Arrrgh!!! May I vent for a moment?

[SeattleGirl]

Okay, a lot of you know that my mom was recently in the hospital, though she is home now, and getting better, thank goodness.

But in addition to that, MrSG has had some respiratory/sinus stuff going on that surgery a month ago didn't seem to help a freakin' bit. He has almost no energy, so pretty much everything around the house falls on me. I know he can't help it, and I know he feels bad, but sometimes I feel pissed off about it.

His parents are coming to stay with us this weekend, so the "company's coming" cleaning is up to me. And frankly, I want to just say, "fuck it".

My work load has been quite low since mid-fall, so my income has taken a real beating, and I'm struggling in a way I haven't had to for years and years. Sometimes my eyeballs aren't even above water.

There are several other things that are getting to me too.

I'm not normally a sad-sack, poor pitiful me kind of person; I'm actually fairly upbeat most of the time.

But right now, I feel like crying or yelling or both. I'll stop venting now, but I just needed to let off some steam. :cry:

[KitchenWitch]

1. Oh SG, I am so sorry!

:hug:

[SeattleGirl]

11. *****

:hug:

[RevCheesehead]

2. With all that you've had going on...

by all means, "fuck it." :hug:

[SeattleGirl]

13. Now THAT brought a smile to my face, Rev!

Thank you! :hug:

[RevCheesehead]

21. Don't stress the small stuff, SG.

What's a little dust between inlaws? :hug:

[SeattleGirl]

25. That's true.

Actually, if I gave my MIL the reins of the house, she'd probably be a happy woman!

[RevCheesehead]

28. Sounds like a win-win to me.

Let her feel useful, if you're willing to let go. And if she does something you don't like, you can change it once she leaves.

I'm just looking for the silver lining here. :)

[Shine]

3. Well, you go on, girl. It helps to let it all out. We're here for you...

:hug:

[SeattleGirl]

14. Shine!

Thank you. :hug:

[texas1928]

4. I am sorry to hear that. I have been there before and this helped.

:P

[SeattleGirl]

15. *giggle*

That's exactly what I need! Thanks! :rofl:

[texas1928]

19. You know when you get in a funk like that...

The best thing is to laugh a little. It is never as bad as it seems. Keep your chin up.

[SeattleGirl]

24. That's usually what I try to do

and it usually works. It was just getting to me more than it usually does today.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

5. My dear SeattleGirl........

Sweetie.....how can I help? I wish I lived closer, so I could lend you a hand.....

All I can do is give you a cyber-hug......:hug: :loveya: :hug:

[SeattleGirl]

16. Cyberhugs help a lot

Thank you, my friend. :loveya: :hug: :loveya:

[Left Is Write]

6. ...

:hug:

[SeattleGirl]

17. .....

Thank you. :hug:

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

7. I feel your pain, SG

I've had a rough go of it with my mom, my car accident, a fractured spine, a hectic court schedule, legislative changes in my business, depression and the like, but I just keep reminding myself that I've survived much worse and came out better for having survived it.

Hang in there and remind yourself that you can only do what you can do.

As far as the company coming...at least you can have one more night of saying "Fuck it."

BTW..if he has respiratory stuff going on that he had surgery for and still has energy problems, maybe he needs oxygen...have his blood oxygen levels been checked lately?

[SeattleGirl]

20. My goodness, but you have your plate full!

I'm going to give YOU a hug! :hug:

Actually, his allergy doc just drew some blood today for some tests. It'll be a few days until he knows anything, but maybe the results will provide a clue as to what's going on.

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

In the meantime, Vitamin C and sublingual B will help

but probably not with the housework :evilgrin: I am taking sublingual multi-B. I get it at GNC and it makes a big difference in my energy level and stress perception.

I'll take the hug and raise you one :hug:

thanks ;)

[SeattleGirl]

32. Well, I just chugged a glass of orange juice, which helped.

I'll have to look into the multi-B stuff.

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

33. No, silly..I meant him and his energy stuff

B and C help deliver oxygen to the cells ...but you did make me chuckle :D

[SeattleGirl]

38. ......

:blush:

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

41. rut roh, Roooby

I didn't mean to embarrass you...just meant if you wanna get him off his ass to help, shoot him up with vitamins... ;)

[Crazy Guggenheim]

8. Hugs to you.

:pals:

[SeattleGirl]

22. Thank you, Crazy

:pals:

[auntAgonist]

9. SeattleGirl I'm sorry you're feeling so bad ..

Let me say though, you have a right to your feelings and letting off steam here is a good thing. If all the good vibes do for you what they've done for me you'll feel so much better than you do right now once they reach you. You're not alone, I wish I was closer and I'd give you a REAL :hug: instead of a virtual one.

hang in there, and y'know what? .. I bet your in-laws really don't care if the house is company clean!
Maybe MIL would even consider giving you a hand around the place. :shrug:


:hug:

:loveya:

take care of YOU!

aA

[SeattleGirl]

23. Thank goodness for my friends in the Lounge

:hug:

[DanCa]

10. SG

First I am sorry for your mom. My best possible white light to you and her. Anyhow hang in there. Remember it's just the weekend and it'll pass quickly. Love ya Danny.

[SeattleGirl]

27. Thank you, Dan

I know. It's the everyday household stuff, on top of working, that makes me a little crazy. I know it'll turn around....it's just hard to remember that when one is in venting mode!

:hug:

[reyd reid reed]

12. I'm so sorry all of this is happening to you...

And, y'know, if I was in your shoes, I'd be sorely tempted to say 'fuck it' and let go of the company cleaning. They're coming to visit YOU, not your house. You've got enough going on.

(I know...easier said than done. I'm guilty of 'company cleaning', too. Every damn time even when I swear I won't do it).

:hug:

It'll get better. It will.

And, if it doesn't, you can vent again.

[SeattleGirl]

29. Sometimes my "fuck it" switch gets stuck when I try to turn it off

Oh well. Thank goodness for tables with long tablecloths.....they make handy "quick storage" areas!

:loveya: :hug:

[reyd reid reed]

39. That really is a thought...

Either that or tactfully suggest that, what with your mom and Mr. SG, this really isn't the best time to visit...say that you want to enjoy their company and you're just so frazzled right now...something like that.

[SeattleGirl]

49. It's too late for that.

They're coming to town in part to attend a memorial service for a friend of theirs. And MrSG already told them they could stay. (Guess he kinda sorta forgot to check with me first. :eyes: )

[reyd reid reed]

64. Well, damn.

In that case, I definitely vote for the hotel option. And Mr. SG can explain it to them.

Nicely.

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

34. I'd go one better and get them a hotel room

[SeattleGirl]

37. I would, but the piggy bank is empty

:mad:

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

42. Oh...I meant I would *find* them a hotel room that *they* could get

:D

[Dangerously Amused]

18. Aww, SG.

Go ahead and vent, honey. It's okay - that new haircut is so hot, you'll be the sexiest venting mama the world has ever seen.


:)


Big hugs to you...

[SeattleGirl]

30. The sexiest venting mama! I like that!

Thanks, DA.

:yourock:

[Robeson]

26. I'm sorry SeattleGirl...

...you are in my thoughts. I hope things get better, soon.

[SeattleGirl]

31. I know they'll get better.

Thanks, friend. :hug:

[In_The_Wind]

35. I'm sorry you have so many things hanging over your head, SeattleGirl.

You are not a sad-sack nor a poor pitiful person at all. You just have a lot going on.
You can call or send me a PM anytime you want to vent. :loveya:

[SeattleGirl]

40. I was going to call you earlier today, but the day got away from me

I knew I should have put a leash on it! x(

Thanks Joani baby. :loveya:

[In_The_Wind]

58. I'll be packing the truck tomorrow morning for a 3 hour drive.

My cell phone works great outside of this room. If you need me - call or send a text message.

I should be checking in by early afternoon. Then I'll be out for the evening, I'm having supper with swimboy and his SO tomorrow night.

Same deal on Friday.

:loveya:

I'm going to bed. I'll be on-line tomorrow morning and afternoon.

[Wapsie B]

36. SG I am so sorry!

I wish I could help in some way. Just know that you will get through this. I've become well acquainted with the motto,"Whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger." You're a wonderful person SG and I feel lucky as hell to be able to call you a friend of mine.

:hug:

[SeattleGirl]

43. Thanks bwa

I just hope I don't end up looking like Ahnold in his prime. :rofl:

:hug:

[Wapsie B]

47. You? Not a chance.

Unless you shoved yourself full of 'roids I'd say there's no chance. Besides beautiful women like you only get better. :)
Hang in there. You mean an awful lot to a lot of people here, myself included.

:hug:

[Whoa_Nelly]

44. I like your attitude!

Fuck It! Yeah! Sometimes it's the right thing to do! :loveya:

And a kinder, gentler way to say it:
A path is only a path, and there is no affront, to oneself or to others, in dropping it if that is what your heart tells you.~~ Carlos Castaneda

So, go for it! Yeah! You rock, SG!
:hug:

[SeattleGirl]

48. I like that Castaneda quote!

It's a keeper.

Thanks Nelly! :loveya:

[WCGreen]

45. Punch something.....

[SeattleGirl]

You offering?

Oh, my bad. You said someTHING, not someONE! :P

I need one of those weeble-wobble things to punch the hell out of!

[WCGreen]

52. If it would make you feel better.....

I'd take one for ya......

[SeattleGirl]

54. How nice of you!

But I think I'll stick to hitting THINGS, if ever I feel the need to! I'd rather keep you on my good side.

[WCGreen]

55. Would that be the side facing me.....

Or facing away from me....

Either way....

[Oeditpus Rex]

46. My advice

Meantime, I'm lightin' one o' these for ya.





:hug: :loveya:

[SeattleGirl]

51. Um, thank you, I think.....

:rofl:

[BlueIris]

50. I'd go ahead and say, "fuck it." What are you--a maid service?

Your husband's inability to improve his own health so that he can pull his share of the weight around the home you both share may not be his fault--but it isn't yours either. You have a job and a life and being the breadwinner as well as everything else means you're allowed to let certain things slide. The in-laws can cope. I wouldn't feel bad about it, either. Your company is placing the stress on you by imposing themselves as guests during this stressful time. They can suck it up and deal if the home they're crashing if for a while isn't spic-'n-span because the lady who runs it is managing multiple crises at the moment.

ETA: You can be on my meditation list for money and prosperity.

[SeattleGirl]

53. Hmmm. I must be. It would certainly explain my outfit.

You're right. Not my fault either. I have this bad habit of getting in the mind set that I have to do it all, which of course, isn't true. I think I'm going to borrow some of your attitude -- I like it!

[Heidi]

56. Loving energy

coming your way, gf. :hug: :loveya: After I've had about one more cup of coffee, you ought to feel a real _surge_. ;)

[SeattleGirl]

57. Thanks, gf

Can't wait for that surge of that loving energy! :loveya:

[MadAsHellNewYorker]

59. oh SeattleGirl

:hug:

you can always vent :hug:

much love

[SeattleGirl]

60. Thank you, MAHNY

I do feel better now, thanks to all my friends in the Lounge. :loveya:

[MadAsHellNewYorker]

61. isn't the lounge incredible like that?

:loveya:

[SeattleGirl]

63. It sure is!

:loveya:

[Random_Australian]

62. Somebody needs a hug!

:hug:

Do the revelant doctors think the SO situation will be getting better?

BTW, it's healthy to blow off steam once per while.

Have another hug.... :hug:

[SeattleGirl]

65. Thanks, RA

The docs aren't sure, but the allergist drew blood today, and will be doing some tests, as he thinks there is something more going on more than just sinus stuff.

Thanks for the hugs. :hug:

[NMMNG]

66. Dear SeattleGirl

:hug: :grouphug:

[SeattleGirl]

67. Thank you, sweetie

:hug: :loveya:

[MissHoneychurch]

68. Anything I can do

beside giving you a hug??


:hug: :pals: :hug: :pals:

[SeattleGirl]

69. Hugs are most welcome, MissHoneychurch

Right now, those are the best things I can receive from my friends. Thank you, love. :loveya: :loveya:

[Starbucks Anarchist]

70. For you:

:hug:

And also:

[mikeytherat]

71. Take a deep breath, then be like Tate and find a happy place

mikey_the_rat

[AirmensMom]

72. One thing I've noticed about company coming ...

No matter how spotless your house is, it's a mess and full of clutter the second they arrive. Then you get to clean up the whole thing after they leave. Unless you have two-week-old dinner dishes sitting in the sink and dirty underwear strewn across the floor, I vote for "fuck it".

Vent all you want. I hope it gets better for you. :hug: :grouphug:

[riona]

73. if anyone deserves to cry, yell and vent, it's you

maybe a best friend could pitch in? try to get enough sleep no matter what.