Do we all work with that one person we can't stand?

[SarahB]

I can get along with almost anyone. I'm the kind of person who goes to work, does my job (usually above and beyond for others, self-motivated, etc.), and I don't do the gossipy, petty stuff. If I have down time, I read my school texts instead of puttering around reading People and gossiping about co-workers who aren't there, celebrities I don't care about, or TV shows I have neither the time or inclination to watch. I'm a relatively low person on the totem pole, but largely more intellectual and ultimately career-minded on a long term level, so as always, I don't have much in common and don't say much, but remain helpful and affable nonetheless.

If I sound "snooty", I'll share this story. One night on my break, I was eating and reading a book on Feminist history. One woman (think middle-aged, overtanned ex-cheerleader, but for the most part I get along with her OK) came up to me and said, "Reading anything good?" When I showed her, she said, "Ewww. I guess not." :eyes:

Still (this is the main point of my long-winded diatribe), there's this one person who everyone else seems to like that is just plain rude and condescending at every turn. Oddly enough, the person everyone else "hates", I have no problems with. :shrug:

This is all just stupid politics, right? Or is there anyone here fortunate enough to actually like all their co-workers?

[SOteric]

1. I have long suspected that there is some universal law

that dictates a required poopyhead at every workplace.

I do note that one of the few poopyheads I actively wished would fookin' go away, I eventually formed a grudging bond, then a grudging admiration and eventually a genuine fondness for. By the time he actually left we were all weepy and hugging in the parking lot and swearing we'd keep in touch.

[SarahB]

3. I respect how she does her work.

There's a lot I can learn, so I took a very high road in some rather crummy circumstances last night. There's some ghosts here because my ex-husband used to work here in another department (it's a fairly big place though) and this person knew him more than a lot of people did. I keep my private life pretty private though- i.e. don't discuss him much or the reasons our marriage ended, but sometimes I feel like there's too many ghosts and if something else were available, I'd most certainly keep my options open. I'd like to work more in the area of Obstetrics and post-partum care when I graduate rather than the area I'm in now, so it wouldn't be bad if I did move on.

[johnnie]

2. No

I like everybody. I just remember that everyone has their reason for being who they are.

[SarahB]

5. I try to think like that.

An underlying part of me thinks, "She must not be very content within herself to treat someone that way." She's quite a bit older and I have my whole life ahead of me to do what I want and I don't allow myself to be held back by other's imposed limitations. Sometimes people want other people to stay in their box because they are unable to think outside it themselves.

[xmas74]

4. I always have one coworker that I don't like.

There was the one who said that poor people deserve to be poor and thrown in prison just to get them off of welfare(true quote). There was another who said that all redheads are bitches. And yet another who recently stated that the people in NO deserved to be stuck there because they were too lazy to get out( the job I lost about two weeks ago and the boss who said it).
Many other examples but these stand out.

[SarahB]

6. Yeah, politics is just something I avoid all together.

Most people just don't want to think and it ends up being an argument. If I want to argue, I'd rather do it in places more acceptable to do so. I don't deny my opinions if asked, but I tend to just avoid it as much as possible in that environment.

[xmas74]

8. I do too.

I hate it when they begin the conversation and expect me to sit there-especially when they prove that they are a nasty piece of work.

[GalleryGod]

7. I've found Night Nursing Staffs to be great! I Even Married One !

:shrug:
Sounds like your hospital is the exception

[SarahB]

9. Most people are nice.

I get along with the other 35 or so people I have to work with at varying times. I'm not always on the same wavelength, but I get along. Maybe that's why it bugs me. If I can get along with everyone else despite being kind of different for the most part, why do I have so much difficulty with this one person? It's like, if everything isn't 100% ok, I have trouble seeing the good over that one flaw.

[ofrfxsk]

10. I hear ya. Years ago I had a co-worker I truly disliked

She (trust fund baby with a big family name in town) made snide comments about everyone in front and behind their backs daily. Most looked up to her and were too afraid to cross her.
I'm not the type to talk about my personal problems at work but she found out I was seeing a psych for depression from my big-mouthed relative who also worked there.
Well, from then on she constantly made snotty, hurtful remarks, jokes, whatever crossed her mind. I didn't know how to deal with it then. I was very young and so I just took it and went home feeling more miserable everyday. I let her get to me which would not happen these days.
Point is, I think there truly are people in this world who do not give a shit if they hurt another. It can be the mildest of verbal slaps or much worse. I think they feel better about themselves that way. When you're stuck with someone like that 9 or 10 hours a day, how best to deal with it? I dunno, just relating my story and commiserating.

BTW, I eventually I found a better job and got the hell out of there.

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[RagingInMiami]

11. I got fired for being the person that nobody could stand

[Darth_Kitten]

12. I only dislike the troublemakers who constantly.....

"try" to ruin my life. I'm not kidding.

I work for the government. There's been a bully and her friends who have been at me for years. They have causes me alot of pain and grief.
A lot.

There are people out there who are just vengeful, insecure, and evil. And no, I'm not being dramatic. They attempt EVERY DAY to cause pain and misery to others.

Yes, I am trying to get out of my section and get another job. I'm better than all of them put together. :) (yes, I will say that, and no I'm not full of myself)

What they dish out will come back to them. They will get out of their cushy, government jobs and out into the real world one of these days and life will take a seriously large chunk out of their butts. In the "real" world they cannot or will not be allowed to do the damage they do to the good people at work who scare them. :(

[alarimer]

13. I work with a guy who is probably the biggest asshole

(after George W. Bush) on the planet. He invented the hostile workplace.

[Redstone]

14. Well, since my company consists of me and Mrs R, I think it

would be a BIG probem for me to not be able to stand either of us.

She's always a peach, though, and even if if have some doubts about myself with some frequency, it hans't blossomed into outright loathing yet.

So I'm lucky.

Redstone

[LaraMN]

15. Yes-- Belinda.

I used to work with Belinda at a discount store. She followed me around like a goddamn leech, while I worked, and talked at me non-stop. Belinda had a crush on the cart guy. Belinda gets abnormal periods. Belinda thinks some kid in her Home-Ec class likes her, Blah blah, blahbidy blah. Belinda has the grammar skills of a five year old and never shuts up. I was more than glad to leave that job.

[6000eliot]

16. Right across the hall

He's a loud mouthed chauvinist pig, and I have to see him all the time. He knows I'm gay, so he hates me. He just gives me dirty looks all the time.

[Wapsie B]

17. At the first hospital I worked at

there was a person with an absolutely toxic personality. She was on the EEG staff. Nothing we did in Sleep Lab was ever done quite up to her standards. We'd get long notes when we came into work at night written in bright red ink no less. Even though she was not directly involved with my area in any way she took it upon herself to micromanage us any way she could.

Fast forward several years. One of this woman's protege's was given the job of supervisor instead of myself. This new person did everything the first woman did even moreso with the red ink notes, calling and nitpicking me at work. One day my Mom called telling me that my Grandmother had died. I told my supervisor the news and her exact words were, "Well how does that affect me?" That's it. Cold hearted @##$#@#$

To this day I really have an aversion to anyone with an EEG background.
What a piece of work. Going through that mess put 100# on me and undoubtedly started me on the way to giving me a nice case of depression. Glad I'm outta there.

[DawgHouse]

18. yeah, we have a new guy who's the biggest brown noser I've ever seen.

When the boss heads to the men's room, the new guy goes with him. NO KIDDING! He's the boss's new right-hand man but I think this is taking it to the extreme. And whenever he can, he likes to point out other people's MINOR failures to the boss too. He starts whispering, "Well, I didn't want to say anything, but...."

He's started telling so many lies that he can't keep them straight. So I say give him enough rope and he'll hang himself. Oh, he's another repug, as are ALL of my coworkers. Misery, I tell ya!

[philosophie_en_rose]

19. Can't stand is one thing; Sabotage is another.

I use to work in a hell-hole, made that way because the "one person no one could stand" didn't do any work and spent all of her efforts digging up drama and pitting people against each other. Literally, did nothing ALL day, but trash other people.

I can deal with not liking someone. I wasn't at work to make friends, but I just couldn't stand the environment.

[kiraboo]

20. Not really. I am one of those people who considers the assholes

in this world to be my personal challenge. I break down their barriers over time. Kill 'em with kindness. It's worked really well for me, especially because I have to deal with people from top- to bottom-ranking in our company in order to do my job effectively (let me add that I don't have a powerful job, just one that requires everybody's friendly cooperation!)