The wait is KILLING me

[Bassic]

My fiancée is just about due to give birth, and could go into labout pretty much anytime, but the wait is killing me.

Stubborn kid doesn' want to come out or what?

Argh!

:freak:

[miss_american_pie]

1. You think the wait is killing you?

:rofl:

Has she tried all the old wives' tales yet?

[Bassic]

3. Héhéhé, no not yet

:D

[miss_american_pie]

12. They didn't help me anyway

And I tried them all.

My first was induced 8 days late. Good luck to you both.

[Bassic]

22. Thanks.

We'll need to keep from getting too impatient :D

[miss_american_pie]

27. Good luck with that

I was a week late with the first. The doc said "We can wait another week or we can induce tomorrow."
By that point, I would have bribed him for that induction.

My first was big so they induced the second early. But by that time I had learned patience. ;)

[SammyWinstonJack]

68. LOL!

[radwriter0555]

2. LOL How you do you think SHE feels?

Damn.

Well, here's a comforting thought. This is the last time any of this will be about YOU.

:D

Congratulations, good luck, have a great time, use a firm hand to burp the baby after every feeding and WAIT for the burp, it WILL happen!

Labor and delivery is a gas! Enjoy it!

[LeftyMom]

4. "I promise, they all come out eventually" -my midwife, when I was only

2 weeks past term. My son was born two weeks later, at 44 weeks gestation.

[Bassic]

5. The doctor said if she passes her date, he'll induce labour

because if he doesen't the baby's gonna be too big. (already about 8 pounds)

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[Bassic]

8. To be fair, she _wants_ to be induced after her date

I've known many women who were induced, and aside from stronger contractions, they were fine, so I'm hoping it will be the same.

[Arugula Latte]

13. There is an intermediate procedure called "stripping the membranes."

With my second late baby, my midwife, well, basically poked around to get things rolling. A little painful, but not too bad. It started contractions and I gave birth less than 24 hours later.

[Bassic]

20. Yeah, that's how the hospital we're going to

works as well. If that doesn't work, they induce.

[Shine]

14. I agree with Lefty Mom on this one, regarding avoiding inductions.

:thumbsup:

[Bassic]

25. Duly noted.

I'll have a talk with the doctor if the subject arises.

[fleabert]

26. same here!

but if she does go the induction route, she should be prepared for a much harder, more intense labor much earlier than if she goes naturally. Induction is a rough time. and stay away from Cytotec, Google it if that's the Dr's preferred method of induction.

(early congrats too, and wishes for a safe, healthy, and happy labor and birth!)

[sasquatch]

19. Dude I was at 12 lbs when I was born

But my mom was 12 months pregnant with me though.

[Bassic]

21. 12 months?

What the hell happened?

[sasquatch]

24. It was so nice in there I didn't want to leave

:silly:
In all out seriousness I don't know.

[fleabert]

29. My fried went to 41 weeks with twins!

Had them at home, btw, planned! -but I think i have told you that story already :-)

[Bassic]

31. I do think that you did.

Twins look like a lot of work though, I'm happy my first is alone :D

[Arugula Latte]

36. Do you know how big the babies were?

:scared:

[fleabert]

62. 8 lbs each!

it was an amazing birth, i was there.

[Arugula Latte]

64. ...

:wow:

[fleabert]

63. I meant to say friend, lol. she was fried after it all though! nt

[XNASA]

7. Her first?

The first one is always late.

[Bassic]

9. Yeah, but since he's my kid,

I would have thought he'd be more impatient :D

[XNASA]

10. The first of many disappointments.

It don't get any easier. ;)

[tigereye]

49. mine

was born on the due date. I guess that's pretty uncommon. It was on my planner and by God that's when he arrived.
;)(I was scaring people since I was at work about 5 days earlier)

I was scheduled to be induced the following week, but fortunately he came as planned. Well, they did have to go in after him with the big forceps, since he didn't want to come out. Better to avoid induction, I've heard some unpleasant stories.

[Arugula Latte]

11. My kids were eight days late and ten days late, respectively.

I thought my second would come earlier, but Nooooooooo. She was stubborn even in utero.

I was actually kind of happy my son was late because it made his birthday farther from the major holidays.

Also, better late than early! I've known some scary preemie situations -- wow, that is stressful.

[underpants]

15. Why aren't you sleeping?

:shrug:

[Bassic]

17. Cause I got to work.

:(

[underpants]

33. Oh

Wants some tips?

Okay first off even if you aren't squeamish when the bloody flow starts you might want to do yourself a favor and STARE AT IT. Embrace it because it ain't gonna get any prettier.

My wife eventually had a C-section (8 months ago) but trust me it was pretty nasty aside from the beauty of it.

Be ready to go get her stuff to eat. I highly recommend breakfast foods.

Good luck.

[Bassic]

35. I've been getting her stuff to eat for nin months

I think I've got that part down :D

[Shine]

16. My first was 6 days late and my second was 11 days late.

Kid #1 >> 8lbs. 14oz.

Kid #2 >> 9lbs. 6oz.


:wow: You don't forget THAT in a hurry! :D

Don't worry the baby will come when the time is right. Good luck and all the best to you both. :hug:

[Bassic]

18. Thank you

:)

[fleabert]

23. have sex!

prostoglandins from semen can help ripen the cervix, and female orgasm is similar to contractions- can help bring on labor. Of course, you should check with your health care provider first- if there are any reasons she cannot have sex then you shouldn't. (one could be that her water has already broken but is not yet in labor)

[Bassic]

28. Yeah, we know that, don't worry

:D

[fleabert]

30. what are you doing on the computer then?

:evilgrin:
get busy!

[Bassic]

34. Well I still need to work

:)

[fleabert]

37. take a half day...

seriously- the surprise of it all, the fun and excitement, could be just what she needs! Think about it, it may be the last time you two are really alone for a LONG time! Take advantage and give her some attention ;-) Rest afterwards, and then take a walk- walking also helps move things along in the early stages of labor- you could be parents tomorrow, spend some quality time together! :hug: have fun, this is one of the most common human events, but it is unique and special for you two- revel in it!

[Bassic]

39. Well in that case, I hope she waits until Friday

I'm working with a deadline that I have to meet before I go off for two weeks (starting with labour). I've calculated that I'll be done Friday morning. (if labour comes before that, to hell with the deadline :D)

[fleabert]

42. Have a great time this week-

remember always that these are the last days you will share as just a couple. After she gives birth, you both get new names (mom and dad) new responsibilities, new schedules, new priorities, new everything- Enjoy each other as a couple, it's a really special time. Shower her with affection and appreciation for all the hard work she has put into this pregnancy and let her know that she is the sexiest, most gorgeous woman on the planet TODAY, pregnant as all get out.

your whole life is about to change! whoa. :-) Have fun with it, celebrate!

[Arugula Latte]

32. It's probably the last thing his wife will want to do at that point, but

hey, it often works!

[fleabert]

38. Of the eight women I have served as a doula, all of them were happy

as hell to have an orgasm in the last stages. They were horny! it can be uncomfortable at first, but all of them said once the ball was rolling, it was the best of their lives. Lots of crazy hormones rolling around in there and very intense.

and yes- it does work! (sometimes it doesn't, but sometimes it does, and what do you have to lose?)

[Bassic]

40. I plan on trying very hard, to be sure

:D

[Shine]

41. Testify!!

:D

[CornField]

43. You've figured out one of the secrets of parenthood already

Never -- and I mean never -- expect anything to go easy or as planned from now on. :D

The waiting is horrible, but you can do a few things to make the time pass. Why not go home tonight and make her a nice bath, wash her hair for her, dry her off with towels and just spend the night enjoying one another (with or without sex). Although it doesn't seem like it now, you are really going to miss the one-on-one time during the next 6-9 months -- get in all you can now.

As for the rest, induction isn't good, but it also isn't the end of the world. (Had two of mine induced for medical reasons.) Sometimes it's difficult to see the forest for the trees. That is, at the end of the day, the only thing you really want is a healthy mom and baby. Whatever it takes to get to that point -- even if it isn't a part of what you've dreamed about or what you've put in your birth plan -- is well worth it.

All my best to you and your family. It shouldn't be much longer. :hug:

[Bassic]

44. Thanks a lot

It's fun to read all the encouragements. I've never been this excited about anything :)

[CornField]

45. I know

Here's my now six year old -- maybe 4 minutes old:


Here's my almost four year old -- 1 hour old:


Here they are now:


I knew I loved them before they were born and that first time I saw their faces... well, there is absolutely nothing to describe the emotion.

[Bassic]

46. They are simply beautiful.

There are no other words, your kids are simply gorgeous.

[CornField]

47. Can't wait to return the compliment.

Don't you forget to post a photo of lil Bassic.

[Bassic]

48. As soon as we get back home, I'll introduce

him to the Lounge :)

[tigereye]

50. 10 years ago today

that was me waiting!

Best to you both. And UP is right, get some sleep.

[Bassic]

51. I've been doing a lot of that.

I hope it will be enough :)

[tigereye]

52. sometimes they get day and night mixed, understandably

just be patient with yourself and sleep when the baby does!

I used to call my family by Chaucerian names: I was the tit, my husband was the Porter, and my mom was the Laundress. ;)

[Bassic]

53. Mouahahaha

that's hilarious :) :rofl:

[BlueIris]

54. Good luck, Bassic!

:-)

[Bassic]

55. Thanks a bunch

:hi:

[BlueIris]

61. I will fire up a Protection/Healing candle for you later tonight,

in the hope that all goes well.

[Bassic]

70. Well, thank you, I feel honoured.

:)

[LaraMN]

56. How exciting! You lucky ducks!

My children's births are the most fantastic memories I have. When I can't sleep, I relive them in my mind. You have such a wonderful experience to look forward to! Good luck.

[Bassic]

58. Thanks a lot

I'm really excited.

[XemaSab]

57. Looking forward to the flavor of placenta that much, are ya?

:9

[Bassic]

59. You laugh, but this hospital has a policy

of asking you if you want to keep the placenta. A few years back, before the policy, a couple asked to get the placenta back when they were getting ready to leave. The hospital had to test 14 placentas to find out that theirs had already made the trip to biowaste heaven.

The whole thing was apparently rather embarassing as the couple really made one hell of a scene.

Of course, they can burn my fiancée's placenta and dance around it chanting satanic verses for all we care.

[BlueIris]

60. At least she's having the child in a civilized place.

(Note: this is not to say that out-of-hospital births aren't civilized, I love you midwives, doulas, CNMs, CMAs and NPs to death, truly.)

A grotesque scandal in one of my state's larger cities involving a "reputable" (read: well-funded and snotty) hospital basically stealing the placentas of women who'd had complications for one reason or another, running all kinds of tests on them (and recording the info with a private company whose interests are highly questionable, if you ask me) without ever telling the mothers or their partners--then lying about having done that until one of our metro dailies busted them. It's got a lot of people around here vexed, let me tell you.

[fleabert]

65. as a doula, I honestly believe this is one example of many...

I am sure lots of hospitals do this, among other things. One client of mine wanted to see the placenta- not take it home, not eat it, not plant it, just look at it after the birth. The hospital 'misplaced it' within 10 minutes of the birth. yeah. right. it was found about thirty minutes later.

an example of hospital/doctor practice that is done without the consent of patients:

the history of cytotec use for laboring women as an induction method is horrific. Women were used as study participants without their informed consent for years. It's FDA approved use is for ulcers. It took many lawsuits for the manufactures to put wording on the label that it is not for use on pregnant women, yet still it is used off label for labor induction, sometimes to horrible outcomes. Sometimes not, but those women are lucky.

http://www.midwiferytoday.com/cytotec/

http://www.petitiononline.com/cytotec/

[BlueIris]

69. Yeah. If I ever decided to try to have kids, I don't know what I'd do.

And frankly, as a former healthcare professional from a medical family with many docs who embraced, you know, common sense and ethics, (especially regarding pregnant patients) the negative views I have about what goes on even in the best hospitals and birthing centers, no matter what kind of financial resources you have, are what give me the most pause about even wanting to think about a baby. Thankfully, I live in OR for the forseable future, and if I ever went the home-birth or birthing center route, as you may know, we have excellent midwifery care here.

[fleabert]

71. you have some of the best care available in the country my friend!

you have many options available, unfortunately, it's not the case in the rest of the country. In many states, midwifery has been criminalized- simply attending a homebirth is cause for arrest for some. I also will choose a homebirth unless I am among the 10% who shouldn't. I would do so no matter where i lived- but luckily I am in CA now, where options are also numerous.

peace! (if you decide to have one, let me know if you have any questions, I'd be happy to answer them!)

[auntAgonist]

66. best wishes, I too am waiting

for my 1st grandchild to arrive any time now. My son called and said the Dr is thinking of inducing labour tonight .... I'm waiting for him to call back.

:woohoo:

:hug: hang in there!

aA

[Bassic]

72. Best wishes to you and yours then

:D

[auntAgonist]

74. thanks ..

Please let us know when baby arrives!

My Daughter in law is in labour now ... and I'm SO far away :( :)



aA

[Bassic]

75. Yeah, as soon as I get back home after the birth

I'll introduce him to the lounge :D

[sarge43]

67. Baby!

So, Bassic. Girl or boy or ?

[Bassic]

73. A boy.

There was no mistaking it at the last two ultrasounds.

[sarge43]

76. Excellent. Got a name? n/t

[Bassic]

77. We do

Roméric

But you may not know how to pronounce it.