It's just not getting any better.

[Robb]

My number-one husky dog died this week, and I'm just not feeling any better.
I'm so sad. His sister misses him. It happened so fast, 12 hours from frisky to gone.
Dinner time sucks. There's stuff everywhere that reminds me of him. I lost my best friend, and I'm not seeing any light at the end of this miserable tunnel. :(
I find myself breaking into tears three, four times a day. It sucks.

[wildhorses]

1. Oh, Robb I am SO sorry to hear this....

:gentlehug:

[auntAgonist]

2. Robb, I am so sorry you're hurting ...

Anyone who says our pets, (furkids) are JUST animals don't have a clue about what it's like to be loved by these wonderful creatures.

:hug: Robb. :hug: Tears cleanse the soul so I'm told.


take care of yourself!

aA

[MissMillie]

3. Robb, I'm sure he misses you too

I'm so sorry you're hurting.

[Shine]

4. This is what deep grief looks like, my friend.

My advice: Just let yourself move through this difficult time and feel whatever feelings come up. Trust that this will pass, in time. You have suffered a huge loss, so be gentle with yourself. It will get easier....

For what it's worth, I've been there. Our 19 yr old beloved cat died in my arms and it was heartbreaking. I was truly amazed at the depth of grief I felt...and how long it lasted, too. I felt out of sorts for weeks, if not months.

:hug: My best to you, Robb. :hug:

[Flaxbee]

5. Shine said it well. I'm so sorry you lost your baby, Robb.

You will always miss him, but it won't hurt so much in time.

[leftofthedial]

6. I'm so sorry Robb

:cry: :hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

7. My dear Robb......

As Shine said, it will take a lot of time......

When our Dalmation died, I cried off and on for months......

Here's a little poem that I hope will help you:


"I explained to St. Peter,

I'd rather stay here,

Outside the pearly gate.

I won't be a nuisance,

I won't even bark,

I'll be very patient and wait.

I'll be here, chewing on a celestial bone,

No matter how long you may be.

I'd miss you so much, if I went in alone,

It wouldn't be heaven for me."

-----Anonymous

:hug:

[redwitch]

8. Grief takes it's own time.

You just lost a beloved family member and it is devastating. It will ease though, really. :hug: I am so sorry for your loss. I think you are wonderful to have loved your friend so much. Having a good life with loving friends, surrounded by abundance, a dog couldn't ask for more. I believe you will see him again.

[Sugar Smack]

9. Robb, I know. I'd had my little mutt Sasha for 14 years.

Dad called her his little princess. She was pure blue-black, had floppy, sweet ears and the biggest eyes I'd ever seen. She weighed 20 lbs her entire life.

Dogs are family. They love us with the purest love we've ever known. My family had to nurse our respective breakdowns over this little individual when we had to put her down. 10 years later, I still think about her. Dad will not get another dog. He's a one dog man.

:hug:

[LynzM]

10. Robb, I'm so sorry to hear that

It's impossible to lose your best friend and not think of him all the time. Grief is really hard. :hug: Love and hugs and eventual peace to you, dude. :hug:

[TK421]

11. I'm really sorry to hear that, it's a terrible thing to lose a pet...

I still miss my dog ( and she died when I was eleven ). Hope things improve...

[Dangerously Amused]

12. Keep crying, sweetie.

Cry it out. All of it. Listen to music that reflects how you feel, and keep plenty of his pictures nearby. There is no shame in expressing your feelings, which honor his memory.


One thing that helped me cope with losing my beloved kittie was to write down every sweet thing I could remember about her (Sam's tiny feet, slight frame and long tail that she always held like a question mark, her funny walk, her tiny meow and the way she always had to have one paw touching me...), all the cute things she did, her likes and dislikes, her favorite toys, and every special time that we had. I kept adding to it over the days as I would remember more. Reading and re-reading it brought her closer to me in memory and somehow brought comfort I couldn't find any other way. It's been nearly a year now, and I still read it when I miss her. And it still helps. Maybe it would help you, too. Just a thought.


Best to you. :hug:

[miss_american_pie]

13. I still cry over a dog

who's been gone 20 years.

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[RevCheesehead]

14. Please believe me when I say

there's nothing wrong with crying. Tears are just another expression of love. :hug:

[wain]

15. I'm sorry to hear of you losing your husky.

Sounds like his sister hurts too. Will you get another husky? This may help both of you, but particularly the sister.

I do not mean to sound like dogs are a commodity. My neighbor had a similar sudden lose and you could hear the female crying at night. He got another dog which, in time, did restore the spirit of the female.

:hug:

[hatredisnotavalue]

16. I am so sorry.

Someone sent me this poem after we lost our dear devoted Buffett on April 20, 2004. It helped me through the grief process. I truly hope that it helps you. And again, I am very, very sorry..

Last Night

I stood by your bed last night, I came to have a peek.
I could see that you were crying, You found it hard to sleep.
I whined to you softly as you brushed away a tear,
"It's me, I haven't left you, I'm well, I'm fine, I'm here."
I was close to you at breakfast, I watched you pour the tea,
You were thinking of the many times, your hands reached down to me.
I was with you at the shops today, Your arms were getting sore.
I longed to take your parcels, I wish I could do more.
I was with you at my grave today, You tend it with such care.
I want to re-assure you, that I'm not lying there.
I walked with you towards the house, as you fumbled for your key.
I gently put my paw on you, I smiled and said " it's me."
You looked so very tired, and sank into a chair.
I tried so hard to let you know, that I was standing there.
It's possible for me, to be so near you everyday.
To say to you with certainty, "I never went away."
You sat there very quietly, then smiled, I think you knew...
in the stillness of that evening, I was very close to you.
The day is over... I smile and watch you yawning
and say "good-night, God bless, I'll see you in the morning."
And when the time is right for you to cross the brief divide,
I'll rush across to greet you and we'll stand, side by side.
I have so many things to show you, there is so much for you to see.
Be patient, live your journey out...then come home to be with me.
- Author unknown

[bigwillq]

17. That's so sad.

:( :cry:

I am very sorry for your loss.
I saw the pic the other day and that dog was beautiful.

It's going to take some time to get over a loss like this.
There's no shame in crying about it. It's sad.

Stay strong dude. It will get better. :hug:

[Left Is Write]

18. Robb, I'm so sorry.

I'm sorry you are hurting. :hug:

[LaurenG]

19. Bless your heart

We understand your grief and I am so sorry for your loss. :hug:

[undeterred]

20. Oh, I am so sorry

Tell us all about him, Robb.

:hug:

[Robb]

23. Well, you asked

He was the first dog I ever had. Huskies are in the family, so to speak... my aunt in Alaska is something of a Siberian nut, so once I decided, eight years ago now, to get a dog there was never any question what kind it would be. :)

So she started asking around to foundation kennels, and next thing I know this woman is calling me to interview me! After she decided I had it together enough to have one of her dogs, she told me she knew just the one, and would be giving him to me if I paid the freight.

"He's going to be very eager to please you," she said. That stuck with me ever since.

I drove six hours to the nearest airport big enough for the kid to have a nonstop flight. Drove back with him, in love for sure.

Peas and carrots, we were. I was 12 again. We'd run around the yard, I'd let him tackle me to the ground. Amazing agility. I hooked him up to pull sleds that first winter, he had never been with a team but instantly got along with the other dogs and pulled. Like he'd been doing it all his life. By the next winter he could just about get himself into his own harness.

I named him Bodhi, short for bodhisattiva, because he was indeed leading me down the path to enlightenment. Pulling me down it, full tilt.

It seemed after a few weeks while I was a ton of fun, I was no dog. I called the woman in Alaska, who acted like she was expecting my call and had another dog in mind, his sister. Krisha joined us about a month later.

For years he would be there. Eternally ready to play, he learned a trick where he'd sneak up behind me while I was sitting in the rocking chair, and jump up and put his paws on the back and send me over. Then he'd do a little spin and go down in that play pose, wagging his tail like a snake.

He loved pulling the sled. He would pull until his paws bled if I let him. Never let his line go slack, always working. Always excited when it was time to go out.

He was such a chick magnet, he and his sister. :) Walking them around town took forever, because everyone would stop us. He might've thought his name was "the most beautiful dog I've ever seen."

Bodhi would always find his way up onto the bed with me at bedtime. He'd get kicked off after a few rubs, but by morning he was always there, and my legs were usually asleep.

He was there for me when I was sad, he just knew. The empathy out of that dog was like nothing I'd ever come across. He just loved being with me, and in the end, when I knew he couldn't see me, all I could think to do was make sure my hand was in front of his nose so he could know by my smell I was there.

I miss him. I'm crying now.

Thanks, buddy.

Bodhi's little red butt on the right:


Krishna, some dingbat, and Bodhi:

[WindRavenX]

21. damn man

:hug:

I'm sorry you're going thru this. It truly sucks to lose a friend :(

[khashka]

22. Oh Robb!

I would say "Robb is a dingbat" if it would make you smile. Probably inappropiate.

You are grieving. And it will take time and it will hurt. But it will get better eventually.

Meanwhile cry as often as you need to

:hug:


Khash