***I'm pissed off***

[CaliforniaPeggy]

Talk me out of it........


If you can...........


:nuke:


:grr:

[reyd reid reed]

1. There is nothing...

absolutely nothing worth the aggravation.

Now...what happened?

:hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

5. My dear reyd reid reed...

I just got told something I didn't want to hear, is all........

Thanks....

Not in the mood for hugs ......sorry

[reyd reid reed]

7. Oh, sweetie...

Deep breaths and let me know if there's anything I can do.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

18. My dear reyd reid reed...

Definitely doing the deep breath thingy........

And it is helping......

Thanks......

[riderinthestorm]

2. Chocolate and a hug? nt

:hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

8. My dear riderinthestorm.........

Hard to resist those......

Thanks.......

[LeftyMom]

3. Want me to beat somebody up for you?

I will you know. :) Just say the name. Just point.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

10. My dear LeftyMom.......

Aw, thanks.....

No way, though.......

My anger tends to be non-violent.....

I yell and sometimes cry..........

And then it's over.........

[LeftyMom]

16. I was mostly kidding.

Just let me know though. I'm mean.

:hug:

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

11. I'll help.

I gotz the ninja skillz.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

20. My dear haruka.........

I know you got da skillz!

You are one scary and good-looking woman.......

Thanks......

[Lex]

4. I just posted a pic thread to cheer you up.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x5591857


:hi:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

12. My dear Lex.......

Wow, I will check it out when I get a minute.......

I love dolphins!

Thanks, sweetie......

[Haole Girl]

6. You know we're here for you!

No worries (I'm feeling Aussie today)! :loveya:

:hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

13. My dear KC2!

I know you are......and you have no idea how much I appreciate it.......

And it's not directed at you, either, baby........

[Haole Girl]

15. I know it's not directed at me....

All I've done today is post some pics of Australia...oh, and one lame copycat thread. O8)

[RevCheesehead]

9. Is this a DU thing, or an IRL thing?

Mad is good. Part of being human, and all....

[CaliforniaPeggy]

14. My dear Rev!

It's both, actually.........funny, huh?

I agree about mad being good......

Something very liberating and cleansing.

Thanks..........

[RevCheesehead]

19. So you really *don't* want to be talked out of it, do ya?

:evilgrin:

Just remember that the only person you can control is yourself. Everyone else has asshole potential - and there are a lot of 'em lately.

Let me know when you're ready for a hug, k?

[CaliforniaPeggy]

21. Well, you know........I don't know if I really want to be or not......

I think it will take care of itself in due time.....

It'll most likely be gone tomorrow.......

Oh, and I hear you about me being the only person I have any control over!

And that's at most, sweetie......

I'll take a hug whenever you want to give me one........no begging here...

Thanks........

[RevCheesehead]

22. Then I'll offer it now....

...since I'm about to go to bed. :)

Hang in there, sweetie - and don't let the insensitivity of others get to you. :hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

25. I gotcha....

Back atcha.....:hug:

Sweetest of dreams......and ..thanks.......

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

17. Oh man if you are pissed off than its really deep.

I hope you feel better soon.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

23. My dear CarolinaPeridot.........

I tend to be pretty even tempered most of the time.....

But today my fuse got lit.......

And I decided to let it out instead of internalizing it for a change...

I will be better soon.......in fact I'm getting there now.......

Thanks......

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

33. Good. Its always good to let things go.

Of course you don't need advice from my 26 year old self but I have learned to let things out instead of holding them in.

[mad-mommy]

24. my mentor...

my mentor...well now I'm pissed off.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

27. My dear mad-mommy........

I appreciate your support......

But there is no reason for you to be angry too.......

It can be very poisonous, you know.....

And I am getting over it now.........with your help.......

Thanks......

[mad-mommy]

29. awwww, it's ok, it's good to have company no matter what the mood.

[IChing]

26. Anger is a type of focus

Do you see anger with your heart, mind, ears and eyes?
Or do you see anger as something unrelated to the rest of you, and therefore of great importance?
When you give importance to the whole you do not forget the particular.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

30. My dear IChing..........

I see anger as a type of focus too.....

Right now I am very focused.......

I tend to be angry in my mind......and not so much in the other places.

When I am angry, it is intensely personal....intensely!

When you give importance to the whole you do not forget the particular.

This sentence I don't understand....Can you explain it to me?

Thanks........

[IChing]

39. I'll try but it is rather zen in it's explaination.

When you look at the particular with a fragment of your being,
the division between that particular and the fragment which is looking at it grows,
and so conflict increases.

When there is no division there is no conflict.

So look at the anger with your whole being.
Your awareness, but the thing of which you are aware is not being encouraged or nourished

Awareness is not concentration on something.
It is not a action of the will choosing what it will be aware of, an analysing it to bring about a certain result


If you are angry and are concerned with ending that anger,
then you focus your attention on the anger and the whole escapes you and the anger is strengthened.

See I confused your anger now

[CaliforniaPeggy]

42. You are correct!

I am now confused......:silly:

Perhaps in the morning, after I've had my coffee......maybe then it will make sense to me....

Still, I thank you...... :hug:

[IChing]

48. So observe the anger for what it is without

a moral judgement on it,
then act accordingly with truth without bias wither the anger is justified or not.

when I get ripped off by what I consider injustice and you know I have been
, sometimes I find I have to stand outside of the anger.

OR might nourish my anger and
GET PISSED,
GET DRUNK,
GET STONED
AND POST IN THE LOUNGE............LOL:hi: :hug: :pals: :yourock: :rofl:

[MiniMandaRuth]

28. :hug:

I'm giggling like a madwoman over this pic I just photoshopped, so maybe it will make you giggle a little, too.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

32. My dear MMR.........

That is very cute......thanks! :)

[hickman]

31. I've just spent the last 6 months deciding not to blow up.

My son has been hospitalised 8 times since January and had abdominal surgery in early august that was supposed to be the fix. I left him about 2 hours ago at Henry Ford, drugged again, to the gills and on antibiotics. This is on top of some unrelated legal problems and my Dad dying in april on my birthday. I've decided to store my anger. You need to calm down, and remember how good our lives are day to day. But store it. It will be for me the fuel in the engine in 2008.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

34. My dear hickman..........

Ah, I thank you.....this is a much-needed course correction from you....

My deepest sympathies for all your difficulties......

I sure hope your son will be well very quickly.......that is awful what you both have been through...........

And your Father's death on your birthday........plus legal problems.....

I don't know how you're still functioning......or how you're containing your anger at all this.......

My problems just shrank into nothing.......

Hope yours do as well, soon.......:hug:

[hickman]

47. Thank you Peggy.

You don't remember me, but you helped my son back in may or early june last year. I posted a thread that was asking for a doctor or nurse help me read his discharge orders. Your post started out with something like "I hope your son knows how close he came to dying". I showed him everyone's responses on the thread but when he got to yours I could see him pause. That was the start of him taking his disease seriously.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

50. Ah, my dear hickman!

Of course!

I knew your name was familiar!

You bet I remember that thread..........

I am privileged to have helped your son treat his disease with more respect.......

Thank you again.......:hug:

[auntAgonist]

36. hickman; welcome to DU. and......

I'm so sorry about your son. I hope his health improves and soon.
My sincerest sympathy to you and yours regarding the death of your father.

If I may offer a :hug:


aA
:hi:

[hickman]

43. I remember you.

I crashed my computer in Feb. I can't get in under my old user name which was hickman1937, because I forgot my DU password. I just re-registered. I remember you as a very kind person. Hello again.

[auntAgonist]

51. I'm glad you're back again!

I hope you can stay this time :)

aA

[Haole Girl]

35. Have you ever gone bowling when you're really pissed off?

It's very therapeutic.
And, I really don't like bowling.

Just thought I'd throw it out there.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

38. My dear KC2.......

I haven't bowled in years.......

But if I could throw the damn ball down the alley the way I'm feeling right now, I'd get strikes every time!

Love your smiley!

:hug:

[auntAgonist]

37. ah Peggy ...

anger, a weird emotion to say the least. It can sure leave us hurt and drained. I hope you resolve whatever issue you're dealing with.

I hope tomorrow is a better day for you too!


:loveya:
aA

[CaliforniaPeggy]

40. My dear auntAgonist........

I find that, for me, anger is very liberating.....

It focuses me on what's wrong, and how to deal with it......

And it is helping me do that tonight....

I think tomorrow will be better.......at least, I have hopes that way......

Thank you for being here for me....... :loveya:

[bridgit]

41. come see the chalk art, it's for the children...then we'll talk...

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=5590963&mesg_id=5590963

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=5590969&mesg_id=5590969

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=5590981&mesg_id=5590981

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=5590994&mesg_id=5590994

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=5591015&mesg_id=5591015

:-)

[CaliforniaPeggy]

44. My dear bridgit!

I did see those, even though I didn't comment...

They are wonderful......

Talk away baby.......you have my complete attention.......:hug:

[bridgit]

46. you should have at least kicked them Peg, how else will this jaded...

hard hearted (just read some of the stuff on the death of Steve Irwin), ego centric/self centered DU bunch ever get to see them not that they care

:rofl:

[GirlinContempt]

45. Sorry to hear that

I hope it blows over soon, Peggy.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

49. My dear GirlinContempt........

Thanks, sweetie.....

It will, if I have anything to say about it.......

And I do!

:hug:

[spacelady]

52. I'll take that pissed and raise you deeply perturbed. :) :(

[CaliforniaPeggy]

53. My dear spacelady..........

You too, huh?

I'm sorry........

Hope your perturbed state abates soonest..........:hug:

[spacelady]

55. You make me smile during this week of challenges. So am I helping

to talk you out of it? I hope so! Hugs whether you want them or not. :)

[CaliforniaPeggy]

56. My dear spacelady!

Well, I am glad I am making you smile, sweetie.....

Yes, you are helping talk me out of it!

I'll take some hugs, thank you! :hug: back atcha!

[Broken_Hero]

54. Don't do it

its not worth it, better to discuss and deal with the problem/issue with a calm mind, and a determined heart. Take care, and I hope the issue works itself out...:hi:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

57. My dear petersond........

Don't do what? Be pissed off? You know that anger can be very therapeutic........

It can!

I don't currently feel like discussing my anger with the person involved.....

Plus I would be making a nuisance out of myself......

All will work out, never fear!


I thank you.........:hug:

[Broken_Hero]

58. Nah, being pissed off makes you strong

but the actions of being pissed off can be quite embarrasing, or make the situation worse...:) Sounds like something better left alone, and ignored...thats the impression I'm getting...take heart, and take care...:)

[CaliforniaPeggy]

60. You are quite right, my dear petersond..........

I plan to do just as you suggest....

Leave it alone (except for this thread, LOL).......

And see how things develop....

I am taking care, and taking heart too.....thanks.....:hug:

[Floogeldy]

59. This is a first.

CPeg, you have every right. You do not get mad easily. The fact that you are now mad tells me that you are justified. It is okay. BE MAD! Scream and hit (not people) and feel the anger. I trust your emotions and I love you. Thank you for sharing your feelings with us.

Floog

[CaliforniaPeggy]

62. My dear Floog!

Thank you, sweetie....

I do tend to not get angry.......

But now and then it happens!

I find that anger concentrates my mind wonderfully.........

Thank you for trusting, and loving, me........

It may have been foolish for me to share this with all of you.......

But I decided it was worth the risk!



:hug:

[GoddessOfGuinness]

61. When I'm pissed, I like to clean...

It's a great place to put all that energy and make it do something positive.

I'm sorry you're having a rough day, Peggy.
Have a brew...:beer:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

63. My dear GoddessOfGuinness.......

Sometimes I do laundry......since I hate to houseclean!

The rough day will soon be over........

Thanks for the brew! Don't mind if I do! :beer:

[RFKHumphreyObama]

64. OK hopefully it wasn't because of something I did to offend you

Nevertheless I know what you are experiencing. I am going through a phase of my life where sometimes I am given to periods of intense anger. What I try to do then is to calm down, take a few deep breaths and think over the situation in my head and how I'd like to make it better in an ideal world. I also listen to music -you mentioned you like Billy Joel, put on some of his more soothing or meaningful music. I usually find that the right type of music calms me down. Also think of the things in your life that bring you happiness -although if someone in your life who usually brings you happiness is the source of the anger, that may not help. But even if it is someone or something dear to you that is making you angry, think about the good qualities of that person or thing.

When I'm angry or pissed off, I sometimes do some creative writing (if I can). Or I write in my diary about the source of the anger and why I am so pissed off -just putting your feelings down on paper can be an immense help

If you are religious, then pray -that sometimes has worked for me.

And if someone has hurt you, remember this quote -OK admittedly I heard it from a rap song (Will Smith's remake of "Just the Two of Us") but I think it is a famous quote as well
"Let God deal with the things they do
Because hate in your heart will consume you too"

OK this probably makes no sense but nevertheless it works for me

[CaliforniaPeggy]

65. My dear socialdemocrat1981!

No, sweetie.......it wasn't you! Let me hasten to assure you of this!

Lately I haven't been angry, except at myself......and that is depression.......

And that just stinks.......

Today someone else made me angry, and for some reason I decided not to be depressed, but to turn my anger outward........

Hence this thread....

My anger tends to concentrate and clarify my thinking........

And it has tonight.......

Thank you for the terrific suggestions! I am writing my anger down.....right here...

I am angry.....but it does not involve hatred at all...that is truly poisonous........

And I will have none of that inside me....

:hug:

[Writer]

66. CalPeg - close your eyes...

go to that place where you are in power - where you are in control. A place where you have supporters, not detractors. A place where the great joy you grant to others is returned in kind.

It's okay, CalPeg. I don't know what's going on, but know that we're always here for you.

:hug:

Writer.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

67. My dear Writer.....

Thanks.......I am already in that place!

Doing this thread has put me there.......

None of you is privy to what this is about......and it will have to stay that way...

But I can tell you how much I appreciate your support!

I really mean it..........

:hug: