Sometimes I want a life partner, sometimes I don't

[Digit]

I've been married twice, once to my best friend (seduced by a woman whose family had a boatload of money) and another time to a monster (a Republican).

While my own experiences were not so nice, I am reminded of my mother's boyfriend whom she met when she was 64. He was attentive and loving to her, and they doted on each other. This lasted until he got cancer and succumbed to it in 1989. I never saw such a loving relationship even between my mother and father.

I am now 54 and my daughter is graduating from college. I don't NEED a man, but wonder what it would be like to share my life with someone and have a few laughs along the way.

Are there others out there who have found the love of their life, later in life?

[IChing]

1. You are blessed

with your children

as m I
love, is a consciousness is not sexuality
though it can be


Sex is good
the denial of that part of your consciousness
is not healthy

Just as anyone's would be
being young or old


I don"t need is something that limits you
for you qualified and define it.

"I don't NEED a man, but'-------

i need the energies that women give me to make my life balanced





And I don't have one.

[Orsino]

2. I don't think that there's anything wrong with "needing"...

...a partner of the opposite sex. Evolution has hard-wired this need, deep-down. I think it likely that every adult feels it, whichever sex floats his/her boat the highest, so to speak.

Sure, it's possible to live a fulfilling life without such a partner, but I think it's healthy to acknowledge that, right now, certain of your needs aren't being met.

Later in life, I also believe that we might be very selective. As our lifestyles become more established by habit, the partners who might magically "fit" could be harder to find.

I particularly liked the way you put this:

...but wonder what it would be like to share my life with someone and have a few laughs along the way...

I like the implicit recognition that, although you've been married twice before, a new partner would of course mean an entirely new relationship, so new that you must wonder just how it would be. Rather than looking to recapture any particular feelings, you are looking forward.

By a weird fluke, I stumbled upon love just a year after a painful divorce. In what you've just posted, I recognize some of the best of my own feelings at the time. Best wishes for you in the future exploration of yourself--and a lucky someone else, if that be your will.

[Droopy]

3. I am 33

and I have only had one steady girl in my life- never married. There are times when I wish I had a partner, but most of the time I feel okay being alone. I'm weird, though. I think most folks need a companion.