I'm either a saint, or a Bush-level moran

[jmowreader]

You remember on Friday when I started a thread about my wife packing up her bare necessities, smashing her computer, writing me a Dear John letter and disappearing to Tennessee, announcing that she never wanted to come back or to see me again?

Well, she called this morning. She said she made a "horrible mistake" and asked for forgiveness.

Which I, being either a very nice person or a very stupid one, gave her.

New plan.

I told her to go up to her mom's house in Illinois, and work out a deal where she could stay there for three or four months. I told her to get a job in her mom's locale to cover her living expenses--this will give me a chance to move from Home Depot to L3 Communications, start making some real money, and start getting this place fixed up. And then I told her she could come back.

When she comes back, the house will look a lot better and some of the smaller debt will be gone.

We're gonna have to get some counseling, though...that's obvious. And I really think she needs her head shrunk, so I'm gonna find a decent head-shrinker and have that dealt with.

This might actually be for the best, because (1) I'm going to get a better job, (2) I needed her out of the house anyway when I tore the bathroom out to replace the floor, and (3) she hasn't seen her mom in twelve years.

[Dangerously Amused]

1. .

:hug:

[jmowreader]

2. Thanks. I needed that.

[buddhamama]

3. i think you're

a compassionate and empathetic Man who is in love with his wife. :hug:

[bluethruandthru]

4. Every marriage goes through scary times...

Some people - like your wife - just act on their negative feelings. I think some of us just repress the feelings. We may leave 'in our minds' many times...but we never actually do it. Give her credit for apologizing...but you get the most credit for being a loving, forgiving husband! :hug:

[benny05]

5. Sounds like a Dan Fogelberg Tune

Called "Tennessee". Good luck to you and your spouse.

[Maestro]

6. I remember the thread.

I hope it works out. But for her to turn on the relationship so quickly then discover she made a mistake is disconcerting. Definitely seek counseling.

[skygazer]

7. Nah, you're just human

Which makes you nothing like Bush.

I read your thread about her leaving and what immediately struck me about it was the abruptness and the seemingly disconnected way in which she left (you mentioned that she'd gotten a car-top carrier from someone that would have carried all her stuff, including the computer she smashed but it was still behind the garage). That spoke to me of disorganized thought and made me wonder if she was - well, completely stable at the time. Speaking as a long-time bi-polar, it sounded like something I might do in the midst of an "episode."

Might she be bi-polar? You also spoke, I think, about her spending habits being a bit out of control - that can be sign of a manic phase. I don't mean to go all Bill Frist here and make diagnoses over the internets, but it sounds like head-shrinking would sure be in order.

Beyond that, I think you're a good man and I wish you both the best of luck. :hug:

[Haole Girl]

8. Wishing you both the best.

:hug: