"Male" posters turn out female, "female" male, I'm confused

[uppityperson]

Poll question: "Male" posters turn out female, "female" male, I'm confused

I forgot the message part here, sorry. I have been on DU for 1 1/2 yrs and it still amazes me that someone I had assumed to be female or male is not. It constantly reminds me to not make these assumptions, but still it happens. Just wondering how you see yourself, how people see you. Thanks.

[Shine]

1. My gender is clearly identified in my user profile.

plus, it's fairly obvious by the context of my posts.

:hi:

[Strong Atheist]

2. Same here. nt.

[uppityperson]

3. I just changed mine to indicate as I've been blasted for being male

Maybe I am just dense, reading along, responding, reading along and all of a sudden someone turns out to be opposite sex than I'd thought. Odd.

[Gormy Cuss]

23. You're female?

You know, gender undeclared is presumed to be female. I've had several DUers tell me that. They were the ones who bothered to check my profile. Some of the others assume I'm male. It's so confusing.
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[progmom]

4. I figure the "mom" part gives it away

:)

[entanglement]

13. Yeah, kinda subtle hint, isn't it

;)

[NMMNG]

42. By the way, do you have any kids?

:rofl:

[Warren DeMontague]

5. If, by "obvious", you mean it's indicated in my profile

then I guess it's obvious.

[xchrom]

6. i'm xchrom.

need i say more?

[khashka]

27. Yeah, say more

Mr. genetics are totally beyond me!

Love ya, but x chromosomes are female, y chromosomes are male.....


Wanna change your name to ychrom? Doesn't have quite the same poetry, does it?


LOL


Khash.

[xchrom]

41. i am xchrom.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

7. i am female

my user profile says so

as does my username really

and my avatar


i think its pretty obvious...i am a girl!

[Redstone]

34. Are you ever...

Redstone

[ghostsofgiants]

8. I'm male and it's obvious to anyone who checks my profile.

[Nikia]

9. I am rereading Paradoxes of Gender and find this sort of funny

I have always clearly idetified myself as female. Other people also clearly identify their gender by their profile, user name, or make references to their gender in posts. Some DUers do not do any of these things. Over the internet, it is more difficult to determine gender in real life. Why are we uncomfortable though if we cannot determine gender?

[entanglement]

14. I'm slightly uncomfortable if I don't know a poster's gender

Don't ask me for a reason because I don't know why

[Nikia]

15. According to the book it is because gender is so important

In society. She argues that it is the most important class. People treat and judge people on the basis of gender as well as folow their gender script or reject it. She argues that it is created by society though, rather than naturuaul.

[entanglement]

16. What about race, sexual orientation and economic class?

Are they a factor at all?

[Nikia]

17. To some extent

They often interact with gender in various situations. She also ties in sexual orientation to gender. The male-female dichotomy is strongest though, at least according to her. Are you uncomfortable if you do not know the race/ethnicity of the poster or whether she or he is wealthy. middle class, low wage worker or living on government assistance?

[uppityperson]

18. I find it strange that I even subconciously genderize people.

It is not just what people post, but how they do it, or their icon thingy, or their name. Even gender neutral ones. I find it odd because I try to see people as just people, and this popped up today when someone I thought was male wasn't. I don't check profiles often enough perhaps.

[BikeWriter]

10. I'm a guy. Due to my obsession for women I may be a Lesbian.

;-)

[Rowdyboy]

11. I'm pretty easy to guess,.....

But the name comes from a comment on "Designing Women" about "rowdy girls" so maybe I'm virtually transgendered.....

[beyurslf]

12. It is clear I think. Although sometimes in a drivethrough I get called

ma'am. I can never figure it out because I sound nothing like a woman. Maybe a gay man, but certainly still a man.

[LeftyMom]

19. Between my name, photos and flirting with men, I'd hope it's obvious

:shrug:

[supernova]

20. Female, BUT I had to talk that up

when I was first new here. The first year I was here, most people assumed I was male from my typing/speaking style. I wasn't aware of that until I got called "sir" and "he" one too many times.

:-)

[davsand]

21. "YOU are davsand?? I thought davsand was a guy."

Yep, I've heard it several times when meeting people from DU. I find it kind of funny, actually, since I make a point to sign all my posts as "Laura" and my profile says I'm a female...

It would seem that people see davsand as short for Dave Sand(insert final suffix here) rather than as the meld of my maiden name and married name. I was Davis for 35 years of my life and then I married Kevsand. Does THAT help any???

Oh well, whatta ya gonna do? :shrug:


Laura

[YellowRubberDuckie]

22. I'm a girl!!

What dude would have a name like Yellow Rubber Duckie?
Duckie

[Oeditpus Rex]

24. For some reason, this thread reminds me

of the time Jack's son on "Will & Grace" was explaining to a girl at his first dance why his dad could dance so well.

"I dunno. I guess it's because he's gay."

"Yeah? One of my moms is gay."

:rofl:

[nytemare]

25. I think my username and avatar lean toward maleness.

I, however, am a female. Thank you very much.

:D

[Patiod]

50. I have friends named "Mare" (Mary) so I assumed female

[khashka]

26. Oh Lord! Not again!

I'm male but sometimes get mistaken for female. Just ask Wetzillbill - he thought I was a cute girl and started flirting. Broke my heart to tell him I was male and old enough to be his Dad.


I also got into an argument with a guy. It got silly. I eventually told him "Go fuck yourself!" His response? "All you women are the same!" I didn't know whether to laugh or cry......



But I am very much.... (Khash looks inside his boxer-briefs)..... male.


Khash.

[uppityperson]

28. yes, it was you

and thanks for the reassurance. Yesterday it was a female I thought was male.

[salin]

29. for years folks mixed up my gender

I guess due to a genderless nick? Doesn't happen so much anymore...

[Laelth]

30. People don't always check the profile.

I'm male, and I say so very clearly in my profile, but The Magistrate still calls me Ma'am. :rofl:

Laelth is just a "pretty" name, I guess, and people make assumptions ...

No harm done.

-Laelth

[khashka]

31. I never check profiles

I prefer to see what people say without any preconceptions.


He calls you Ma'am? LOL. Just wait until he calls you Sir! Trust me, it is very scary....


:)


Khash.

[In_The_Wind]

32. I'll end your confusion about a DUer.

I'm the one on the left. :hi:

[Redstone]

33. Picture threads are your friend.

Redstone

[RevolutionaryActs]

35. I've had people think I was a guy before.

Not so much anymore. Unless they're new, then they might think I'm a guy. :shrug:

[El Fuego]

36. They always think I'm a guy

And it got weird. So I changed my avatar.

[El Fuego]

37. They always think I'm a guy

And it got weird. So I changed my avatar.

[RevolutionaryActs]

38. You're a chick?!

OMG! No way.


:P

[El Fuego]

40. Bwah ha ha ha!

:evilgrin:

[TroubleMan]

39. I'm not lying with my user name.

nt.

[In_The_Wind]

43. I have a question about your name.

What kind of trouble are you talking about. :)

[uppityperson]

44. it just happened again

Skidmore says she's female. Oh well, I guess it doesn't make a lot of difference since we are all people so maybe I just shouldn't fret.

[TheBaldyMan]

45. I thought Kashka was a gay man until I found out the truth today !

goes to show you never can tell.

[kwassa]

46. I thought kashka was a Jewish holiday food ...

little did I know!

[leftofthedial]

47. I'm getting the creeps now.

how do we know who *anyone* really is?

I'm beiginning to wonder about myself. Maybe I'm not the cynical, insensitive asshole you all assume me to be and I'm really a mousy little cat-loving nun.

:shrug:

[Cobalt Violet]

48. "No one cares if I'm male or female on DU, including me"

And that okay with me.

[hyphenate]

49. When I first got online back in 1989

it was an atmosphere where you really strove for ambiguity in your online identity because it was safer that way. So I've managed to retain some of that through the years. However, people who have posted with me over time know I'm female, because I will often answer with my real name, Mary, or discuss some things from a female point of view.

The only thing I really dislike as a result of this is the "enlarge your penis" spam mail, since I ain't got one. :)