Turns out I really miss my love.

[Robb]

Och. We cried together, but she still left. And she begged me to stop talking, pleaded with me not to look at her any more, because it started the tears again.

Och. :( If being apart was right, wouldn't we not both be feeling like this?

[IChing]

1. Love is neither coherent or incoherent

sorry is this a major break?

[Robb]

5. In a word, yes

Nutshell: after 18 years raising a daughter solo, she now wants what I've already been through: fast-pace, jet-set. She's got one hell of an opportunity, but feels she can't be in a relationship and do it as well.

Profound sense of loss. And this is only Night 2.

[IChing]

16. If you love someone set them free

I know that sounds cliche but it is true.
Love is not a possession.
Freedom is an individual's moral dilemma.
Possession is what led to the bearers of the ring demise.

Love and freedom are more connected than we realize.

[Robb]

17. No argument here

None of which makes it less painful, sadly.

[reyd reid reed]

2. Sometimes it doesn't make sense

And sometimes, even though it's painful for both of you, it's still the right thing.

I don't know.

:hug::hug:

[Robb]

7. But what if it's not right?

I'm no love expert, but this is Auden's "first love of the world" here. And as much as I want her to go do this stuff, I want to be a part of it. Even if it means the crummy life of pining while she's away. :(

[reyd reid reed]

9. Y'know...there really aren't any answers

And love really is the most painful thing imaginable sometimes.

The only thing that'll tell you if it's right is time.

:hug:

[Robb]

13. Time is a sneaky prick, though

Time can convince you of anything. I fear time, I've been taken by it before. :(

None of which means you aren't right. But I don't trust time. Not. One. Bit.

[bicentennial_baby]

11. If it isn't right,

you'll both realize that. Maybe not today or tommorrow, but eventually. :hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

3. My dear Robb..........

No, sweetie........sometimes the correct thing to do hurts terribly......

And, conversely, doing the wrong thing can feel wonderful, for awhile anyway......

Try not to beat yourself up.......

It is going to hurt like hell for awhile.

I would seriously consider getting myself into the hands of a competent therapist, if I were you......

That will help more than you can know right now......:hug:

[u4ic]

19. Excellent points, Peggy

Those first two are so very true, aren't they? :hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

21. My dear u4ic.......

They sure are, sweetie......I know.....I've lived them.......:hug:

Thank you.......

[ZombieNixon]

4. Aw, dude.

Can't really offer anything but condolences, I'm afraid. :pals:

[HEyHEY]

6. well, why did you end it?

[Robb]

10. Not me, mon frere

She's making this decision. See above, she doesn't want to be a crappy girlfriend, and apparently values the new jet-set gig more than... than this we have.

[HEyHEY]

14. Well, I'm sorry to hear it, man

I went through the exact thing about two weeks ago. But for me it was the impending sense of loss. Lucky for me, I convinced her to keep it going long distance. When I thought it was certain that we were going to split, I cried like a baby.
I think you know there's nothing that can ease that kinda feeling.

Good luck

[bicentennial_baby]

8. Well, when my ex and I parted it was the most painful experience

of my life...tears and talking, packing and utter desolation. BUT, for me, it was the right thing. It didn't feel like it once I had initiated it, but it was...I feel for you. Just know that no matter what side of it you're on, it hurts bad... :hug: :hug: :hug:

[JVS]

12. Is this the girlfriend who was getting drunk all the time?

Because if it is, you're better off without her.

[Robb]

15. I hear you

But she had been doing so well, many months, until this new gig. They fly her everywhere, it started as this production company go-fer stuff, and she loved the pace. Then she found herself in the pictures. And they want her to pursue another dream, pilot licensing for the company's new plane. And they'll foot the bill. It's irresistable.

And it's got more value than being in a relationship, apparently. Because she's never done this fast-paced stuff, she never had a chance to be really footloose because of her daughter. Because of her daughter, she's already got a pre-built relationship that's always going to be there, and at this point with little work.

[Madrone]

20. No offense to you Robb -

but I agree with JVS. I know how much it hurts regardless of the issues you faced with her... but due to my recent enlightenment involving the world of addiction and addicts I also know it's BAD NEWS for those of us that may get caught up with them.

Thankfully your situation has never degenerated to the place I now find myself in - but alcoholism is no joke.

:hug: I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. I wish only the best for you - no matter what may be the final outcome.

[annagull]

18. I'm going through the same, Man it hurts

My X and I are not friends, he left me by prending he loved me and everything was great and then his brother, who is a lawyer, came down and he shocked me and told me he wanted out of our marriage. He shocked me out of my world, hey at least you had a warning shot. I am now doing much better after two months and am actually seeing someone now, there is hope.

[wildhorses]

22. Robb~If she is the woman worthy of you then she will find a way

to include you in her new life. Also, if she is truly your soulmate then she will come to realize (like you did) that the jet-set ain't all its cracked up to be. You seem to be a great guy (your internet persona, anyway...from what posts of yours I've seen) and I am sure that you will find something positive to take away from this experience. Even if you are only positive that it hurts like hell:P


all kidding aside :hug: