Today is my 30th b-day --- Is my life officially over?

[Blue_Tires]

Poll question: Today is my 30th b-day --- Is my life officially over?

I'm not sure when it happened, but somewhere along the line I started looking forward to birthdays as I do a trip to the dentist...I remember when I was younger, and I used to secretly mock friends, parents and relatives that had their anxieties about turning 30-40-50-60....But right now instead of celebrating I feel terrible about it...Granted, I do have a lot of crap and personal demons in my life I'm trying to work through, and I've been asking myself those eternal questions about life while not coming up with any answers....Maybe all the Sept. 11 hoopla is having its effect--Who knows? All I know is that I have not been happy for a long time now..

[CaliforniaPeggy]

1. My dear Blue_Tires!

Is your life officially over?

Pardon me, but this is BS!

I am now 62.....and I will be 63 in November........

There is no way your life is even half over........

You need to get some help here.......and get busy living, instead of being busy dying......

There are so many good things that you still can do!

Trust me on this..........

And, BTW.....Happy Birthday! :party:

[Blue_Tires]

9. thanks

i feel a little better now

[Broken_Hero]

2. Nope and

Happy Birthday ...:party: :toast: :hi:

[Blue_Tires]

10. thank you!

[Dem2theMax]

3. I had to vote for "be happy you even made it to 30."

I mean, we ARE living in bushworld. We're all lucky to be here. LOL?

I just turned 50 last month. It was traumatic at the time, but now I can't even remember what I did that day. (Maybe that's not a good sign?)

I think all 'big' birthdays make us do a bit of soul searching. So consider yourself right on schedule there. As for the crap and personal demons - I'm not making light of it, but we all go through rough spots. Hang in there and hold on to DU'ers. I have been so depressed lately about the state of the country/world, you name it - but I find hope here. This board gives me the will to keep fighting.

And by the way, you ARE young. Thirty is YOUNG in my mind. I'd give anything to go back to where you are and do it over. So take some advice. Take a good look at where you've been, what you've done that you'd like to change or do better or different, and do it. Then you won't be like me, wishing I were thirty and could do things over. You are young enough to make a real change and put a lot of positives in your life. You'll get over the bumps. And someday you'll be fifty and you'll think back on thirty and go "what was I thinking? Old at thirty?" ;)

:hug:

[Blue_Tires]

8. thanks for your insights

[Neoma]

4. Life at no matter what age...

Is still there if you're still living.

[Blue_Tires]

13. very true

[NMMNG]

5. Nah. You have another 10 years before your life is officially over.

:P

[Blue_Tires]

15. i'll repost this poll again 10 years from now!

[NMMNG]

17. That's the spirit!

:rofl:

[hfojvt]

16. just what I was going to say

and I have been dead 4.5 years now. Waitaminute. That means I will be 45 next spring (if I live that long) :argh: :hide: :cry: :argh: :hide: :cry:

[NMMNG]

18. I have nearly 2 years until my death

[Ron Green]

6. 30 is the new 12...

or often seems that way.

:P

Happy Birthday!

[Blue_Tires]

12. something like that

mentally i feel 45 years old, but emotionally i din't think i ever made it past 15, so maybe it all evens out

[Guava Jelly]

7. yup.. you may as well close the curtain!! the shows over.

All that is left is to buy a shovel and start digging a big hole to be buried in
:)

[Blue_Tires]

11. ah....a realist finally posts in the thread!

thanks for not sugar-coating it!:evilgrin:

[Guava Jelly]

14. Any time

:)

[BlueIris]

19. Dude, your "life," such as you may have enjoyed it, probably ended

like ten years ago.

Okay, seriously? Find something to do that gives your life meaning if this is how you feel about having sixty or more good years left to live.

[Blue_Tires]

20. believe me,

i've been looking for something to give my life meaning for awhile

[idgiehkt]

21. It think this will be your best decade probably.

I was pretty developmentally delayed for whatever reason so what most people go through in their teens I went through in my twenties. I was way behind. My early thirties were nice, and mid-thirties too. Now I'm starting to see some aging in my body in my late thirties which utterly sucks and I know it truly is all down hill from here.

[Blue_Tires]

26. thanks--i certainly hope so

because my previous decade sucked for the most part! hopefully i'm due for better times

[NewWaveChick1981]

22. Far from it!!!

My 30s were kind of chaotic, and I learned a lot from them. I'm 43 now, and I have more self-confidence and energy than I did in my 20s or my 30s. You have a lot to look forward to, so don't dwell on 30, or even 40. :bounce: :toast: :party:

Happy birthday, and many, many more!!! :hi:

[Blue_Tires]

27. thank you!

[Hand]

32. Don't listen to them...

You're doomed. Doomed. :evilgrin:

[RedStateShame]

23. I will quote you a line from one of my favorite albums

"It's ok to grow up, just as long as you don’t grow old. Face it: you are young."


Pulp, "This is Hardcore," the perfect album for aging.

[Blue_Tires]

28. interesting

i'm going to find that song

[XNASA]

24. I'll be 49 in a couple of weeks and "Yes", your life is over.

:cry:

[Blue_Tires]

29. happy (early birthday)

for some reason, a lot of male relatives on my father's side (including my father, who just turned 64) were born in September...

[XNASA]

34. Because it's 9 months after Christmas?

More or less.

[Blue_Tires]

38. good point

personally, i always thought it had more to do with new year's eve/day rather than christmas, but who knows?

[Skittles]

68. HEY!

I'll be 50 in March. :)

[reyd reid reed]

25. Hell,

Your life is just starting. Hell, I'm 45, think I'm 20 and act like I'm 15. I figure at this rate, I'll be ready for a playpen before much longer.

Hmmmmmmm...actually, now that I think about it, 'playpen' could be defined in any number of ways. So what if I'm 45? Anyone who can't appreciate the wisdom and experience that I've gained over the years doesn't deserve the benefit of it. And there are lots of benefits.

:evilgrin:

Happy birthday!!!!

[Blue_Tires]

30. thanks

that's the perspective i've been trying to have on it as well

[reyd reid reed]

57. You'll make it. And before you know it

you'll be posting about your 40th birthday and by then you'll realize that the fun's only starting.

:hug:

:hi:

[RetroLounge]

48. "I'm 45, think I'm 20 and act like I'm 15"

Wow, are you my twin?

:rofl:

RL

[reyd reid reed]

51. Nah...you're more handsome than I am.

But if you tell me about one more first edition you found for .50 and I might turn into your stalker.

:hi:

[RetroLounge]

52. Did I mention I got a whole bunch?

You should come over sometime and browse thru my titles...

:loveya:

RL

[reyd reid reed]

56. Ooooh...

browsing is one of my favorite things to do. Love to let my fingers do the walking...along the spines, tracing the details like they're trying to memorize them...

:loveya:

[CabalPowered]

31. 30 going on 31

I had some of the same anxiety but actually I'm quite comfortable now with the new decade. Never been happier. :hi:

[Blue_Tires]

39. good to hear!

thanks for the reply

[Oeditpus Rex]

33. DUDE! Get your ass to the ER RIGHT NOW!!!11

Didn't you know? Thirty is DEATH!!!11 :scared:

[Blue_Tires]

40. that's what i've been thinking up until now

but the day is almost over, and for the most part, i feel the same as yesterday, when i was still 29

[Left Is Write]

35. Happy Birthday, and certainly not!

I say this because I am 40.

[Blue_Tires]

42. thanks, Left Is Write

I'm an (unemployed) writer as well--that's a big source of much of the trouble in my life

[lildreamer316]

36. Are you kidding?

I loved 30. I loved 32 even more. I feel right at home in myself now, if that makes any sense. Besides, 30 is the new 20. Really.

[Blue_Tires]

43. i'm not sure where i heard that

"30 is the new 20" but the more i think about it, the more it makes sense

[JackDragna]

37. Of course it is!

It's the critical number. Nobody lives past that. Ever. Go get into a fight with a lion! GOODBYE, CRUEL WORLD!

[Blue_Tires]

44. that reminds me

what was that old sci-fi movie about people being forcibly executed on their 30-something birthday?

[JackDragna]

58. Logan's Run.

Good times.

[hotforteacher]

41. Ummm...welcome to your sexual prime.

You may now consider yourself a teenaged boy, libido-speaking.

[Blue_Tires]

45. the irony of ironies

i have no one to *share* the wealth with:cry:

are you a teacher as well? i've been a sub for a year, and i may think of going into it full time

[hotforteacher]

47. Yes, I am...and if you

can handle subbing, teaching is a snap.

Hey, I feel you on the sharing bit. I'm lucky if I can cash in maybe one weekend a month of the nookie (yeah, yeah, I know...I have friends who have been "incel"--involuntarily celibate for over two years, but I don't have extenuating circumstances like they do). It's a tremendous waste, really as those treasures really ought be...uh...brought out and USED as often as possible.

Three to four times a day on the weekend would be a nice start. :)

[bigwillq]

46. Of course it's not. You're just being silly!

Happy Birthday! :hi: :hug: :toast:

[Blue_Tires]

53. thank you, bigwillq

[TOhioLiberal]

49. speaking as somebody...

...who turns 45 in April, I say 'Christ, I hope not...'cause what does that make me? Mummified?' :rofl:
:toast: Happy Birthday, old timer! :evilgrin:

[Blue_Tires]

54. i guess maybe i've been feeling

older than i really am....time to reverse that kind of thinking

[Pierre.Suave]

50. Dude...

I just turned 30 in July, its awesome, except I still get carded.

[Blue_Tires]

55. wow.....

i had a beard as a teenager, so i haven't been carded for a long time!

[China_cat]

59. Ask yourself that question again when you turn 60.

[Blue_Tires]

60. good point

[Blue_Tires]

61. well, now that my day in the spotlight is over

time to let this one sink to the archives...thanks to all that voted/responded and tried, at least momentarily, to cheer me up a bit.....

as you probably guessed, turning the big 3-0 is the least of my problems right now...i guess i was feeling isolated....

[Kat45]

62. Happy Birthday! And it's not--it will definitely get better.

When I turned 30, I felt similar to how you feel. I was bored, lonely, had no boyfriend, or even dates--didn't even manage to get laid very often. Had a boring job. All my friends were involved with someone. I was totally bummed out, felt really old. And for us women, we can start feeling like we're too old for anyone to be attracted to any more. All of my friends except me got thrown birthday parties for their 30th that year. I sat home alone drinking and getting stoned, blasting the stereo.

But you know what? I feel silly about it now. True, I was unhappy then, but I certainly wasn't old. That year, I answered an ad in the back of a local music magazine and started doing things for the magazine. Then I started meeting more people and having more fun in my life. I still didn't have a boyfriend, but things started getting better.

I'm 51 now, and interestingly I've been getting laid more in my fifties than I did when I was 30! For a while I had a "friend with benefits" who was 15 years younger than me, and I recently met a man on an online dating site who I've been seeing for 5 months.

Keep on working through your crap and find something you enjoy doing. Then when you hit 40, you might be doing what I did at that age: I got my S.O. to throw me a huge birthday party with all my friends there. Good luck, and don't give up.

[Blue_Tires]

65. great story---thanks!

[Kerrytravelers]

63. I've never turned 30.

Only 29 a couple of time.



Denial- the gift that keeps on giving.

[u4ic]

64. Yep

Here's a shovel...start digging...x(


Nah - I don't feel my life even started until my late 20's. I feel better, much more confident at 40 than I ever have in my life.

I find life starts to be liberating around the mid-30 mark.

Keep working on releasing those personal demons...you will, with time and effort...life will get much better and become much more rewarding.

As for the eternal questions - I don't see anything wrong with that. To me, it signifies that you are wanting to do something with your life, to make something of it, because you recognize that we are only here briefly. Questioning is good...coming up with your own answers even better. There is no one size fits all. :hi:

[Blue_Tires]

66. thank you for the advice

[AirmensMom]

67. Well, my kid just turned 29.

That would make me O L D by your standards. :wtf: I'm looking at 50 in a few days and can tell you that it gets better! :woohoo: And, as Groucho Marx said, "You're only as old as the woman you feel." :rofl:

[GoneOffShore]

69. I added to your anxiety by voting "Of course"

But that vote comes from the perspective of 58, soon to be 59.

30, ha, I sneeze at 30, it is but a zephyr on the sea. 50 is a hurricane. If you're depressed now, just you wait.

[kid a]

70. no ...it ended at 20

[pitohui]

71. life begins at 40

so, er, no you ain't even been born yet