What does it mean when a girl calls you "Sweet"

[liberalpragmatist]

Okay, so I'm talking to a girl and she just goes "you're really sweet" - ?

Some of my friends were arguing with me over quite what this meant. My own take (and that of most of my friends) was that it doesn't mean anything - the guy is nice and nonthreatening but they're not actually interested. However one of my friends (female) argued that it meant that the girl in question was interested.

Obviously different people might mean different things. But what do you guys think?

[KitchenWitch]

1. my guess is - not interested

[TroubleMan]

2. Depends on the girl

With some girls it means they really like you....with some it means that you're nice and all, but not their type.

It could go either way.

[lildreamer316]

3. umm..I'd lean toward slightly interested.

Don't go running with the "she likes me!" idea, but you are definately in the realm of possible dates. It can also go (eventually) to being too nice (death knell!!) so be prepared at some point to put on some bad-boy swagger (you won't put up with SHIT from anybody but her; you know what I mean)
This coming from a stripper; so grain of salt is maybe needed.

[petronius]

4. It means you'll be sleeping alone

it also means that the female friend who thinks it means a girl is interested has probably always wondered why guys she likes assume she isn't interested...

[liberalpragmatist]

6. Oh that goes without saying!

I'm sleeping alone anyway. It was just something that was said offhand and made me launch into hypotheticals.

[RevCheesehead]

5. I think if someone says you're sweet, they mean it.

As in, "You're really sweet."
But if you hear "that's really sweet of you," or "how sweet of you to say so," that's putting more distance between the people involved, but still acknowledging the kindness. Body language will help you interpret it better.

You seem nice enough. Tell us about yourself! :)

[liberalpragmatist]

8. haha

basically i'm 19, no sexual experience, only dated a few times not very seriously, good with girls as friends but awkward at anything beyond friendship-phase, and kind of clueless sometimes. In that i've never actually noticed any girl being interested in me but then people turn around years later and say "oh, so-and-so really liked you." :banghead:

[nickgutierrez]

11. In other words, me two years ago.

Hell, that's me now, two years older.

:banghead:

[RevCheesehead]

12. Well....

when she says "you're sweet," you can always say "I think you're sweet, too.." and see where it goes from there. If the conversation continues, then ask her if she'd like to get some coffee or something. Keep it simple.

You'll never know unless you ask. Most women are willing to give any sweet guy a chance. :)

[BigMcLargehuge]

13. just don't tell her you marinade in honey specifically to be more

pleasing to the palate, then ask for a lock of her hair. Girls hate that.

[RevCheesehead]

16. Is that personal experience talking?

:hi:

[BigMcLargehuge]

17. could be...

[RevCheesehead]

18. so what exactly do you taste like?

The Lounge needs to know!

[BigMcLargehuge]

20. Honey roast chicken

[RevCheesehead]

25. That's a cop-out.

Everything tastes like chicken. :P

[BigMcLargehuge]

26. but I come with a side of cole slaw

and two buttermilk bisquits

[RevCheesehead]

27. ....*gasping for breath*

:rofl: Where have you been all my life, Romeo?

[BigMcLargehuge]

28. Kentucky, silly

[NewJeffCT]

36. you're ahead of me when I was 19 - 19 years ago

I was actually voted shyest in my class in high school (class of '85) and didn't really have an actual date until I was 20, only weeks before my 21st birthday. Didn't have a girlfriend until my senior year of college... and that lasted about 6 weeks.

Just be patient with women and don't get too worked up over any one at your age.

[rockymountaindem]

39. Are you sure you're not me posting under another handle?

Come clean...

[Beware the Beast Man]

7. It means you ain't gettin' any.

From personal experience. :(

[BigMcLargehuge]

9. you end up with a partner like this -

[liberalpragmatist]

10. I'm not getting any anyway!

Even had the "you're sweet" meant something i'm pretty sure it wasn't leading anywhere.

But I'll take anything I can get!

[sundog]

40. ding ding ding

:P

[Lethe]

14. what this means.....

it does mean different things coming from different people.

it usually means, "you are a nice guy, but i am not interested in someone who is nice to me."

if a nice girl was interested, she would show genuine interest in you, instead of saying "you're sweet."

at least that's my pathetic take, but what do i know

[LostInAnomie]

15. It is usually followed with a "but"...

... As in "You're really sweet, but I think our friendship is too important to mess up by getting into a relationship."

This is another code for "I'm not interested"

Which again is another code for "I'm a stuck up bitch"... OK, I just made that one up but rejection is a big kick in the sack.

[liberalpragmatist]

19. It wasn't a date though anyway

I was sitting around in a group of friends at the cafeteria (late at night, some alcohol in us :) ) and she and I struck up a conversation. Then came the "you're really sweet" comment.

[RevCheesehead]

22. Oh-oh

"You're really sweet" sounds like interest to me.
Remember, she may be inexperienced as well, learning her way as she goes.

[Wapsie B]

23. She looks at you as a friend not a potential lover.

Sweetie might mean something else depending on who said it. But you're sweet is equal to the standard line, "you're a nice guy but"....

[WCGreen]

21. get a little more agressive.........

Stop with the sweet safe behavior.....

BE yourself and you will do fine....

[Heidi]

24. It means she thinks you're sweet, and you really shouldn't

read more into it than that. In my opinion, "sweet" is a compliment. Couldn't you just say to this woman, "Ya know the other day when you said I'm really sweet? What did you mean?"

Good luck! :hi:

[Crazy Guggenheim]

29. Let her make the moves. If she's interested she'll be around again.

[fujiyama]

30. I think you and your guy friends

are absolutely dead on.

This reminds me of this funny article in Wired a while back which basically said a smile by a woman is often just a smile.

Guys sometimes (ok more like often) interpret things women do in the wrong way.

Good to see you haven't interpreted in the wrong way.

[billyskank]

31. There's no rule

One girl may say it and be interested; another may say it and not be. Stop trying to read between the lines, because there's nothing written there!

[JI7]

32. that's a term many girls use for almost anyone

for various reasons. usually it's said because they just really appreciate something the other person did.

i would use it to describe other girls also .

[JI7]

33. dupe

[pookieblue]

34. depends on the girl...

there is a guy that I have been talking to that is really sweet. And I'm def interested.

Of course I am older and dated enough asshats to last me a life time. It is about time that I met a sweet guy.

[Orsino]

35. We men would do well to remember...

...that a word may have many, many meanings. While I, too, lean toward the uninterested interpretation (heard it enough myself), context is all.

[Rabrrrrrr]

37. You're never getting in bed with her or even dating her

You're good enough to like and hang out with, but not good enough for dating material.

[philosophie_en_rose]

38. She likes you.

At the minimum, she likes you as a friend. However, friendship can grow into more.

[SarahB]

41. It means she think you're a nice person.

Whether it means if you're a nice person she wants physically is something I suppose you'll find out soon. I tell my boyfriend he's sweet all the time. I tell people I have no romantic interest in who I like as people that they're sweet. It just means I like them.

[JVS]

42. They mean a perfect guy.........for someone else

[caty]

43. If I told a guy I thought he was sweet,

it would mean that I thought he had been kind to me. The number one thing I would look for in a man is kindness. Not just to me, but to others. Kindness is a huge plus.

[Wapsie B]

44. That's right. Kindness is a plus.

But that alone doesn't create sexual attraction. There's got to be something else she sees or feels that makes her want to take things to another level. Take it from a perennial also ran.

[caty]

48. I kind man sends

a woman home with that warm, fuzzy feeling----Kindness can lead to sexual attraction. Not always of course, but it's a good first step.

[Wapsie B]

50. Kindness can lead to sexual attraction?

I'll have to take your word for it because that's not happened to me.
I'm not disagreeing with you. It's just that I've always seemed to attract women who have nothing better going on or who've given everything they've had to a jerk.

[caty]

51. When you first meet

someone, you try to get a clue as to what kind of person they are. One trait you look for is how you will be treated by that person. You want to see kindness in them, not just to you, but to others that person comes in contact with. You will usually treat someone you just met with a lot of consideration. But, lets face it, after awhile that newness wears off and the real person comes out. How kind someone is to waitresses, for example, give me an idea of how he will treat me in the future. I know it sounds dumb, but this has helped me in the past as far as getting to really know someone.

[Wapsie B]

53. Oh yes, I can see your point.

I just need to be less concerned with seeking approval and just letting myself out. I'd like to think that I treat people well in everyday life. But that creates affection for me. I'm just not meeting anyone who see anything beyond that, online or off.

[caty]

54. I've found in the past

that when I was actively "looking" for someone, I always ended up with some real jerks. But, when I stopped "looking", I was usually "found" by a great guy. Start paying attention to someone who might be interested in you but hasn't worked up the nerve to let you know that. You know--that person you least expected or simply didn't consider.

[leftofthedial]

45. she thinks you're gay

[ContraBass Black]

46. Points for effort

But no cigar.

[Dukkha]

47. She see you as someone she can exploit

She know you like her therefore she can take advantage of you since you'll generally be agreeable to just about any request. So you'll be used and abused, called upon for any frivolous task, with little or no gratuity shown in return. You'll then be forgotten and nonexistent to her until she needs something again.

[JVS]

56. This is most certainly true!

[DS1]

49. Depends how far along you are

if you've just met her, it means your easy to manipulate, if she comes out with this a few months into things, it means ( I hope ) she really likes you.

[Dastard Stepchild]

52. When I use sweet...

I use it as a compliment. So, I could be flirting with the person when I use it. Let me think....
I have used "sweet" in a non-flirtatious manner, but all in all, I tend to reserve that as one of my own flirt words.

[woofless]

55. sweet=no

[mvd]

57. Well..

It was used in a signature in my high school yearbook by one girl - we were friends. I'm not sure how much she liked me otherwise. I never gave an effort in high school to be a boyfriend. :-(

I think it depends on who writes "sweet."

[CanuckAmok]

58. It means you ate pineapple the day before.

n/t

[sakabatou]

59. They're lying

Or trying to humiliate me later on.

[chaska]

60. The consensus is correct - you're goin' nowhere with this'un...

Aquire some sour to go with your sweet.

[Arkana]

61. Yeah, I get that a lot.

It basically means "You're a nice guy and all, but I just don't like you that way."