So, what do you do when you're really fucking angry, but the

[Redstone]

kids are asleep so you can't slam any doors or punch any holes in the walls because it would wake them up?

Redstone

[auntAgonist]

1. I used to go outside and sit on the porch and cry...

angry, sad, lonely , etc, .. me and the front porch.


no one ever knew.



aA

[Redstone]

4. Think I'll head out to the screen porch. Thanks for the advice.

Redstone

[Broken_Hero]

2. usually stand out side

smoke a cigarette, and try and cool off...:P

[Redstone]

12. Good advice, thanks. An outdoor cig does have a more calming

effect than an indoor one.

Especially if you have a drink with, as well.

Redstone

[Broken_Hero]

15. Very true...:) nt

[zanne]

45. I only get tempted to smoke again when I'm angry.

So I have to throw things!:rofl:

[RetroLounge]

3. Channel it into something creative...

RL

[johnnie]

5. Take a deep breath

What could be so bad?

[Redstone]

14. I can't tell anyone. That's part of why it's so frustrating.

Redstone

[idgiehkt]

6. I put my headphones on and listen to hard music

Right now I'm listening to Disturbed...

this is a great one I posted last night,
also I'm Alive, and Just Stop are good too

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=evg4Me9o3-A

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

7. Stand outside with a cigarette and a drink.

I also have a heavy bag in the basement though. I like to work out my excess energy on that.

[Redstone]

17. I'm going to do that right now. Back in 5 minutes. But I can't do the

punching bag, for physical reasons. Wish I could.

Thank you.

Redstone

[SeattleGirl]

8. Go for a walk.

Mutter to myself. Use the physical activity to blow off some of the steam from the anger.

[Robeson]

9. I don't have kids...

...thankfully...:P

[CaliforniaPeggy]

10. ......

:hug:

[fizzgig]

11. i don't have kids

but when i was living with family i'd go to the basement and jump up and down and stamp my feet for a bit

:hug:

[Ptah]

13. Play some music in the headphones

Or play some hot blues:



Or play something more soothing:



Or find a place to rollerskate:


:shrug:

[Redstone]

19. Big Brother & the Holding Company. Maybe my favorite band name

of all time.

And what an album. Oh, Janis, we miss you...

Redstone

[Redstone]

20. Oh, you can't rollerskate in a buffalo herd,

You can't rollerskate in a buffalo herd,
You can't rollerskate in a buffalo herd,
But you can be happy if you've got a mind to...

I remember.

Redstone

[Ptah]

24. you can't load a camera with a kid on your back.

[ghostsofgiants]

16. When I'm angry, I listen to loud music and skateboard.

[havocmom]

18. Take a walk

of hold an egg over the sink and squeeze the living daylights outta it.

It ya hold it just right, it can take a pretty good physical hit. Pretend it's someone's throat if that helps. ;)

Throwing rocks in a big field can help too.

Punching hole is walls is something you and I have well outgrown.

Have also been known to take a drive up the continental divide, steep hill... and scream one big ass scream all the way back down. That has a certain primal therapy sort of affect. It does suck the pissed right outta ya.

Sending peaceful thoughts for after the anger gets released.

hm

[idgiehkt]

21. batting cage

that's a nice one if it's during business hours. always works for me.

[havocmom]

22. That'd be good

if there was one within a hundred miles...

Easier for me to lift a hen's hiney and steal an egg ;)

[Redstone]

26. Great suggestion, and thank you. It would work, if there was

one nearby. But there isn't.

I'd be knocking balls into the nosebleed seats, and it would indeed help.

Redstone

[idgiehkt]

27. if you have a gravel driveway and a baseball bat

rocks are a decent substitute.

[havocmom]

29. Gads, what fun. I haven't swung a bat in a couple decades

And I could get that annoying neighbor kid when he rounds the corner. THAT would certainly improve MY mood :evilgrin:

[Redstone]

25. When I lived in Houston, I used to go scream things from the top of

the San Jacinto Battlefield Monument.

Can't do that here...no towers. Nor any other place to vocalize loudly without drawing the attention of John Darn.

So I'll just stew, and take some comfort from the attentions of my saviors (my fellow DUers), then hit the Ambien and go to sleep and take it up again tomorrow.

Fuck me, I was anticipating that tomorrow would be a good day. Now it won't.

But so it goes.

Redstone

[havocmom]

37. Dory Previn had a song that I love

Screamin all alone in a 20 Mile Zone

It's priceless.

Until the anger (and cause) subsides, remember my promise:
Today is NOT what forever feels like.

Hang in there, my friend. The worm will turn.

Peace & strength,
hm

[crim son]

23. Any form of exercise you can manage.

Until you sweat. That's what I do, and it works. P.S. I can't punch anything either, but I do what I can.

[Redstone]

28. Unfortunately, I am extremely limited in what I can do without

paying big tomorrow for having done it.

But I think I will anyway. The release tonight will be worth the pain tomorrow. There are batteries in the bike's headlight and rear flashers, and the kids are well racked out.

Thanks for the suggestion.

Redstone

[crim son]

30. Redstone, I think I know your issue.

I've got rheumatoid which isn't as difficult, but I suffer the morning after. Oh, I do! Sometimes getting those endorphins flowing is really important though. As long as it doesn't accelerate anything. :hug: It isn't easy, god I know.

[Redstone]

31. Yes, my friend, you do know my issue with the physical part, but

not with the source of my anger.

And that, unfortunately, is not something that I can talk about, even with my wonderful Du friends.

I just can't.

And rheumatoid arthritis is nothing to dismiss lightly...I hope you're doing well with it.

Redstone

[crim son]

32. Doing fine; have had it for thirteen years and luckily

a manageable case. My empathy for your anger... the most damaging emotion. I wish you the strength to deal with it in a way that doesn't hurt you further.

[Redstone]

33. Damn. Thank you. You do understand.

Redstone

[crim son]

35. I think so n/t

[speedoo]

34. I hope you can talk with someone about it.

The physical activity and other suggestions are good, but only short term, as I am sure you know. Long term, anger will eat you up, unless you resolve it somehow, IMO. I used to deal with anger a lot, but I guess age has mellowed me, so it's not much of a concern for me anymore.

Peace.

[Redstone]

36. Yes, "talking with someone about it" is important. And I will do so.

Just like I'd call a plumber to fix a problem with the pipes that I could not handle myself, I will call someone to help me with this.

Redstone

[reyd reid reed]

38. I just find someplace quiet and sit and fume

Sometimes I'll cry a little, but mostly I fume. Or I'll write, but sometimes that just makes it worse.

The key is to be alone for a little while, though.

You okay?

:hug:

[Writer]

39. Redstone, this is precisely what I do:

I go into the guest bathroom. I close the door and lock it. I then turn on the cold water and turn off the lights. I carefully lay on the floor, my head on a towel. I close my eyes and meditate, listening to the gentle rush of the water, until whatever strong feeling I have washes away.

It works every time.

[RFKHumphreyObama]

40. I usually allow myself to seethe for a while

And then find some music, engage in some creative writing or do something else to distract me and calm me down.

The very best of luck in whatever you are going through Redstone. Hope everything works out OK:hug:

[petronius]

41. Late night bike ride, as fast as possible (on a road where I know the

potholes, obviously). Or a long walk...

I'm sorry you're having a bad time - hope you solve it quickly...

[REP]

42. I Don't Manifest My Anger As Violence (No Children, Either)

Perhaps you might want to consider why you become violent when angry, and if that is healthy - especially since you do have children.

[datasuspect]

46. what you said

[lost-in-nj]

43. I hope things are a little better today

:hi:


:hug:

lost

[Bossy Monkey]

44. Long drive, crank tunes, sing really really loud n/t

[Tom Yossarian Joad]

47. You get over it. It's just one of those luxuries we can't afford when

the situation is as described.

Peace and good will.

[Midlodemocrat]

48. I write an incredibly hate filled, angry, letter on the computer to the

person I'm pissed at and then go to sleep.

When I wake up, I either send it or delete. Works wonders.

:hug:

Hope you're okay, dude.

[TOhioLiberal]

49. I don't know what's wrong, but here anyway...

:hug::hug::hug: Hope you can resolve the issue soon...