DU women - how can YOU tell if a guy is gay or not?

[Deja Q]

:popcorn:

[Left Is Write]

1. If he says he is, I assume he is.

If he says he's not, I assume he's not.

If any of that changes and he thinks it's my business to know, he'll tell me.

:)

[El Fuego]

2. You can see it in their eyes.

[Deja Q]

3. Hmmm, I'll have to send you a pic sometime...

:)

[crim son]

4. Unless a man is out and Loud and Proud

you can't tell. Why?

[Deja Q]

5. Just curious...

And you're right; unless they say it, people don't know. (I can't tell by looking into one's eyes. I only know who I think I'm "compatible" with by looking at their eyes.)

[Nikia]

6. I don't usually unless he says or have other clear evidence

Like I see him exhibiting dating behavior towards a guy or hear it from what I consider a knowledgable source.
There have been several guys who I have suspected are gay. Strangely, some of them have been extremely homophobic.
I don't think that I am a good judge of gayness though.

[Withywindle]

7. When he turns me down!

:evilgrin:

Just kidding. Someone had to say it.

[Deja Q]

8. Dang, I wish more women would make advances...

Real ones. Not just empty flirts. :cry:

[smirkymonkey]

9. Well, there's this Agenda.....

Seriously, for me it's just instinct. I personally think I have pretty good gaydar, but when a guy says "fabulous" a lot and frequently compliments you on your shoes, I would say that there is a better than average chance that he's on the gay-ish side. ;)

[Critters2]

10. I'm the world's finest fag-hag

If we hit it off in our first conversation, he's queer as a three dollar bill. Count on it.

And we'll be lifelong friends.

The real fun is when my best friend brings his latest guypal by to meet me. The poor guys can never figure out who I am.

"Will and Grace" has gone a long way toward educating people as to the fag-hag/gay guy experience.

To the person who sent the pm: you think this will clarify it?

[RevCheesehead]

11. Gay-dar.

We get it with our first period. Sometimes later.

[idgiehkt]

12. hmmm

eyebrows are sometimes a good indicator for me. Overly done, unless they are a met, but even still most mets don't make that mistake.

Some guys that are bi or are on the downlow are not going to show up on gaydar. I think a lot more men are than people are aware of, so it's kind of futile to say you can read every single gay man, as there are many different ways to be a gay male.

[Momgonepostal]

13. I can't

Unless he's REALLY flamboyantly so. I have no sense of gay-day whatsoever.

[reyd reid reed]

14. Can't

Unless he comes right out and says so, can't tell for sure. And you know what they say about 'ass-u-me'.

:hi:

[LeftyMom]

15. Walking in on him with a dude is a good clue

I have shit gaydar, so I'd never know otherwise.

[reyd reid reed]

16. "But honey...

it's not what you think, really it's not. It's just...ummmm...well...y'see....Frank here, he, ummmmm....it's not what you think. Really it's not."

[LeftyMom]

17. He was tying his shoe, and I fell. Naked.

It could happen to anybody!

:rofl:

[reyd reid reed]

18. LOL!

Yeah. Just like that. Anybody.

:rofl::rofl:rofl:

[begin_within]

20. On the Jerry Springer show once, a guest said, "It just happened," and

Jerry said, "Now wait. This is something I never understand. When they say, 'It just happened.' What does this mean anyway? The two of you were walking down the street, and suddenly your clothes fell off?"

[reyd reid reed]

27. *snort*

Must've drawn quite a crowd too...

:rofl:

[Mr. Blonde]

19. If he listens to Coldplay

ha ha

[Lydia Leftcoast]

21. I have pretty good gaydar

and there are certain physical types who are gay more often than not (hard to explain), and certain vocal mannerisms and attitudes that are gay more often than not. I've even spotted certain men as gay at first sight, only to have my initial impression confirmed later.

It's actually a handy skill for a single woman to have. It lets me know early on which men will forever remain in the just friends category.

[TimeChaser]

22. I have excellent gay-dar

It's only failed me on two occasions during my life.

[amitten]

23. He often looks similar to the guy you have posted there.

But with a body attached.

[radwriter0555]

24. I lived and or worked in West Hollywood for more than 20 years. You could

say I have an instinct about these things. And, I have to say, I dated VERY successfully in WeHo. I managed to find pretty much all the straight guys. (Tip, Sheriff's Department and Fire Department have a decent ratio of gay to straight men and lemme tell ya, the firemen ARE HOT)

That said, unless the guy is a flaming, skipping, lisping drag queen, and heaven knows I adore them so, it's all about the subtleties. It's that slight extra attention to dress, a slightly more careful "look at me" walk, the very tidy collar, the tight jeans, the carefully styled hair, the hint of foundation, the scarf tossed cavalierly over the shoulder, the glitter on the pavement.

We truly miss our gay and lesbian family and friends that we left behind in So Cal.

[Skittles]

25. gay folk are honest with me

because they know they can be :)

[auntAgonist]

26. the only gay men that I know, 3 in all, very close friends ..

have just been themselves. I don't know how I knew, it must have come up at some time. I don't know how I'd tell if I wasn't informed by the gay man. :shrug:

I guess it's just not that important to me.

aA
:hi:

[BlueIris]

28. Welp, the gay men I've known are so totally out that I've rarely had to

go by the "little clues" at all. Of course, that's probably a good thing, since my gaydar sucks. Sucks so so badly. Let's see, how to I tell in the case of...ambiguity. All right, I confess, I look for refined manners, impecable dress (even if it isn't "stylish," if it's fastidious, that'll be one 'clue' to me) and a desire to rip me for having neither. :-)