"Tell us how you really feel!"

[progmom]

Do people say this to you with regularity?

How does it make you feel?

[Zuni]

1. it makes me explode in a blind rage

:hi:

[BigMcLargehuge]

2. not often

they know I don't have a filter between brain and mouth for most things.

[GOPisEvil]

3. It makes me think that possibly I've ranted at the wrong people.

But people don't generally say this to me in person. Online, every now and then, but not in person.

[Rabrrrrrr]

4. Why don't you tell us how you really feel?

That you think we are beneath you and not up to standards? That's what you really mean, isn't it? That we're too dumb to understand, not quite up to your intellectual standards, not quite elevated to your supreme level of mature interpersonal communication?

Dick.

:7 :hi: :P

[GOPisEvil]

6. Yeah, that's pretty much it.

Jerk.

:P:hi:

[Rabrrrrrr]

7. Bottom-feeding bottle-rapist.

:P :hi:

[GOPisEvil]

15. Moose prick.

:P

[Rabrrrrrr]

22. tire gouger!

[GOPisEvil]

23. Scum bum!

My God...I'm resorting to Buford T. Justice for my insults. How far have I fallen?

:cry:

[Rabrrrrrr]

25. That's sumbitch

The edited version was scum bum.

You jocular orangutan eviscerator.

[GOPisEvil]

29. How dare I think of the children with my insults?

You empty-headed poop-scooper.

[Rabrrrrrr]

30. Plate tossing clown tipper!!

[GOPisEvil]

31. Why did you have to get all racial?

Just because we Greeks toss plates into fireplaces...:cry:

[Rabrrrrrr]

32. Oh, don't be so sensitive. Some of my best friends are Greek.

:rofl:

[GOPisEvil]

33. Right - and they all work in restaurants, right?

:P

[Rabrrrrrr]

34. No, they all play bouzoukis in cheese shops

:rofl:

[GOPisEvil]

35. Wearing shoes with the red pom-pom things on them too, I bet.

:rofl:

[Rabrrrrrr]

40. And tossing broiled flounders and lamb shanks around willy nilly

While speaking that funny little language they invented to speak amongst themselves. It's so cute!

[Sugar Smack]

19. I'm totally stealing that!

:rofl:

[tjwmason]

5. Well - I feel wonderful

as per other thread. :D

But that's not quite the answer for which you're looking.

[texas1928]

8. I feel fine

Thanks for asking.

[DS1]

9. It's worn out, and usually makes me think "I just did you stupid fuck"

[progmom]

10. ....

:thumbsup:

[Heidi]

11. I've never said it.

It sounds like a backhanded way of slapping someone around for expressing their opinion. :shrug:

[progmom]

12. You pegged my feelings about it pretty well.

:hi:

[Breeze54]

13. "That being said" is pissing me off also!

I agree!
It's a slap!
They are SO much 'more in control than you'....blah
Put you in your place.
Condescending load of BS!

And I'm also sick of everyone using...

"That being said..."
"Having said that,...."
ARGH!!
Shut the F**K up!!

[Heidi]

14. That being said, Breeze 54, welcome to DU!

;) :hi:

[Breeze54]

24. Thanks Heidi!

I've 'been a member' for over a year or more
just been missing in action....:argh:

"That being said..." }( :sarcasm:

Thank you!
Nice to be back!
:toast:

[bridgit]

16. hubby has a story from work...

he'd sent a systemic overview into operations that was not acted upon, in a debriefing his middle manager, a female (may not matter but that was the 'moment' so as to say), with a history of making simple straight forward issues sticky & tacky, asked him that question, "how do you really feel?" he offered stock, innocuous answers, "I understand fully" "these things aren't always absorbed at 1st blush..." etc; yet she persisted,

"yes, but how do you really feel about it?" with eyes narrow & bird-like, beading...

he's very quick about reading things, seen it coming, so that he asked her in response, "i'm sorry, and um, excuse me, but; are you trying to engage me on a psychiatric level?" to which she slowly nodded never blinking, or breaking her gaze. it sounded an odd sort of event to me as he related it. he went on to explain to her the solace he finds within systemic analysis being absent squishy, emotional points of reference & the debriefing concluded. that was his story, but my sense is simpler.

unless they are your dear friends you know well to care for you, a question such as, "Tell us how you really feel!" uttered by they whom do not, is too often posed in such a way to merely gain advantage atop a vulnerability unseen previously. otherwise...

never tip your hand to a river boat gambler is my thought :hi:

[progmom]

18. Wow. She sounds like a very difficult person to work with.

And I would add to your final comment:
You gotta know when to hold 'em... ;)

[swag]

26. redacted

[jus_the_facts]

17. they say that because they can't handle the truth.....

....most people don't want to hear the truth regardless if they can handle it or not...it's a defense mechanism statement made offhandedly to attempt to put you back in your place for makin' 'em think too hard. :hi:

[Redstone]

20. I've seen it used in appreciation of an especially steamy, invective-laced

rant, rather than an insult. Or at least that's the way it seemed in the threads I'm thinking about.

Or I could be misinterpreting these cases. I dunno.

Redstone

[progmom]

21. ah - that's true

it isn't always meant insultingly. :hi:

[swag]

27. It's another stock phrase used as a humor subsitute.

It makes me feel like the speaker is a humor-impaired person who probably watches a lot of television.

[kick-ass-bob]

28. Tell us how you really feel.

Hey! Where's my laugh track???

[Lilyhoney]

36. Only my shrink.

No, seriously, I am pretty open about how I am feeling. Which is not always pretty.:)

[CaliforniaPeggy]

37. Good morning, my dear progmom.....

I haven't heard this phrase in real life, so-called...

I have had it directed at me here in DU, after I've unloaded my thoughts all over the place....

And it was used humorously...to very good effect, I might add...

Didn't bother me at all, because the people who have used it on me have done so with love...and that makes all the difference, IMHO...

It just makes me smile....

:loveya:

[caty]

38. It's no one's business

how I feel unless, until I choose to tell them without being asked.

[rockymountaindem]

39. People say that to me a lot.

I think it's great. When people say that sarcastically, I know I've gotten my point across in a way they'll remember.