How much can one person take?

[Shell Beau]

Seriously, sometimes I wonder how much we as humans can take. A friend of mine recently lost her mother to colon cancer, then her high school sweetheart of 8 years (who she was no longer with) got electrocuted and died a few weeks ago, then last week her kid brother was in a horrible car accident where he is now in ICU and given only a 5-10% chance to live. And if he does survive, he can possibly be a vegetable. All of this within 3 months!! And to top that off, her dog (like a child to her) that she had for 11 years died! Sometimes life REALLY sucks!

But it got me to wondering, how much can a human withstand of stuff life this. YOu can lose hope, your faith, etc. Sucks, huh?

[Dangerously Amused]

1. Oh god.

So sorry to hear about your friend! Best wishes and healing energy to her... poor thing has a lot of grieving to do.

[Shell Beau]

2. Yeah, thanks! She has had a rough year thus far!

[seemunkee]

3. I have wondered about that on occasion

and decided that I didn't like the alternative.
I'm very sorry for your friend, she sounds like she needs the support of a good friend like you.

[Shell Beau]

4. I hope she doesn't "break". She is sort of holding it all in, but

hopefully things will start looking up soon.

[seemunkee]

16. That's what I did

When I was 16 I lost my father from a prolonged illness that left him in a coma for several weeks, three weeks later my grandfather(his father) died, 2 weeks later a friend of mine was killed while bicycling. I just kind of shut down, broke up with my girlfriend and spent as much time as possible climbing alone. It affected me for a long time and in some ways still does today.

I hope your friend is taking care of herself, she probably doesn't see it as a very high priority though.

[Wapsie B]

5. That's a lot to deal with in a short period of time.

I don't know how she can do it. But then I've known people to tough it out alone and keep everything inside. That can eat you alive. I hope she has some counselor/therapist/social worker to talk to.

[Shell Beau]

6. I know. She is kind of keeping in all inside. That is not the

way to do it, and I know that from experience. It will come back to bite you in the ass.

[Wapsie B]

7. I know that from experience too.

You've gotta talk to someone and sort things out. And do whatever it is you need to in order to recover and move on.

[Shell Beau]

9. Absolutely! I just hope no more bad news comes her way!

I think I would break down. I would be unable to function, but then again, as humans, when in situations like this, we can get control of ourselves somehow. :shrug:

[miss_american_pie]

8. Oh that's terrible

I hope her brother surprises all those docs.

[Shell Beau]

10. Me too! Poor thing is only 21. He had massive head trauma.

Crushed his skull, and had massive swelling and blood clots in the brain. When they performed surgery, they found it was worse than suspected. He is meeting with all of the family today. I guess to discuss the options.

[arwalden]

11. What A Horrible Story! That's Unbelievable!!

:cry: :cry: :cry:
:cry: :cry: :cry:

[Shell Beau]

14. Life can be cruel. Sucks!

[Misunderestimator]

12. When I was 16, my mother...

who was in a wheelchair (she had MS), spilled boiling stew from a crockpot into her lap (she wasn't supposed to be cooking and thought she would surprise us, but she didn't have the strength to lift the pot from out of the crockpot liner). No one was in the house at the time, and by the time my brother heard her screaming and ran inside, she had collapsed onto the stew in her lap and ended up with 3rd degree burns over the entire front of her body. After three months in a burn unit at the hospital getting skin grafts and six months in a nursing home where she got horrific bed-sores, it became clear to me that humans can endure a HELL of a lot. No one thought she would survive, but she lived another 12 years, and she never lost her faith in god (though I did). I miss her.

[Shell Beau]

13. Oh! That sounds terrible! I have always believed that I really

can't underestimate what we can do. When my brother died, I was surprised by how I handled it. We somehow manage to pull through. I hope my friend does the same.

[Misunderestimator]

15. I hope she does too. We humans are resilient creatures.