Dear everyone...please don't hate me

[hobo_baggins]

thank you!

[Deja Q]

1. Well, I'm confused...

If I read ya rightly, I took your comment innocently.

OTOH, as one with Asperger's Syndrome, inferring language (verbal or nonverbal) has always been difficult.

Someone saw your post differently and made a silent comment... (it was not I who had.)

Then I saw the result.

And became confused.

[hobo_baggins]

2. i don't pretend to be politically correct...

but i also don't think any joke i off limits, regardless of who finds it funny or not.

[Deja Q]

5. I am compelled to concur.

I'm not keen on political correctness, though I (and I too make oversights) usually ensure I'm letting the recipient know I'm making a joke...

But I know I've made mistakes too.

Still, no hard feelings.

[jpgray]

6. Telling dead baby jokes to someone who just had a miscarriage

That's one example. There are many others. Context, intent and likely interpretation are all important. I wouldn't walk around Tel Aviv with a Swastika t-shirt and say "What the fuck, dude? I'm a Jainist." for example.

[Deja Q]

7. EEK!

Still, I was tasteless once too - and immediately apologized for not looking at the thread whose title I had quickly copycatted.

[hobo_baggins]

8. well i didn't see anything about a miscarriage

if i had seen that, i might not have made the joke...and it wasn't a dead baby joke, it was a dead pregnant woman joke

[jpgray]

10. That wasn't a reference to you specifically

Just an example.

[XemaSab]

3. The

:sarcasm: smilie is your friend.

Learn to use it.

[hobo_baggins]

4. good advice...maybe people dont' pick up on my suble use of it

VERY subtle in some cases i suppose...

[KitchenWitch]

9. I do not hate you.

[hfojvt]

11. RU

beautiful or something?

[Redstone]

12. The fuck you talking about?

If you don't mind me asking.

Redstone

[bettyellen]

13. he jokes alot about violence, usually against women...

and that's the whole joke.

i.e.: i felt like punching her.
or
stuff her in a cooler and throw it in the ocean


when somebody says 'say what?' he then explains it's a joke. kinda like a poor man's andrew dice clay.
real funny shit like that is what makes him so popular with the girls.

[Redstone]

15. That's NOT fucking funny. As you probably know, one of the things I

hate the worst is men hitting women (followed closely by adults hitting kids).

Note to OP: It isn't fucking funny. You want to joke about hitting women, just make sure you don't do it anywhere around me at a DU gathering, or things could get ugly.

Are we clear on that?

Redstone

[bettyellen]

19. well, hobo insists it is, even if he's surrounded by people who don't

if it was something more complicated or clever or somehow actually funny, i'm sure i might forgive the violence.
but it is what it is. which is to say, stupid and said only for shock value. very fifth grade, IMHO.

[GirlinContempt]

28. I'm not clear on the meaning of 'could get ugly'

[hobo_baggins]

18. i joke about everything, not just violence

and if i do joke about violence...im an equal opportunity jokester...men deserve to get beat up just as much as women.

[bettyellen]

20. just trying to help you be less hated.....

since you are pretending to give a shit, i thought i;'d pretend to help.

[Susang]

25. Pretending

Such an appropriate word for this subject, don't you think?

[Redstone]

21. That's not funny, either.

"I'm an equal-opportunity jokester" is just fucking lame. And you know it.

How about being an adult, and apologizing if you need to, instead of offering a stream of justifications?

Redstone

[hobo_baggins]

22. im not justifying...

if you don't like it, thats fine. but get off your high horse about it.

[Redstone]

23. Balls. "Please don't hate me" is weaseling. It says that you KNEW

what you said was wrong, but you're trying to be cute to weasel out of it. Don't try to bullshit me, because I'm an old guy and I've heard pretty much all the bullshit.

Grow up. I have said any number of things I should not have said in these forums, and when called for saying those things, have apologized. Not tried to be cute or make excuses.

That's what people who understand responsibility do.

Just trying to give you some positive advice here.

Redstone

[Deja Q]

14. Presumably this thread

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x4824204

[bettyellen]

16. well there's also a deleted subthread....

from just a while ago.

[hobo_baggins]

17. i didn't mean it to be insulting...it just rhymed

[Floogeldy]

24. I hate you.

I only hate people who ask me not to hate them.

I hate you.

:)

[LeftyMom]

26. The best way not to be hated

is not to say things that will cause people to hate you. Show a little restraint. Think about what you say before you say it and consider the possibility that people's past may cause them to find your comments about violence toward women extremely offensive.

[LSK]

27. i didnt see what you did but..

There are ways to be funny without being insulting.

Also find ways to insult yourself. That goes a long way too.

[jmm]

29. Locked