You know what is lonely.....

[WCGreen]

Having a king sized bed, one person all the way on one side, the other all the way on the other.....

With notin' but 500 miles of loneliness in between......

Now that's bein' lonely

[Wapsie B]

1. I know how ya feel.

Trust me on that one.

[WCGreen]

5. Sleeping shoulder to shoulder that far away is inevitable, I guess...

[SammyWinstonJack]

2. Yep!

:-(

[WCGreen]

6. I hate it......

[In_The_Wind]

3. this might help

[WCGreen]

7. It does.....

[In_The_Wind]

9. well here ...

Your emotional well being is very important to your health ... gotta keep you smiling Chris!

[WCGreen]

17. I know and I thank you fro the bottom of my heart

for all you do for me.....

Nani Nani.....

[CaliforniaPeggy]

4. Yes...that is surely lonely......

Been there too....

Not even a cat to warm it up either.......

[WCGreen]

8. The cats are there.... That makes it a little better.....

[CaliforniaPeggy]

10. I know it does......

:hug:

[TrogL]

37. You are never lonely with cats

Frightened, bleeding - yes.

[WCGreen]

41. That's true.....

Never a dull moment with a couple a cats thrown in the mix....

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

11. I know how that feels.

I have a full-sized bed that I used to share. Used to be hard sleeping so cramped on that thing, but now, it's hard sleeping with so much space.

[WCGreen]

13. It's like the grand Canyon.......

I just started to notice this.....

Everything else seems to be so right.....

And then.....

All that space.....

[khashka]

12. The chemicals between us... lying in this bed.

I know what you mean. I prefer to sleep alone, but I miss being held while I sleep. He used to hold on so fiercely - and now that's gone... well I had no idea how much I would miss it.

Lonely, yes....

Khash.

[WCGreen]

14. The sad part is.....

She is still there.....

And yet, she is not....

[CaliforniaPeggy]

18. The body can be present...

without the heart......and that is worse than death, to me.....



:cry:

[In_The_Wind]

19. it is sad ...

when love changes ... >

[WCGreen]

20. It sure is........

Love dulls down to complacency and then.....

Drifts off into memories....

[In_The_Wind]

22. IF ... big IF ...

if we are lucky the friendship remains after the passion is gone ...


some of my best friends were former Lovers ...

[Sugar Smack]

34. I hear you. This guy "Josh" I dated for two years

was fascinating to me, and he apparently was fascinated. During the course of our relationship, we had some unforgettable moments, I'm sure, but when he stopped looking at me full in the face that set off alarms for me. I don't trust men who can't look me in the face (because they WANT to) and my love for him began deflating at that moment. We somehow weren't allies anymore. You have to have a "partner in crime" to giggle with, or you go nuts. Someone to admire. And to hold, of course.

Here's a hug:

:hug:

[WCGreen]

36. I like the allie part....

That is so important, a kindred spirit to help you face the world....

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

32. All i have to say is that if you have the option to leave, I'd take it.

I'm in month 3 of living with the ex... Trust me, it's hell. The worst part is getting some momentum going, feeling great, and then having something open the wounds. Let me tell ya, this is the absolute last time I ever make this mistake. Still got three months to go...

The worst part is that now that I'm trying to date again, I'm dreading the idea of having to tell someone I'm really hitting it off with that I live with my ex fiancee still. If I lose out on TWO good things because of her selfishness, I'm not sure how well I'd take that...

[redqueen]

15. Oh brother do I ever know what you mean.

And now Joy Division is back in my head.

[WCGreen]

16. I feel like i'm living a country music song....

[merh]

24. ((((((hug)))))))

I live alone and have friends that worry about me, wonder how I can be happy all alone. I have told them that I know folks in committed relationships without love that are lonelier than I will ever be. There is nothing lonelier than to be in a committed relationship all alone. :cry:

Wish it were better for all that are so alone, wish it were better for you. :hug:

:loveya:

[WCGreen]

25. I just miss the passion......

The touch.....

I'd almost rather be alone again....

[merh]

27. ...

:hug:

[I Have A Dream]

53. Maybe you just need to talk about it with her.

Maybe she's feeling the same thing. As I'm sure you know, communicating things like this can really make a difference.

Hopefully it's not past the point where this would help.

[supernova]

21. True confession

I sleep with a body pillow. It's something to hug.

[WCGreen]

23. Me too......

[In_The_Wind]

26. ...

I sleep surrounded by a whole nest of pillows.
I've slept alone huggin' my pillows since spring of '99.
I understand what you're saying.

[WCGreen]

28. I have a nest of pillow......

[In_The_Wind]

29. somehow ...

this just doesn't seem like what I started out to do

[WCGreen]

30. Pillows are good.....

But a warm tender touch is soooo much better.....

[In_The_Wind]

31. soooo much better ...

I agree ...

plus it's hard to pack all of my nest when I fly the coop ...

I forgot one little pillow in Boston this summer ...

[LaraMN]

33. How about sleeping in the baby's room for four years.

:-(

[WCGreen]

35. I feel so bad for you....

I don;t know what it is like to add children to the mix....

But that touch is so important.....

I wish I could crawl through the net and give you a big hug.....

[LaraMN]

40. Thanks-- it's pretty much a medical issue, here.

My husband has severe sleep apnea and snores SO bad-- I mean SOO bad, that I can't even sleep in the same room as him. My neighbors have heard him from across the street during the summer. Of course, he won't make any effort at this point to do anything about it, so I get to sleep on a crappy, saggy bed in my little guy's room.x(

[WCGreen]

42. I'm sorry LaraMN, but that sounds like more than a medical problem..

[I Have A Dream]

54. If you have to sleep there, it sounds as though you need...

to make your sleep experience better. Can you replace the bad bed with one that will make you feel not quite so put upon? You deserve to get a good night's sleep, and it sounds as though it might be a permanent situation.

[Graf Orlok]

38. I have no one to share my bed with.

:(

[WCGreen]

39. Sometimes that is better.......

[caty]

43. A good relationship

is based on the "golden rule". Treat you partner the way you would like to be treated. If you want a hug, give a hug---you'll get hugged back. After you get in bed, slid on over there and give her a hug and a big kiss. See what progresses from there. Tell her you miss "spooning" and see if she misses it too. She might feel the same way you do, but can't express it.

[WCGreen]

44. Tried that....

But it just reverts back when life interferes....

I don't know, I shouldn't complain....

We both have medical issues....

[hickman1937]

45. Been there.

After the divorce I couldn't believe how safe and comfy the bed became.

[WCGreen]

46. Believe me, many a night I thought about that....

[hickman1937]

48. Not advocating, just my experience.

For me lonely is being with someone who says that they love you but doesn't know or like you and pretends to know you and like you. Alone is much more peaceful. I'm not saying I'll be this way forever, but I've found out I'm damn good company for myself.

[khashka]

47. I thought this might be appropriate

(Yes, Khash should kwit posting lyriks, but it seemed right....)


I want you to remember
A love so full it could send us all ways
I want you to surrender
All my feelings rose today
And I want you to remain
The power of children can amaze
I'll try not to complain
I know that's a pisser baby

The chemicals between us
The walls that lie between us
Lying in this bed
The chemicals displaced
There is no lonlier state
Than lying in this bed

I want you to remember
Everything you said
Every driven word
Like a hammer, hell, to my head

The chemicals between us
The walls that lie between us
Then lying in this bed
The chemicals displaced
There is no lonlier state
Than lying in this bed

The chemicals between us
The chemicals between us
Lying in this bed

We're of the hollow men
We are the naked ones
We never meant you harm
Never meant you wrong
I'd like to thank
All of my lovers, lovers, lovers

The chemicals between us
The army of achievers
Lying in this bed
The chemicals displaced
There is no lonlier state
Than lying in this bed

The chemicals between us
The chemicals between us
The chemicals

The chemicals between us


Khash.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

52. Khash......those lyrics are so beautiful.....

Who wrote them? Is it a song as well? It looks like it is.......

Thank you for posting them........:hug:

[khashka]

55. It's "The Chemicals Between Us" by Bush

If you really think about it, it can bring tears to your eyes. Let's face it, we've all been there.

I just thought it was another way of saying what Chris was saying....

Khash.

[Qibing Zero]

59. You know I liked that song a lot,

as well as a few others off that album, especially Letting the Cables Sleep. What happened to Bush though? I think they kind of started losing it after bush* started ruining their good name, actually, and I didn't much like Golden State.


Edit: How could I forget The Disease of Dancing Cats?

[bamacrat]

49. Whats lonely is when the love of your life is mad...

at you and doesnt want to talk. so you have to wait until she is ready. that sucks so bad.

[WCGreen]

51. Out of control........ That is what makes you out of control.....

[Blue-Jay]

50. Lonely is...an expired perscription and some Eagles lyrics.

[RagingInMiami]

56. It's probably better than sleeping with somone you despise

In a twin bed.

[WCGreen]

57. You got me there......

That would be unbearable...

[auntAgonist]

58. been there done that .. and ..

and living in a house full of people and still feeling alone has got to be the worst feeling of loneliness there is.

[WCGreen]

60. Sure is......

But I think we have all gone through it now and then....

[auntAgonist]

61. yes I believe so ..

it's not that way now. I'm forever thankful.

[titoresque]

62. me too

what I fear the most is that someday my daughter might
feel this same pain.

You make choices for the kids, and try and try, and then
theres that deafening silence......that silence. And all the while
you know that they know...and I wonder what am I teaching them?
I recognize my mother in myself and I fear for my daughter.

:cry: very lonely.

[WCGreen]

63. Circumstance dictates out live's .....

And then we have to deal....

It's so painfull sometimes....

[titoresque]

64. I've read through this

entire thread and I've related to everything you've said.....thanks for sharing this. I'm really sorry you're going through this. :hug:

[WCGreen]

65. Thanks for the hugs......

They really do make me feel better......

[enigmatic]

66. You ok?

E me if you want to talk...

[WCGreen]

67. I'm fine....

I was just layig in bed last night and noticed how far away we were...

How long we have been together....

And how long we have been apart...

I think a lot of marriages go through these times....

I just noticed it and suddenly felt really lonely....

It really helped to get it out...

Thanks for the offer bro...

I do want to Email you about something but not tonight...

I'm going to bed...

[enigmatic]

68. you got it

anytime, you know that:)

[WCGreen]

69. Yes I do.....

[IChing]

70. When you sleep you ultimately dream alone

To have the 'human touch" is what makes us human

Sleep is not a king size bed
it only separates us from the cradle
that we all come from

And that is a good sleeping Bag......

no matter if it's male or female

or just something that wraps around the

loneliness, is a plague that the lounge
knows

some great souls here

but ultimately
even if we sleep with each other
we dream alone

Sweet dreams

[WCGreen]

71. Thank you for that....

It was lovely.....

[SarahB]

72. I have the opposite problem.

I have a queen size bed and if my kids aren't at their dad's and my boyfriend's over (yes, I know, bad mommy :eyes:), my 4 year old still wants to come in during the night to lay next to mommy, so (my saintly) boyfriend keeps getting pushed further and further off the bed by me.

p.s. Watch out! I'm a blanket thief in the Winter too. :P