So...I have a crush on my neighbor...what do I do?

[Shananigans]

It's true. After a long night of partying on Friday, I was sitting outside having an "after drinking" smoke, when this guy and his friend come walking by. I say hi..blah blah blah...and we start talking. We sat there and talked for almost 2 hours before we parted ways with an "I'm sure I will see you around sometime soon". The next night we were again partying (at my apartment this time) when he comes home again. We end up talking for about an hour and during this time he seems like he is kind of into me (he rests his hands on my thigh, looks into my eyes, etc). So here's the deal...

I am not looking for a relationship or anything of the like right now. I am, however, very interested in starting something a little more casual with him. The problem is I am HORRIBLE at letting people know I am interested in them. After I told my friends the story, they all told me I was nuts for not responding more to his signals. But I just don't know how! Also, I am not normally into the whole one night stand thing, and don't want him to think I just jump into bed with every man I see. Just him ;)

I am worried now that I may not get a second chance, as he lives in a different part of the building, parks in a different area and usually comes in a different door. The only reason I would have to see him would be during a smoke break and I usually don't smoke unless I am drinking (I'm not sure he would be worth taking up smoking regularily ;)

So what do I do? I could slip a note under his door, but that might appear desperate. I could ask my landlord to give me the scoop on him (she's a total gossip). If she bites, I could let her know I am into him. I could park my ass on the front steps and wait for days until I see him (even then, what would I say).

So DU- what do you think I should do? I know this is kind of long so to summarize:

A. How should I seduce my neighbor who I rarely see?
B. How do you show someone you want them without appearing like a whore?

[WCGreen]

1. Well......

Make him brownies.....

Dudes always like the brownies.....

[CaliforniaPeggy]

3. *Um* They sure do....

Especially if they have that secret ingredient .....

:evilgrin:

[WCGreen]

4. One of my freinds in College was from New Orleans...

He use to play tackle for the Saints...

I told him I was going to this womans home for dinner and he warned me towatch what I ate cause his grandma, the cajun vodoo one, warned him about secet ingerdiants women put in their cookin' to get hold of a man....

[Shananigans]

5. Damnit, I need those ingredients!

:)

[Floogeldy]

22. Here they are!

Recipe for Italian Sausage Lasagna
From Diana Rattray,
Your Guide to Southern U.S. Cuisine.

A favorite lasagna recipe with Italian sausage and tomato sauce and mozzarella cheese, very easy and delicious.

INGREDIENTS:

1 pound bulk Italian sausage (remove casings)
1 clove garlic, minced
1 can (14.5 ounces) tomatoes
2 teaspoons dried basil
1 teaspoon dried oregano
1 1/2 teaspoons salt
2 cans tomato paste (6 ounces each)
10 ounces lasagne noodles (10 to 12 lasagna noodles)
3 cups ricotta cheese
1/4 cup grated Parmesan cheese
2 tablespoons dried parsley flakes
2 eggs
1 teaspoons salt
1/2 teaspoon pepper
16 ounces mozzarella cheese, shredded or thinly sliced.

PREPARATION:

Brown sausage slowly; drain off excess fat. Add garlic, tomatoes, basil, oregano, 1 1/2 teaspoons salt, and tomato paste. Simmer, uncovered, for 30 minutes, adding a little water if too thick. Cook lasagna noodles in boiling salted water according to package directions. In a bowl, combine ricotta cheese, Parmesan cheese, parsley, eggs, 1 teaspoon salt, and pepper. Place a layer of noodles in bottom of a 13x9x2-inch baking dish or lasagna pan. Cover with a layer of mozzarella cheese then spoon 1/2 of ricotta mixture over mozzarella. Spoon 1/2 meat sauce over the cheese. Repeat layers. Bake for 30 to 40 minutes in a 375° oven.

Allow lasagna recipe to set a few minutes before serving.

;)

[tigereye]

30. Peggy you are full of surprises!

;)

[CaliforniaPeggy]

42. ME? No way....

Just cause I'm 61 (gasp) doesn't mean that I can't think like a much younger person can!

Just sayin'.....:evilgrin:

[Left Is Write]

53. You know what? Many years ago, in the late 80s, I dated a guy

who was so enthralled with my brownies that the day he broke up with me, he did it by saying, "I don't want to marry YOU, but I'd marry your brownies."

[Maestro]

66. Someone broke up with you?

His loss.... ;)

[Left Is Write]

69. Yes, and he did it in such a sensitive manner.

It's okay, though...I should have seen the writing on the wall. He's a staunch Republican who was utterly appalled that I had no intention of voting for George H.W. Bush.

[HEyHEY]

2. HELLOOOO "Do you have any suger...thanks..oops I spilled it on my breasts"

[WCGreen]

6. Now that.....

can be fun....

[tigereye]

31. oh

:rofl:

that is so funny HH. Laughing so hard I didn't do the smiley right.

[gollygee]

40. HAHAHA

hilarious!

[Floogeldy]

7. Go to his apartment, and take your top off.

I swear, sex and beauty are wasted on the young.

;)

[CaliforniaPeggy]

8. *Helpless laughter*......

You men all are thinking on the same wavelength: SEX!

There are other ways to get a guy interested, you know...though none so obvious, I guess...

And you are still young, my dear Floog....

:loveya: :evilgrin:

[Floogeldy]

10. But CPeg!!!

The OP stated: "A. How should I seduce my neighbor who I rarely see?"

Believe me, I did provide a more than ample answer.

;)

[CaliforniaPeggy]

11. OK, OK...you're right...

Your answer was more than ample, my dear Floog...

I'm still laughing helplessly.....:rofl:

[WCGreen]

18. IT's shananigan who has to supply the "ample" answer....

[Shananigans]

13. Such as...

Any little bit of advice will help at this point...

[CaliforniaPeggy]

9. How about giving a party,

And inviting him? That would be an easy thing to do....

Good luck!

:evilgrin: :party: :toast: :toast:

[Floogeldy]

12. I just thought of something

That would be really cool if she printed up a formal invitation, with RSVP, etc., and a special occasion, only when he gets there he discovers that he is the only one invited.

WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!

That would be special.

:)

[Shananigans]

14. That is a great idea...

but...I can't be that forward. I just can't! I suspect, however, if I can get him in the right place at the right time...things would happen naturally.

The signs were already there. He kept his hand on my leg, kept looking me in the eyes... The first night I just didn't want to be "that girl" and the second time I decided I wanted him either way (and I felt like less of "that girl"), I just didn't know how to tell him.

[Floogeldy]

15. I know exactly how you feel.

Do that with which you feel comfortable. And if it is meant to be, it will be.

I have been there.

You are special. I hope he is, too.

:)

[no name no slogan]

24. He kept his hand on your leg?!?!?!

Maybe it's because I'm from the upper midwest (and we tend to observe personal space here quite religiously), but that's tantamount to first base in my book. Damn, he's totally into you!

Chances are he'll be looking for you in the same spot you were at last night, so just keep hanging out there, if you don't know where he lives. You'll bump into him eventually...

[Wetzelbill]

38. I was just going to say that!

Great minds think alike, my dear CP. :)

[miss_kitty]

16. Stalk him

That'll get his attention.

[Floogeldy]

17. I think my idea is warmer and more conciliatory.

:)

[miss_kitty]

19. Probably

:P

[WCGreen]

20. Men liked to be stalked.....

We are all like celery where that is concerned....

[CaliforniaPeggy]

26. ROFLMAO!

You are so FULL of it!

:spank:

[WCGreen]

27. Always.....

[CaliforniaPeggy]

29. Good morning, my dear Chris....

Noon for you....

Please check your PM...in a moment...

[Floogeldy]

21. BTW, are you wearing any toenail polish?

?

[Shananigans]

23. Morning Peoples! Any suggestions???

[tigereye]

32. ask around and find out where his apt is

then stop by with brownies...

I remember in college I used to stand around waiting for whatever guy I happened to be intrigued by, to come out of class. One of them used to jump the hedges near the building. Sigh.

(sorry, long-married person here, caught up in a reverie about days when I could seduce people. Have fun! )

[JVS]

25. Sacrifice a fatted calf upon his front stoop.

[northzax]

34. but they live in the same building

when the entrails are burned it might cause a fire that would adversely affect the OP.

see?

[Arkana]

28. Set up camp in front of his door.

:P :evilgrin:

[Orsino]

33. Is this a joke?

He's already rested his hand on your thigh. Trust me; he's already imagined far more than you are thinking of trying, and is interested. It doesn't matter how you plan to be seduced--nothing more subtle than "How would you like to be seduced?" will be necessary.

[Shananigans]

51. Well...I'm a slow kinda girl...

He could have just put his hand there cuz he was drunk and wanted a piece of ass (which is probably what he wanted and coincidently what I want).

So I pose this new question: If you are drinking, semi-into a girl and make a few moves that she doesn't really respond to...what do you do?

Would you just give up and figure she's not interested? Or would you continue thinking about her? Or (as I suspect) do you just think- another one bites the dust- and forget about her...

[MissHoneychurch]

35. no idea right now

I was/am always somewhat forward.

But please keep us posted HOW you seduced him in the end :evilgrin:

[gmoney]

36. Invite him over for dinner...

Just get a phone number from someplace and say "Hi neighbor, this is Shenanigans. I really enjoyed talking with you last weekend. How would you like to continue the conversation over dinner?" (Be prepared to invite him over for a home-cooked something... even if it's sandwiches or something basic.)

Trust me, he'll get the message, but you haven't done anything more than appear neighborly if for some reason he's unavailable or you're concerned about appearances.

I agree with whomever said that "youth and sex are wasted on the young"

[Ratty]

37. I'm a take your time kind of guy

as he lives in a different part of the building

He lives in the SAME building and you're afraid you won't get a second chance? If he lived in a different part of the city I'd be worried, but it looks like you have lots more chances ahead to signal your interest.

I've had people throw themselves at me before and I do believe it diminishes my respect for them a bit, probably wrongly, but it does. Yeah, I'd often go for it but the roles are pretty fixed at that point: them as the eternal Luster, me as Lustee.

I'm definitely a slow and steady kind of guy, never been much of a grab it while you can type, so take my advice for what it's worth. Rather than stalking, or arranging to casually meet the object of your desire, can you do the same for someone else at your party who knew him? Arrange to accidently meet him or her, mention what a great time you had, then talk about how much you liked the guy and how you hope to see him again sometime soon. With any luck, that will get back to him and things may develop from there.

I know, romantic arrangements through a third party is sooooo old fashioned.

[Aristus]

39. Next time you see him, take off your shoes and say: "Argh! My feet

are killing me. Could you give them a good rubbing, please?"

I've had several hot and steamy relationships start like that, with girls asking me to rub their feet. It can be a really erotic experience all by itself, for the giver and the receiver. And it can lead to more very quickly. Last time a gave a beautiful woman a foot rub, I married her! Go on. Give it a try. :-)

[Niccolo_Macchiavelli]

43. just not Marcellus' wife eh?

he doesn't like that :-p

[Wetzelbill]

45. you know Tony Rockihara?

[lildreamer316]

54. That's how my man got me.

What a wonderful foot rub it was. Mmmmmmmmmmmmm....

[Wetzelbill]

41. ok, here's what you do....

Find out what apartment he lives in. Walk up there one night. Say, "hey, I'm going to go out with a couple friends tomorrow, you should come with us." After a few shots and drinks in the club/bar and a little flirting back and forth and the seduction is just going to happen. At some point during the night, before you go home, just say that you aren't looking for/don't have time for a relationship etc. Let him know you just want to go out, have fun and have a good time.

Trust me, this guy has been going nuts thinking about getting you in bed all week. He probably is wondering right now, if he should try to find out your apartment number etc. Surprise him. Be assertive and aggressive. Make your move. Guys often are just dying, wishing we didn't often have to do all the work. We so wish women would be more assertive and go for us. I say you should do it. Or the other option is to invite him to a party at your place. That would work too.

[lildreamer316]

55. I second this.

Take it from a "stripper" who has to approach guys all the time. The direct but non-silly approach is best. Men appreciate a confident woman; it also means she is confident in her sexuality and that makes her all the more attractive. Go get him girl! I have faith in you. A coffe or a drink at a neighborhood bar is perfect; if either one of you for any reason feel uncomfortable it is not so awkward there. Doesn't sound like he needs much persuading; and I like the fact that he didn't push you already. Speaks well for him.
Let us know what happens.

[Wetzelbill]

57. hell yeah, somebody agrees with me anyway

:)

You're a stripper? Geez, I bet you can wrap about any guy around your finger. :)

[lildreamer316]

58. You'd be suprised.

These days they know I'm trying to separate them from their wallet so it isn't always so easy.......but it is a confidence builder. I have no problem approaching men if I need to.....but I'm married;)

[Wetzelbill]

59. I once went to a store to buy some clothes

This really cute sales girl was telling me how good I looked in all this stuff and just kept tossing things into the dressing room for me to try on. She totally charmed me. I nearly asked her out, she ended up being a friend of a friend. I would've but, I'm pretty shy. But, yeah, anyway, she fleeced me out of about 300 bucks, lol. Shame! :)

[Taverner]

44. Ask him out

can't hurt, and trust me, guys like that sort of thing. If he doesnt, than you don't want to be with such a traditionalist anyway.

[Niccolo_Macchiavelli]

46. next time he's placing his hand on your thigh

take it and place it somewhere else...

i (shy squared) got seduced that way pretty successful (i was so daft that she had to do it twice before i noticed where she put my hand since i was watching the movie in cinema...

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

47. Ask him if he wants to go get a cup of coffee.

I'm like you - I don't like being too forward. As a guy, I'm afraid I'll be seen as creepy or something. But coffee is pretty damn harmless.

[magnetism]

48. Here is my advice

You do not want a relationship, but you want someting a little more casual. My advice would be to ask him out or invite him over for dinner and be direct. Tell him that you are interested in him. Tell him you are not normally the agressive one, but that he turns you on. Then go dancing. Dancing is an awesome way to get close and physical. The rest of the night will take care of itself.

But, DO NOT lead him down a path you do not want to go. Guys hate to be teased.

[AnarchoFreeThinker]

49. press the EASY button. lick his ear.

[6000eliot]

50. Don't be so judgmental. Just have fun.

[Wcross]

52. Knock on his door naked with a six pack of beer! n/t

[Maestro]

67. That is the ticket!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Of course if you fail, you will be eternally embarrassed. Tough call. ;)

[Wcross]

68. Give me a break- "If you fail...."

I don't know how my perfect plan could fail. (if he showed the slightest interest before)

[sendero]

56. Really now...

... this can't be that hard :) If you were the guy and the other was a woman, you'd have a problem. As it is, all you have to do is give the guy the word and the laundry will fly off.

Do yourself and the world a favor, stop worrying about what he will think. You said you don't want a relationship with him anyway. so why would you care? :)

[Shananigans]

60. Mini Update

So I decide to go to the gym today after work. I am walking home, talking to a friend on my cell phone...and who do I see pulling out of the alley in his cute little mercedes? Yeah, that would be my neighbor! I was on the phone and he gave a little finger wave and I gave a hand wave. If only I hadn't been on the phone and had gotten there 2 minutes earlier (or thank goodness I didn't stay and stretch and miss him totally).

But did I really have to be a sweaty, red faced chick in work out clothes? I only hope his windows obstructed his veiw!

[ulysses]

61. speaking only for myself

but sweat, a red face and workout clothes generally aren't turnoffs. Women worry too much about their appearance. (0f course, some men worry too much about the appearance of women.)

[GOPisEvil]

62. You are correct.

Sometimes women look their best when they aren't trying. :)

[ulysses]

63. I've found that to be true the majority of the time.

This still bothers Ms Uly to no end. :)

[GOPisEvil]

64. It's also nice to see your SO all dolled up, but for an everyday thrill,

nothing beats her just looking like she does.

Er, from what I recall anyway...

[bridgit]

65. if they are 'attached' then it is duly noted...

"thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's (whatever)"