Will I ever be attracted to someone my age?

[eileen_d]

I am 33 and just admitted to myself that I have a crush on a guy who's ten years younger than me. I know that if you're Jack Nicholson or Michael Douglas this is par for the freakin' course but in my case I just feel like an idiot. Granted, the last guy I liked was a few years older than me but acted younger.

WHY ME? :nopity:

OK, vent finished. Please hide thread.

[ewagner]

1. and this is somehow bad?

attraction = attraction. Nothing else. It's not a sin in anybody's book.

Enjoy!

[eileen_d]

2. Well then... you have a point

(scratches head) I just feel like a real dork about it. Basically because there is no chance anything would happen, and I didn't think that would matter to me until I ran into him tonight. Bleah. Anyway... I guess the pity party will break up by morning. Thanks for replying.

[La_Serpiente]

4. Don't let your age get you down

My mother and father are 9 years apart. Go for It!:-)

[LastKnight]

3. age is superficial.

as long as it doesnt get too outta hand, nothing wrong with that kind of thing among responsible adults. anyway, i dont see whats wrong with it... your only as old as you feel.

-LK

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

5. No you will never be attracted to a guy your own age

so just go have fun with it :D

[eileen_d]

7. If you say so! I trust your judgement!

Seriously. I just wish I had the guts to talk to the guy, that is the real problem. I haven't dated in, like, forever. I have a bad case of stage fright...

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

8. 23 year old guys don't wanna talk

:D

[eileen_d]

11. Well neither do I at this point

:evilgrin: He is intelligent, or I wouldn't be attracted to him -- that's just something that turns me on. However, my thoughts of him are mostly non-verbal (to say the least)

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

16. Well then just bat your eyelashes at him

I mean...for some reason he keeps finding himself around you too...right?

[blondeatlast]

45. My husband and I were friends before we realized there was WAY

more going on than it first appeared.

[7th_Sephiroth]

6. well i'm 19

and i'm attracted to a 45 year old house wife

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

9. You guys are funny

I'm 45 and I have more 25 year old guys hitting on me than I ever noticed at 25.

[7th_Sephiroth]

10. well

do you hit on em back?

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

17. NO

I'm gay..but it's nice to know if I ever change my mind for a day you are all there for me :D

[7th_Sephiroth]

20. have you ever looked into the benefits of

Bi-Sexuality?

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

24. Honey I just said I'm 45

I've looked at everything twice or more :D

( and every once in a while I DO go for it..but it's mostly a sporting thing)

[7th_Sephiroth]

27. just one thing then

the wily and elusive 7th sephiroth can be found at the mere call of his name

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

28. Thanks for the calling card

I think I am hijacking Eileen-D's thread :evilgrin:

[7th_Sephiroth]

30. did i also mention

that i too, am a lesbian?

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

31. You just made me snort!

ROFLPIMP! But persistent...you got MOXY :D

on edit: BUt maybe you should try this with eileen_d...she likes it :D

[7th_Sephiroth]

32. do u know why they call me the machine?

i am un relenting, i never give up, never surrender, and i am super potent

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

33. and so full of it all too!

YOu really do get the DU "cute" award of the evening. I'll be right back with your medal.

[7th_Sephiroth]

34. woo hoo

do i get a kiss too?

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

35. smooch

happy?

[7th_Sephiroth]

36. yup

wana go get a beer?

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

38. too lazy

how about you just push one through the screen for me.

[7th_Sephiroth]

39. i'll try

it should appear in your cup holder

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

12. I'm a 20 year old girl

and I totally go for 40-45 year old women.

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

21. There was a younger woman that had a crush on me recently

but I just couldn't get passed the fact that she was young enough to be my daughter. :shrug:

[Lorien]

15. 38 here, and have had more college

age guys hit on me lately than I ever did in college. Too bad I'm only really attracted to older men. :shrug:

Hey, my aunt is almost nine years older than her husband. I say go for it!

[burythehatchet]

37. Too bad I'm only really attracted to older men

ahem ... what exactly is "too bad" about that? 45 y.o. single male here, who's been married to 6 yr. younger and 6 yr older women. (they're both still great friends). Every person is a work of art with her (his) own lovable qualities.

:loveya:

[blondeatlast]

46. Even after 8 years of marriage, younger guys flirt with me.

My hubby rather enjoys that fact, actually.

Course, he knows I'll go home with him.

[Commie Pinko Dirtbag]

50. Hey, are you secretly my wife?

Nah... she doesn't know English.

[Susang]

13. Who cares as long as it works for you?

Of course, if you think that this is not healthy, that's one thing. But if you like men younger than you, and they like you, and the relationships are healthy (well, as healthy as dating can be), then what's the problem?

[eileen_d]

14. Maybe it's not the age thing then -

- it's that I don't know if he would be interested and I'm scared to find out.

I will be seeing him frequently over the next month, because of a project we are both involved in, so I guess I'll just figure it out.

[Lorien]

18. One thing I've discovered as I'm growing older

is that I have deeper regrets about the things I didn't do and the risks I didn't take than those I did. Just something to think about.

[7th_Sephiroth]

22. well then

i'm free if you wana make up for some of that

[Susang]

19. Just trust your instincts

If you're going to see him regularly for a month, I have a feeling that you'll be able to tell if he's interested or not. Nice thing about guys that age, they really haven't learned to be overly subtle! ;-)

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

23. Yeah...if he wears his shirt out all the time to hide his emotions

then he likes you ;-)

[Susang]

25. Ahhhh.....testosterone!

Isn't it wonderful? :wow:

[blondeatlast]

49. A WOMAN'S best little secret, ya know?!

;)

[eileen_d]

26. At least I'm laughing now...

Did I mention he does a wicked Arnold Schwarzenloser impression? Luckily the resemblance ends there...

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

29. Whaaa....????

no groping? :D

[Susang]

40. Maybe that's the "wicked" part of his impression

:spank:

[blondeatlast]

48. Will you be having, say, dinner and lunch together?

Seems reasonable to me. Try as hard as you can to keep it light and friendly, and if the motor switches on, then go for it.

Hubby and I "discovered" our mutual thing when we were at a party (not as date). We both had an overwhelming urge to be close (and it wasn't overwhelmingly sex, either--just physically close). One thing led to another, and I just reached over and kissed him--no tongue, but it took a while! The rest, as they say, . . .

[Rhiannon12866]

41. There's nothing wrong with this

Several of my friends and my closest cousin are married to younger men, from 5 to 18 years younger. This seems to be the norm, therse days. My friend went out with a guy 9 years younger and said that most men are clueless about age. Go for it and good luck...

[Kamika]

42. Thats usually how it is

I used to like more "mature" guys when I was younger.. now I'm 21 and most guys my age are ok so I go for my age group now.. altough I still like them abit older.

[GOPisEvil]

43. JUST JUMP HIS BONES!!!!!

You and he will be thankful you did!!! :D

</Skittles>

[blondeatlast]

44. No worries, grrl. My hubby is 12 years younger.

This will be our 8th marriage anniversary, and we were together 6 years prior to marriage.

Whichever way it goes, happiness and stability is waht matters. Enjoy--life's too short to do otherwise.

BTW, most people have no idea about us, those that do are always happy for me!

[Vitruvius]

47. If it's OK for men to like younger women, why shouldn't you like a younger

man?

Also: women, on average, live 7 years longer than men. So -- in terms of life-expectancy, he's only 3 years behind you, not 10.

On average, women marry men who are 5 years older -- and get to be widows for 12 years on average. Your interest in a 10-year-younger man makes more sense.

My advice? Follow your heart & see where it leads.