is it unusual that i am mostly uninterested in girls my own age

[mark414]

but drive myself crazy with thoughts of women 10, 15, 20, 25 years my senior?

i'm 21...

[XemaSab]

1. Unusual

but not unheard of...

[amitten]

2. I'm in my mid-30's.

Most looks I get are from much younger guys. :shrug:

[speedoo]

3. I don't think it's unusual.

After all, older women are more experienced. :thumbsup:

And then there is always the variety factor. :thumbsup:

[rug]

4. Raw meat.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x5595092

[idgiehkt]

5. hmmm

well, you can bet there are women in that age group out there with a fantasy congruent to yours...

[mark414]

6. here's to you, mrs. robinson...

luckily for me i've been able to fulfill the fantasy a couple of times but it's like crack, even just a little bit makes you want more and more

[idgiehkt]

9. lol

this is making me smile for some reason..

there's another film with this storyline that came out in the 80's that I like. I thought Faye Dunaway played the lead but I can't find it in her filmography. Maybe it was someone else. I think 'Mrs. Robinson' was a little overwrought, lol.

'Y Su Mama Tambien' is supposed to be good but I don't know to what extent it follows that theme.

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0245574/plotsummary

"Abandoned by their girlfriends for the summer, teenagers Tenoch and Julio meet the older Luisa at a wedding. Trying to be impressive, the friends tell Luisa they are headed on a road trip to a beautiful, secret beach called Boca del Cielo. Intrigued with their story and desperate to escape, Luisa asks if she can join them on their trip. Soon the three are headed out of Mexico City, making their way toward the fictional destination. Along the way, seduction, argument and the contrast of the trio against the harsh realities of the surrounding poverty ensue."

of course, we are talking strictly about films here...

[mark414]

17. but can't films be nothing more than

a dramatic interpretation of life? or if you meet the right person even, you can make your own films.

or maybe i just need to go to bed

[idgiehkt]

19. true

very true.

The film I was thinking of was 'Class' with Jacqueline Bisset, btw.

[mark414]

20. sounds like another movie

to add to my must-see list

[speedoo]

21. Of course there's Harold and Maude.

But that's not what the OP had in mind.

"Summer of '42" might be a bit closer in relevancy:

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0067803/

[idgiehkt]

22. oh no you din't

you are so

so


so


wrong for that...

:wtf:

edit: will have to check out summer of '42, thanks :hi:

[speedoo]

25. OK

I guess you didn't read my post in its entirety, at first.

Harold and Maude is clealy not relevant, and maybe I should have made that more clear.

Summer of '42 is about a kid several years' junior to the OP, and his first experience, so that's not really relevant either. But it's a beautiful film, definitely worth a look.:hi:

[idgiehkt]

31. I have to say

that I love the first part of Harold and Maude where he is faking all the suicides and stuff to ge rid of the girls. That is dark comedy at it's finest. And I do think it is a very good, relevant film, but it was just creepy in that sense. Maybe I should give it another look.

[mark414]

23. ahhhh

yes, i am more likely to be looking for the mrs. robinson to complement my benjamin braddock than a maude to my harold

[idgiehkt]

24. Did you really like

Mrs. Robinson?

Becuz, she was married, you know. A single gal would work better...lot's less complications.

Wasn't there this theme running in one of the American Pie movies too? If memory serves me the Mom was drunk as a coot, though, when it happened.

[mark414]

26. yes

but mostly just because of anne bancroft...i think i'm allergic to complications anyways, and besides, i wouldn't want any jealous husbands after me...

[idgiehkt]

29. wow.

yes, you DO NOT want to mess with the jealous husbandly types. You want to live a long life, lol, and that stuff can get messy. I just think the end of the film where Dustin Hoffman yells the girls name is so weird, if that's right. I barely can remember that film though, it's been years and years since I've seen it.

[tigereye]

49. that's a great film

Marxist erotica, if you will. Y tu Mama, I mean. Fun and somewhat depressing.

Mark sure knows how to get all of our attention, eh. ;) And he likes jazz, too, as I recall.

[mark414]

51. i am what i am

dammit i'm only 21 but sometimes i feel like i'm 10 years older in my head...

p.s. i was listening to sonny rollins' 'the bridge' earlier this morning

[tigereye]

53. nice!

we missed seeing you around the board - glad you are back.

[mark414]

55. ohhh but i'm leaving again in 3 weeks or so

and have no idea when i'll be back...next september for my brother's wedding at the latest...but otherwise i'll just be ramblin' around

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

7. Well, I'm a girl (23) and I tend to go after older women also.

The last longer relationship I was in was with a woman who was 44. We broke up due to reasons unrelated to the age difference.

[mark414]

15. word

as long as you've got two mature and consenting adults i don't see why age should have anything to do with it

[qwertyMike]

8. They don't like guitar players

Not like the 60's

[Haole Girl]

10. Not true!

Speaking as an older woman, I love it when a guy can play the guitar!! :loveya:

[Broken_Hero]

11. No its not

IME, I gravitated to the older women because by and large they were more mature, and weren't as materialistic as women my age. Most women my age, that I was around were rather vain, petty, and...to be honest, they acted like they were still in high school.

[Richard Steele]

12. Not terribly unusual at all, IMHO.

There's hardly a man alive unfamiliar with the allure
of the 'older woman'. Being drawn that direction more
strongly than most isn't necessarily unhealthy any more than
a strong attraction to TALL women, or women with a particular
hair color.

I wouldn't worry about it unless it starts causing problems
in other areas of life. The heart wants what it wants, that's all.

[idgiehkt]

14. I love that quote

and I have bitten my tongue umpteen times when I was about to use it because of the source...but it is pretty damn accurate.

[ChoralScholar]

13. Not unusual at all.

Although I did not appreciate older women until later. I used to think a 30-year-old woman had one foot in the grave already.

[SlavesandBulldozers]

16. when i was that age I certainly wasn't interested in 31 year olds.

but then, everybody's different.

I'm 29 now. Fuck. . . ok.


Anyway I almost had a mini-heart attack there but now everything's cool. Anyway, now I'm really digging the older women, and I'm just reaching the age where they are digging on me I think. Getting out of that zone where women only dig older guys ya know. That zone that begins in high school? Yeah, that's ending.

[nosillies]

64. But S&B, you look much younger than 29, so no heart attack necessary

When I was younger, I was an idiot. Each year, I get better. So it's nice to know that there are younger men out there who are realizing this, also. For pete's sake, who would want to date a college girl -- other than someone in high school? Sorry to all you college girls out there, but I promise, just wait and see how much better it can get.

Oh, if I only had the looks I had when I was 21 with my 30-something brain -- unstoppable!

This "older" woman gives a big THANK YOU to all you wise "boys" out there.

[SlavesandBulldozers]

71. why thank you AmyB! and Mr.AmyB's a lucky man! n/t

[blondeatlast]

18. Mr. Blondeatlast is 12 years my JUNIOR.

We are coming up on 11 years of marriage and we knew each other for 4 years rpior to that.

We're just as crazy about each other now as we ever were.

No worries, my friend.

[Floogeldy]

27. You are one sick, horny bastard.

Not that there is anything wrong with that. ;)

[gr8dane_daddy]

28. Funny, I'm mid 30's...

and interested in girls your age :evilgrin:

[mark414]

30. i am assuming that

15 or 20 years from now, you and i will be kindred spirits, at least in that particular department

[Vidar]

32. Women reach sexual peak in their mid to late 30s. Good thinking.

[idgiehkt]

33. oh.

so that's what the f*ck is wrong with me...lol.

[gr8dane_daddy]

34. I concur...

I dated a 31 y.o. when I was 23 and she was definitely at her peak. Good times, good times.

[Deja Q]

42. Fascinating...

:D

[NewWaveChick1981]

56. Speak for yourself. My sex drive (which was very strong as a teenager)

has done nothing but get stronger and stronger and stronger over time. I'm 43 now with no end in sight. :evilgrin: Maybe you're talking about averages... :rofl:

[tjwmason]

35. Speaking personally

I think that women look most attractive between about 45 and 55 - though I'm not really attracted to them in the same way.

I do tend to go for older men as well.

[tjwmason]

36. Speaking personally

I think that women look most attractive between about 45 and 55 - though I'm not really attracted to them in the same way.

I do tend to go for older men as well.

[billyskank]

37. I am finding myself increasingly attracted to women older than me

in some cases 10 years older and more (which means 40-something women).

[Skittles]

38. too young for me, babe

but you sound like a very interesting guy: yes INDEED! :D

[mark414]

39. aww no fun

age ain't nothin but a number

[bettyellen]

47. you know that's an Aliyah lyric....

i love that song.
:P

[mark414]

54. i'll see you soon

;-)

[bettyellen]

67. oh good, you can help me carry my emac into tekserve one morning....

:evilgrin: this thing weighs a ton.

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

70. Wimp. Those things aren't that heavy.

[mark414]

72. she just wants to get me all sweaty

so i have to take my shirt off

i'm on to you betty...

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

74. You can't trust that one.

She's probably been plotting this "I'm too weak to carry my eMac" scheme for months.

[bettyellen]

76. ha, that's the obvious throwaway scam, meant to distract you from the

twisty machivellian plot that i have been working on for months. and it has nothing to do with the cage in the basement either.
i swear.

[bettyellen]

73. an Emac is the heaviest personal computer ever made!

i should know, all the clerks at tekserve laughed at me when i said I, yes I had to bring it in. :cry:
and yeah, i AM a wimp. we've met, it's me, betty, of the Peter Fonda workout.... :beer: did you see that? my bicep moved.

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

75. Laughed at by a tech geek.

That's lame.

Most of my workouts are also just :beer:, but between karate and jobs where I had to haul around more than half my weight, I'd also oddly strong. Oddly enough, I never really lost much of that strength.

[bettyellen]

77. some people it comes naturally.

i had muscles for like three wekks when i was hauling stuff. i swear they disappeared overnight.
now i'm back to wimpering for help.
and it was two tech geeks, one was about 60 years old. i almostr said i might be a wimp, but at least i'm not a 60 year old clerk.
jeeze, they weren't exactly strongmen themselves. so mark better do some pushups on that train, because this puppy cannot get dropped on 23rd street, no way.

[mark414]

78. i'm working on it

i've just recently realized how much strength i've lost from that whole breaking bone/surgery/recovery process thing but don't worry! there's little to do on trains but drink and smoke and piss over the edge, so i'll make time for push ups, if i'm not too drunk.

[bettyellen]

82. wow, i'm pretty fucking thoughtless huh?

yep. it would seem that i am. do you have metal parts now? can we play with magnets?

[mark414]

84. yeah you are a pretty terrible person

of course you're not :*

i do have metal parts but it's only temporary and it's coming out in a few days...:cry:

some of my friends call me a cyborg but assure me that being a cyborg is like being a marine...there's no such thing as an ex-cyborg

[Deja Q]

40. I'm in my 30s, and I like

women who are 30~46.

I also like men who are 28~46...

[MrCoffee]

41. Older women ROCK!

I was 17, she was 33...taught me everything i know. good times.

[Lowell]

43. Older Women

Not many around. Most of them that's older than me are already dead and buried.

[MissMillie]

44. hey there big boy!

:hi:






:silly:

[crim son]

45. Take it from a 43 yr-old woman.

No.

[buddhamama]

46. i don't think it is unusual

i guess the question to be asked here is, what is it about older women that you find attractive?

[NewWaveChick1981]

48. I think there is a growing tendency for younger men to be attracted

to older women these days. I mean, it's always been there, but more guys are buying into that notion. 40 these days is nowhere NEAR old, and (speaking strictly for myself) I'm enjoying my 40s a lot. I have more experience and self-confidence at 43 than I ever did as a 20-something or even a 30-something. I know what I like and what I don't, and there's no sitting on the fence.

I get many more admiring looks now than I did when I was younger. :D And I think I speak for "older women" everywhere----thank you, thank you, thank you!!! :loveya:

[tigereye]

50. More magazine agrees with you

they are always talking about the lure of the mature woman who is professionally settled, stable, and sure of herself. That's a cool thing.

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

58. Of course you get admiring looks...

you're hot.

[NewWaveChick1981]

59. Thanks, haruka...

:* :hug: Either it didn't happen as much when I was younger, or I didn't notice it as much, but it's definitely increased. :D

You're no slouch either. :loveya:

[billyskank]

60. It's all YOUR fault

in my case, anyway. :loveya:

[NewWaveChick1981]

61. LOL! Sorry about that...

:* (Not really... :evilgrin:) :loveya:

[billyskank]

62. Good.

I don't want you to be sorry. :*

:evilgrin:

[unpossibles]

52. nothing wrong with it at all

and sadly, less represented by popular media than the older man thing. My wife is 8 years younger than I am and we're best friends and get along great most of the time. I've dated younger and older, and don't see any issue as long as (a) both parties are adults and (b) you have enough similar interests to get along.

And ironically, when I was younger, I was attracted to a lot of older women, although part of that may have been the "taboo" of it. Ironic, because I was too shy to see if anyone was interested. Now, I tend to find mutual attraction with younger people more than folks my own age (35), but I see it more as the fact that I am a young rock and roller at heart.

:)

cheers!

finally, I look at it this way: be attracted to whomever you want to, but no sense in setting limits! lol...

[TommyO]

57. Not common, but not unheard of.

What's interesting is that my brother married a woman ten years his senior, and the men that I'm most attracted to are generally around ten years older than myself as well.

In your case, it's certainly better than being interested in somebody ten years your junior!

[Missy Vixen]

63. Mark, I'm old enough to be your mom

at 46, but I gotta' tell you, it's flattering.

>but drive myself crazy with thoughts of women 10, 15, 20, 25 years my senior?<

You must be very self-assured, which is one of the sexiest qualities in any man.

Julie

[bettyellen]

69. are you related to Sharon RB?

one of my fave DUers? i keep thinking you're her. LOL..
and mark is quite self assured, but fairly modest about it. in short, he is a scamp...
and then some.

[Missy Vixen]

80. I wish I was!

>one of my fave DUers?<

Sharon is very cool, as are all the members of the KOEB. :woohoo:

>mark is quite self assured, but fairly modest about it.<

I'm thinking he's a magnet for female attention. How can we resist someone who's so obviously entranced with women? ;-)

Julie

[u4ic]

65. When I was in my 20's

I used to get hit on by a lot of 40 and 50 year olds...

Now that I'm 40, it's most often mid-late 20's/early-mid 30's.

Don't judge yourself; whoever you're attracted to, you're attracted to.

[LeftyMom]

66. I don't think it's odd

I won't date guys near my own age (I'm 25) so it doesn't seem strange to me at all.

You want what you want. Better to know that and aim for it than to compromise and make yourself and somebody else miserable by settling for somebody you find less attractive.

[Phillycat]

68. I'm 33 and I get too much attention from inappropriately younger men

But it is flattering. :D

[Fox Mulder]

79. Older women are the ones who know what they're doing.

You know what I mean.

[Leo 9]

81. Feel free to send your rejects my way.

I like em` younger. :evilgrin:

On edit...

Of course when I was younger, I liked them older.

Now I like younger.

They've more interest in having fun, partying and the like.

[FedUpWithIt All]

83. I don't think it is unusual at all...

I am rapidly nearing 34 and i think the men that notice me get younger as i get older.

[NC_Nurse]

85. My husband is 11 years younger than me...

when we got together he was 22 and I was 33. Now he's 34 and I'm 45. No problem. :hi:

[Anarcho-Socialist]

86. It's quite common.

I'm 24 and I am attracted to people older than me, especially in the 35-55 range. I consider women in their forties and early fifties to be especially gorgeous, but I only look since I have a S.O. :)

[Guy Fawkes]

87. At least you said "... years my senior"

[Ramsey]

88. Shows very good judgement on your part

:evilgrin: