Relationship/Dating question

[Mass_Liberal]

How long do you have to wait after a woman has had a breakup for you to ask her out without being sleazy? I have feelings for this girl, and get the feeling that a breakup for her might be imminent (her relationship has just become really, reeeallly long distance).

Note: this question sounds sleazier than it really is.

[WCGreen]

1. Pounce as soon as you can....

The weekness will be exposed....

Take advantage....

No, just wait a little while....

But don't hang around too much or she might think you are "Freinds"

[Mass_Liberal]

2. uh?

[WCGreen]

7. I was trying to be a caveman....

Guess it didn't translate...

Just be cool....

Don't insert yourself too much or she will think of you as a freind...

[johnnie]

3. In my experience

Guys don't give a shit if the woman is in a relationship, go for it now. :(

[Mass_Liberal]

4. well

I give a shit.

[johnnie]

9. Good for you

That is a lot more respectable than I have dealt with.

[SOteric]

5. The time it takes to grieve a relationship differs for everyone

and truly, the fact that her SO has moved in no way implies that they aren't still deeply involved with one another.

Just be as aware as possible of what the situation might really be, and if the time seems right to put yourself forward, then by all means do.

[Mass_Liberal]

8. well

he's moved across the atlantic for several years, and she isn't following. Then again, they are having a fairly serious relationship at the moment.

[petronius]

6. For me, it's always been a week longer than the other guy

so don't wait - ask, and she'll tell you if she wants more time.

[NewJeffCT]

10. after my ex-wife filed for divorce...

I was dating within a week (and more than 1 woman)... but, it did take me a little while before I actually got a B/J and then actually had sex. Probably another few weeks for the bj and another few weeks for sex.

But, things has been going downhill in our marriage within a few weeks of us saying "I do" and this was another almost year before the actual filing of divorce.

So, it was actually kind of freeing. Well, not kind of, it really was freeing. I dated more in the next 18 months than I did in the previous 18 years!!

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[Mass_Liberal]

12. anyone else

want to venture their opinion in the public arena?

[supernova]

13. Just be honest

about your intentions. You don't have to be sleazy or petty about it.

If there is something going on there still, she'll let you know. If not, have a nice time.

[jmm]

14. It may be long distance but how do you know it is ending?

Sometimes those relationship actually work. I was in one once, albeit not quit as distant or for as long as them, and if anything that made us stay together longer.