It's that time again- I'm doing Human Sexuality homework, ask me anything!

[LeftyMom]

:bounce: :bounce:

[MiniMandaRuth]

1. What is the average age that a teenage girl figures out her sexuality?

Because as it stands right now, I'm 70/30 with men in the lead.

[LeftyMom]

3. Well, according to my book

The mean ace for understanding sexuality in a study done with lesbians (they don't appear to have data in my book for other groups) was 14.6 but self-labeling and sexual experience generally came much later. So being unsure at your age appears to be normal.

My thought, if you're waiting for the light to go on and indicate perfect heteroness or perfect lesbianness, you're probably in for a long wait. Most people fall somewhere in between and that's perfectly okay.

Oh and :hug: Being a teenager sucks, but you seem to be managing to get through it without going crazy. :yourock:

[MiniMandaRuth]

5. Of course I'm not going crazy.

I already am. :crazy:

My best guy friend already knows that he's gay, and he's fine with it. And all my little girlfriends are cool if I turn out to be a lesbian.

Frankly, it doesn't matter to me. Just as long as I love someone, and they love me back.

[AirmensMom]

2. Have you seen the best butts on DU?

I'm sure they have SOMETHING to do with Human Sexuality. :shrug: :rofl:

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=5610055&mesg_id=5610055

[LeftyMom]

7. I saw.

I haven't the feintest what to ask one of those lovely women.

Here's my butt though (yes, I just happened to have this in Photobucket)

[AirmensMom]

10. Uncle!

That's a nice butt! :bounce: :yourock:

[radwriter0555]

17. okay, I have to ask, why is your ass in photobucket? My ass isn't in

photobucket.

Should I have my ass in photobucket?

[LeftyMom]

20. I posted it someplace else a year or so ago as a joke

I think I've since used it once or twice to tell flvegan to kiss my ass when he's being cheeky.

Cheeky. :rofl:

[Ellen Forradalom]

29. Whoa. Maybe I should put my photo

in assbucket. I mean, my ass in photobucket.

[LeftyMom]

30. Just don't post nudies

A pal from another site lost a whole bunch of pics of his junk that way. :rofl:

[Redstone]

4. You're doing plenty of fieldwork, I assume.

Because without that, how can you write an authoritative paper?

Redstone

[AirmensMom]

6. Good point!

:applause: :yourock:

[LeftyMom]

8. Amazing things one can do with the internets these days.

;)

[Redstone]

16. No, I mean REAL fieldwork. Like if you were studying archeology,

you'd actually go out and dig with your own hands...

Redstone

[LeftyMom]

21. Tell your buddy to take some time off work already.

It's certainly not a lack of willingness on my part. :D

[Redstone]

22. I somehow think he already knows your feelings. But if you think I could

really help with the situation, I'd be only to happy to read him the riot act.

Redstone

[LeftyMom]

23. Nah, he's working on it.

:) I should be more patient.

[Redstone]

24. Patience is a virtue. Also, it keeps you from going crazy.

Redstone

[LeftyMom]

25. That'd be years too late.

But working on patience seems to be keeping me from going crazier which is good enough, I guess.

[Critters2]

9. Why am I alone on a Saturday night? nt

[LeftyMom]

11. You have to get up early for work, I bet.

:)

[Critters2]

12. That's right!

You ARE good at this!! In fact, I was about to post a good night, and head off to bed. That is just spooky! If you don't get an A+, life has no meaning.

'Night! :hi:

[deucemagnet]

13. Is Ceiling Cat watching you?

:P

[LeftyMom]

14. I'm still wide awake.

He can bother me later.

[Writer]

15. Is monogamy a natural human behavior?

[radwriter0555]

18. No.

Humans are not genetically programmed to be monogamous. If you were then you wouldn't be able to fall in love more than once.

[LeftyMom]

19. There's surprisingly little in my book about this issue

My thought- monogamy isn't something we're bred for, but it's something many humans find advantageous or fulfilling. Others do not. There's a wide variety of human experience that can be considered normal and both monogamy and non-monogamous relationships are legitimate expressions of sexuality when consensual.

[sir_captain]

37. From a purely evolutionary biology sense

Monogamy is definitely considered evolutionarly advantageous for females--it is in the best interest of the female to keep her mate around to provide food and protection for all of the babies.

Monogamy is less of an evolutional imperative for males since their overwhelming drive in this regard is to impregnate as many women as possible. But of course, monogamy ensures at least one mating partner, something which is hardly moot.

Of course, since we're people and not simply animals, I am skeptical about how this applies to humans.

[radwriter0555]

40. Well in one manner, yes, but the urge to diversify the species is a bit

stronger, since the female is easily capable pairing up with different males who can easily provide food and protection.

The 7 year itch is a very, very real behavior in humans. By the age of 7 the human child was pretty much able to care for itself and the mom could kind of toss it out of the cave as she moved on to a new male for breeding.

You'll notice a startlingly high abuse rate of step children for this reason; the human, either female or male, feels its new offspring are threatened by the predecessor.. hence all the stories about wicked step mothers, cinderella, etc.

Human behavior still revolves are the most basic needs; the survival instinct and the need to reproduce.

[sir_captain]

42. Well...

it seems to me that you have actually illustrated why monogamy would be the preferred behavior.

If survival is a paramount concern (which it obviously is) then a female would not want to endanger her babies by having several male partners who did not have a vested interest in protecting all of her children (and perhaps even had the opposite impulse.)

Furthermore, taking the age of 7 as one where a child could care for itself (which I think is rather too early, but we'll keep it for the sake of arguement) you are assuming that no subsequent child had been born in the interim. And if we look at families that don't use birth control, we can see that is not too likely.

There is not really an individual desire to diversify a population--this will happen naturally in a large enough founder population using the simple desire to reproduce.

[radwriter0555]

45. Interestingly enough, in early times menses were not anywhere near as

common as they are today, nor are they a regular monthly issue in many of the primitive tribes, which means that childbearing is more of a rare occurance in those societies. Children are indeed only born every few years since women nurse far longer and the span between menses can be up to a year.

In populations with little diversity there was also not as great a need for an individual such as "the" male to protect the children". The children were cared for communally, all living in one cave, so to speak and sharing parental and child rearing duties.

At age seven the kids may have been kicked out of the parental bed, but certainly not out of the community.

The innate and irrefutable urge to diversify the population is the reason why there remains today a very high incidence of blended families. The rigors of artificially introduced reasons to remain partnered with one person for life are not realistic nor moralistic, but mostly inventions of religious foundation which have little bearing on reality. The church instituted such ideals for their own purposes, and not for the purposes of the people.

[idgiehkt]

46. I think so too about religion

The church is like a shadow government that is even more immoral than regular government because it attaches itself to the great beyond, and you get indoctrinated with it from birth. It seems like just about every culture has to legislate sexual controls for some reason and I can't quite figure that one out...

[radwriter0555]

47. easy enough. societies that fear women put sexual controls on their

behavior since ultimately, that is where men are the weakest.

A man will indeed risk his life for a blow job in modern societies. That really puts all the power back in the hands of women, since we place our families above our own lives. Men don't like their own fallability and the knowledge that women are after all the strong ones.

[idgiehkt]

48. I wonder what

hardens the powerlessness into fear though...this is where I always get hung up. I know now it has something to do with their being no sexual female godhead in this culture (or male really, I don't think this tradition every really intended to desexualize male God, it just kind of happened as a concession to make him more popular) so there is no ritual presence of female sexuality in Western religion so it's not associated with holiness and at some point got completely demonized...but why. Are humans that shrewd to know that something hated is something easily controlled. I mean was it a conscious thing or unconscious...

[sir_captain]

49. An interesting point

To be completely clear on it, though, menses in humans have always been on a monthly cycle--that's a biochemical prerogative. There is an effect known as lactational lammarohea in which a breastfeeding woman's menses are inhibited by her feeding of her child. And this is absolutely a natural form of birth control. That said, a three year old child cannot take care of itself.

There are lots of examples throughout nature of monogamous pairings of animals--and often, as you've alluded to, these pairings end at such time when the children no longer need their parents. Humans, though, have *by far* the longest childhood of any animal on the planet, and this fact, coupled with multiple-child families, seriously suggests selection benefits for monogamy.

Anyway, while it is obvious that there are many social constructs that artificially promote monogamy, to suggest that there is little basis in evolutioanry biology is, I think, a bit much.

[Ellen Forradalom]

26. How can I be sexier?

:P

[LeftyMom]

28. It's mostly a brain thing

Smelling really good helps too. People underestimate just how much smell factors into attraction.

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

27. Raoul Duke, one of the bearded dragons...

just lacerated my finger. Should I declare her a total bitch of a lizard?

And now the fucker is chewing on one of my flip flops.

[LeftyMom]

31. If this is a human sexuality question

I haven't got to the section on bestiality with BDSM elements yet.

Otherwise, she probably didn't mean it. Give her a little bit of veg and put her back in her enclosure until she remembers to be nice.

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

32. Don't worry, it's not human sexuality.

She just got too excited when she saw her food. Mmm...waxworms....:puke:

I'm used to this behavior from her brother, because he's just a giant asshole, but normally she's pretty well behaved. I have to give her credit though, because she jumped about a foot in the air to do it. I've never even seen her jump before and let's face it, for a lizard with only one hind leg, that's some impressive height.

[LeftyMom]

35. You're nicer than me

There's no way I could resist calling a female anything with less than the full complement of legs Eileen.

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

38. Both of my dragons have only three legs...

I'm friends with their breeder. She gave me the male (Dr. Gonzo) as a baby because she knew he'd get a good home and no one would buy a three-legged lizard (missing front leg). I ended up with his sister a month later because she was the last baby left of the season and the breeder was going on vacation. She had four legs at the time. They lived together in harmony for about nine months, then they got in a fight and the female lost one of her hind legs. Now they have seperate cages. And the male has a totally ghetto-rigged handicapped cage because without both front legs, he has a hard time climbing. My solution was to make him a ramp with two bricks, an old cutting wooden cutting board I found and a cardboard cat scratching post. It's ugly as hell, but he gets around great with that.

The main reason I even keep the male is because I feel that almost no one would provide a nice home to a handicapped vicious bearded dragon (and when I say vicious, I mean vicious). So basically, he's a gimpy asshole, so I keep him just because most people wouldn't deal with a gimpy asshole bearded dragon, especially since most of them are really sweet lizards.

[mykpart]

33. Why are you taking this course?

I mean, you are human, and since your screen name is lefty MOM, I think it's fair to assume you have had sex. Couldn't you have CLEP'ed this course?

[LeftyMom]

34. It's pretty interesting

I wish there were more cross-cultural comparison to it, but I enjoy the class.

I'm sure anything I happen to know about the subject is long out of date. It's been a while. ;)

[mykpart]

36. Maybe, but humans still

come in two models, and the parts are still the same, although sizes and preferences may change.

[Deja Q]

39. Need some help with the homework?

:evilgrin: :evilgrin:

[LeftyMom]

43. I finished without you.

Girls don't get to do that often enough. ;)

[Wetzelbill]

41. how many times a minute do I think about sex?

:think:

[LeftyMom]

44. You're a single guy

The easier question is "When don't I think about sex?" and the answer is probably: Bush speeches, when talking to female relatives, and when on the toilet, all other times are fair game.

[Jamastiene]

50. Can I watch?

:hi: }(