plan in place during the same timeframe.

My senior year, I did get permission to stay out super late after the prom. I rolled in around 8:00am. My parents were cool. Just sitting at the kitchen table and said, 'When we said you could stay out later, we didn't exactly mean after the sun rises again.'

This was in the early to mid '80's. What a fun time! Sigh.

[mcar]

66. Weekends depended on the activity

Weeknights he didn't go out, unless he was at a game or something (either participating or attending). Then, he was due home when the game ended.

I never really set an overall curfew because I felt like it depended on the situation. IOW, if he wasn't doing anything special on the weekend, just hanging at a friends house, I might have him be home by 11. If he was going to a movie, then out to grab a bite with friends, I'd consider the time the movie ended, plus food time and say be home after that.

To be fair, we always allowed him the ability to call by 10 on a weekend to ask for more time because they just started watching a movie, just started playing poker, a few more friends showed up, etc. This really worked well because neither of us was boxed in to a time, it showed him that his parents were reasonable and, of course, we had the option of saying no if we didn't want him out later.

[khashka]

67. 9 on a school night for a 16 year old

as long as his/her homework is already done.

11 on a nonschool night. I can be argued into allowing midnight, though.

Khash.

[xmas74]

68. I had a 10 pm curfew at that age

I always snuck right back out at 10:20 through my bedroom window and was usually back in bed by 5 am.

[nini]

70. Depends on the kid

Seriously.. some need more control than others.

[Maddy McCall]

72. 10 weekdays (if homework is done) and 11 weekends.

Homework must be done, and grades must be maintained to keep curfew at 10/weekdays, 11/weekends.

If grades slip or kiddo gets in to any kind of trouble, curfew slides back an hour until trust is regained.

[LeftyMom]

73. I'd discuss it with the kid

I ddn't have a fixed at that age, the rule was that I had to be in at an early enough hour to wake up at 6:00 the next morning. As a practical matter that meant I was in by ten on all but the rarest of occasions and my parents knew when I'd be out later.

I'm of the opinion you hav eto give a kid a reasonable amount of freedom while the stakes aren't too high, after all a 16 year old is two years away from adulthood and probably moving out.

Unless this is a issue with an out-of-control kid, in which case I don't see any reason to allow the kid out after dinner except for specific approved activities. Sometimes you have to get a kid real used to a short leash for a while before you give them room to run.

[MrSlayer]

74. 10 on weeknights, 12 on weekends.

As long as homework is done before going out on the school night.

[SuperWonk]

75. Better be safe...

than sorry. No later than 11pm.

[KittyWampus]

76. school nights- in time for dinner. Weekends by 11

[nini]

77. I can't believe how many people said 10 on a school night

GAWD things have changed. We weren't able to go anywhere on a school night unless it was a special event such as a game or similar. But not just to hang out. It was the same for most of my friends too.

Weekends was 10PM - or later for special / preapproved events.

WOW.. things have changed.