Does Your GF/BF/Spouse Know How Many Sexual Partners You Have Had?

[La Lioness Priyanka]

lets try to keep this thread unlocked...

if you dont have one now...in the past have you told your partners

[NewWaveChick1981]

1. Yes.

:) He doesn't know the details on most of them, but he knows.

I know the number he's had too. Not that it's a contest, but let's just say I've had more than he has. :P

[Katina]

103. Yes

and since it was all before I met him (and all before he met me) it is irrelevent.

[MrCoffee]

2. yes

[BarenakedLady]

3. Hell NO!

Ooops, did I just say that out loud?

[billyskank]

16. Nope

nobody heard a thing

[BarenakedLady]

21. Phew...

Thank goodness for that.

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

4. I'm single but no. I never discussed it.

Honestly, I never had a gf that asked and I never asked them. I've dated people that have insisted on making sure I was clean of STDs and we've gotten tested together. If someone asked the number of partners I've had, I'd tell them though.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

6. ohh tell me....!

i generally tell them any one set of numbers...boys/girl/trannies...

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

9. 3/7/2

Both trannies were FTMs.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

11. hmm...yeah if you wanna know mine..i am in no position to publicly

announce it...

5 trannies though, thats my respectable number

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

13. I don't really care.

PM me if you want.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

18. yeah i was just being funny

but almost everyone i date asks me...and i have found nifty ways of avoiding this question...i was very umm busy in college

[LostinVA]

82. Yeah -- if someone asks me, I'll tell

[Divameow77]

5. Nope

and he doesn't want to. I'm not sure if the number would disturb him or not, but I bet it's less then his.

[ohiosmith]

7. No. She thinks I'm still a virgin.

[ContraBass Black]

8. Always.

[idgiehkt]

10. I don't even know, lol.

I am single...but just responded because I tried to tally them up the other day and then the next day I remembered two whole guys that I had totally forgotten about. One was just a one night stand, but one I actually dated for a few months.

There really are not that many, lol, but every time I try to list them I always leave someone out.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

12. this happens to me too

[LiberalHeart]

17. you didn't forget two whole guys...

Just a certain part of them.

[idgiehkt]

20. bad, huh...

I could actually kick myself. One was a very tall, dark, and handsome dude with a motorcycle I met through some friend out in the boondocks...we actually a)went '4-wheelin' (and broke the 4 wheel drive on the truck) while b) getting completely smashed on white lightnin from a mason jar. Don't know whose still it came from, just that we had both cane and corn liquor that night and the corn liquor was repulsive, by far the nastiest form of alcohol I've ever had. I remember that particular guy as a major missed opportunity. The other guy was actually a friend of his that I dated directly previous. Mr. tall, dark and handsome was my consolation prize after dude #1 left me for an underage girl he used to beat up all the time...

:rofl:

sigh...those were the days.

[billyskank]

14. No gf/bf/spouse to know

but let's simply say, I am very low mileage

[William Bloode]

15. No.

Not their buisness, whats past is past. Just as i really don't want to know about my spouse either.

[ceile]

19. Yep.

We counted one night. We were pretty evenly matched. }(

[cobalt1999]

22. Nope.

I don't want to know, and I can't see any benefit that can come out of it.

[taterguy]

23. We don't share details of our past

We know bits and pieces but mostly it's on a need to know basis, like if we're doing something social with one of our exes.

I've never sat down and taken an inventory; and it gets all Clintonian. There were a lot of people that I did sexual things with that I never had intercourse with and I don't know where to draw the lines.

[idgiehkt]

29. oh

I didn't think about adding them in.

I read somewhere...I think it was a link in WindRaven X's journal called 'fuck South Dakota'...that if someone else makes someone else come it's sex. I have to count it that way since there is no penis with the women I've been with...man it could get complicated, I can totally see why not to bother.

[taterguy]

33. I'm a straght guy. How would I know if the other person climaxed?

:evilgrin:

[idgiehkt]

50. you'd know if it was me...

(along with anyone in the general vicinity)

anyone else, I can't speak for
:evilgrin:

[taterguy]

53. You'd be surprised at what us straight guys don't know

Besides, aural cues don't mean that much. Some women are very good at faking

[idgiehkt]

57. I've never had to

fake it. Really. If it isn't working for me then we'll negotiate around til it does work.

But you'r right, I forgot all about that faking thing.

[LostinVA]

84. I betcha most women are very good at faking

[idgiehkt]

88. then they need to be smacked.

sorry, but that's just f*cking stupid.

who is it helping? Why waste your time and his...help him get it right or get off and go watch tv or something.

[regnaD kciN]

90. "I'll have what she's having"...

:evilgrin:

[MnFats]

68. there are things that happen during orgasm that can't

be faked.

[LostinVA]

83. Hehehe

[HEyHEY]

24. Yes, but I don't know how many she's had

I have a general idea (about 6). She's too embarrassed to tell, but will one day (she says). I don't ask her about it. She feels guilty about it and shouldn't. None have been one-nighters, and all were with people she was in some kind of relationship with.
Convincing her she hasn't been a "whore" is a tough job, but I've been working on it.

[Phillycat]

31. 6 and she thinks she's a whore?

HAHAHAHAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[La Lioness Priyanka]

32. yeah double that and she still wouldnt even be slutty

atleast not according to me

but i also often use the word slut as a compliment

[idgiehkt]

36. I rather like that word too

I'm still looking for the one that appreciates it's value and knows how to use it at just the right moment. ;-)

[HEyHEY]

37. Want her email address?

Mayeb you could talk some sense into her

[La Lioness Priyanka]

39. i doubt i could

but you could try using the word slutty to describe people (men and women) you like...and try being sex positive...and emphasize that sluttiness can sometimes be a great thing

all my friends are slutty and i like it this way

[HEyHEY]

35. Thank the loser christian friends she hangs out with

Who, by the way, probably think she's a virgin... cause I doubt they'd even hang out with her if they knew... Considering they try to get her to dump me because I'm not a religious. Great friends.
I've told her never bother introducing me to them... cause I really don't think I'd be able to fake being nice to them.

[idgiehkt]

38. I had a feeling it was the biblical stuff

that was making her feel that way. Here's hoping that you will bring her a better valuation of herself and a different perspective than what she's been exposed to so far. She shouldn't have to feel guilty for being human.

[HEyHEY]

43. I know - it's a real drag

There's no reason such and amazing, compassionate woman should have any reason for feeling bad about herself. I blame society too. I remember this one girl I had a brief affair with. She and I were fooling around the night before I went back to Vancouver for god knows how long. We decided we were gonna sleep together... so I went out to get protection, came back and she'd changed her mind. That was fine, I wasn't upset or anything (though I WAS hoping to get laid) anyway... she apologized like three times for not sleeping with me.
What the fuck has society done to women that makes them think they need to apologize for ANYTHING to do with sex? "I slept with too many people, sorry." or "I didn't sleep with you, sorry."

I mean, it's fucking awful.

I mean, hey, I once had a threesome with a 22-year-old girl and a 44-year-old man... granted I ran like hell after about five minutes... but I sure as fuck don't feel sorry for it. Most of my experiences have been one-nighters.... I don't feel sorry for that... my GF has never done any of that stuff and feels the needs to feel bad.

[idgiehkt]

47. It sounds to me like you are the best thing to happen to her

in a while, possibly yet. Nobody should be caught up in a group of friends that need to police each other like that...that is just disrespectful and an invasion of privacy. A real friend just wants what's best for their friend and only wants them not to get hurt. I hope she can learn this from you. These fundies she's surrounded by seem like major a-holes.

[HEyHEY]

52. That's why it's so good that she's out of town

SHe can meet and hang with "normals" she has normal friends down here... that's how I met her.. and those friends really are a great bunch. It's the judgemental christian fuckers I can't stand. But, her good friends all told her to stay with me during our debate... so they're even more awesome in my books.

[idgiehkt]

59. more and more I bet she'll get tired of those fundie sticks in the mud.

And she'll probably get tired of their insults once she realizes that she is in fact being insulted by them. I'm glad to know she has another group of friends that is sane and normal. Between them and you hopefully she'll hang out with the fundies less and less.

[HEyHEY]

63. Yeah

I sometimes forget she's young (Five years younger than me) and I remember how my ideals and things changed during that time.
Of course I was batshit crazy half the time too... so that helped.
But, I think she'll realize many things up there on her own.

[idgiehkt]

66. I bet she will too

just not having that element around her and realizing that she feels so much better without it, she'll get stronger and be more willing to stand up to those miserable folks.

Then she'll probably be mad at her self for listening to their b.s. as long as she did. It just takes times sometimes.

[ronnykmarshall]

64. 6????

In my day 6 would be a slow day .... uh I mean week.

[HEyHEY]

71. Well, that's my guess

Considering she's never had a one night stand and six is roughly the amount of ex boyfriends I've ever heard her talk about.
I mean, she had alot of relationships that only lasted four months or so... so of course you're gonna screw the other person in that amount of time. Her only "One night stand" type thing turned INTO a relationship. So, there ya have it.

[azmouse]

25. Yes, because he's the only one.

and I'm his only.

[Deja Q]

27. Congrats.

Did you know I went out on a one-night stand, just to know what it felt like, before my second suicide attempt? Amusingly, I stopped halfway through the session as I was freaked out over getting AIDS.

I didn't kill myself the next day either. :)

That was over 16 years ago.

Still disease free, which I am grateful for.

The only disease I probably have is heart disease. (not emotional, the action blood-pumping device.) And I'm still debating as to whether or not I want to combat it.

[azmouse]

30. I'm glad you're still here.

I've enjoyed talking to you when I get the chance.

I met my husband when I was very young, only 17 and he was 19. We fell for each other immediately and never felt the need to see other people. We knew we'd always be together. Hopeless romantics, I guess. :)

I hope you find someone special too! :hug:

[Deja Q]

42. Thank you, you're too kind.

Hope and reality are two separate paradigms, however.

[Deja Q]

26. I prefer people ask as I have little to hide. More importantly,

I like being honest and upfront.

If it scares people off, that's their problem.

I've had few partners, none of them worth having, and at this point I've given up on men entirely. For several reasons, you may not want to assume anything...

[anarch]

28. no, and neither do I

Just kidding...I think she does, yes, more or less.

[LeftyMom]

34. I'd tell him if he asked, but I don't think I've ever mentioned it.

As long as somebody's healthy, does it matter if they've had two partners or twenty? I don't really think it does.

[Shine]

40. Yup.

frankly, it's not been THAT many, so it's not a big deal.

:D

:hi: Pri!

[Midlodemocrat]

41. Yes for me and Yes for him.

Married 17 years on Saturday. Three kids. Been to hell and back, so it's not an issue.

[AutumnMist]

44. Yep...

He sure does! :evilgrin:

[TheFriendlyAnarchist]

45. You been watching Clerks or something?

[MnFats]

46. no. i gave her an estimate.

was the best i could do

[HEyHEY]

48. My buddy has good advice on this BTW

He says if you're bothered by how many partners a partner of yours has had... go into every relationship assuming they've fucked the entire world. THen no matter what the number.. it's a relief.

[skygazer]

49. Hell, I don't know how many sexual partners I've had

Was I supposed to be keeping track?

[flvegan]

51. HAHAHAHAHA!!! You BET I did!!

She asks me, "will you tell me about your previous sexual partners." So I said, "well there was a Brazilian..." And she says, "JUST how many IS a brazilian???!!!"

She seemed sort of pissed...

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

55. Haha...you're such a dick.

[HEyHEY]

56. Apparently a walking one

[flvegan]

75. Know what they say...takes one to

nevermind.

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

77. Eh, I have multiple ones...

I keep them in a drawer.

[flvegan]

79. But as has been proven here

it only takes one dildo...

[flvegan]

74. How so?

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

76. Working the Brazilian joke in there.

[flvegan]

78. Jealous, much?

It rawked, you know it. Sorry, but that post...it. was. the. shit.

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

92. Speaking. of. the. shit.

There's someone who does believe in democracy in the "I am a democrat" thread.

[LeftyMom]

81. He's still trying to catch up.

He won't though. :D

[mtnester]

54. Absolutely no

no no no

[CaliforniaPeggy]

58. Only one sexual partner for me......

And the same is true for my husband.......just one.

We were virgins.......

I've been tempted, though, since............

[LostinVA]

85. All the California surfer dudes, Pegs?

[CaliforniaPeggy]

87. Nope.........

I didn't run in those circles......

Let's just say there's been some awfully sexy men down the road ........

And leave it at that..........

[LostinVA]

91. You wild California Girls....

[ronnykmarshall]

60. Hell I can't even remember!

He just knows that at one time there was a revolving door at my apartment.

[HEyHEY]

61. And the sex shop down the street sold K.Y. from a gas pump?

[ronnykmarshall]

100. I had one installed in my place.

Why bother with the schelp down the street!

[femmocrat]

73. Let me guess... it was the '60s... or maybe the '70s? LOL

n/t

[ronnykmarshall]

98. 90's !!!

I was always a safety gal!

[fudge stripe cookays]

93. You too?

Can I get a hi-five, ladies and gentlemen?

[ronnykmarshall]

97. G'on guuuurrrrllll!

:yourock:

[GoddessOfGuinness]

62. Seems unwise to go there.

It's sufficient for us to know that neither of us was inexperienced or STD-infested when we became a couple.

[Kajsa]

65. Nope, no way.

That was then.
This is now.

[Xithras]

67. Of course.

If you're sig-o is uncomfortable with your past, your relationship has problems.

[MnFats]

69. we are talking about a two-digit number....

..BUT! never an STD; never got anyone pregnant....except when I wanted to! They're' the sweetest kids alive, too.

[Rabrrrrrr]

70. Yes. I thought it was the fair and honest thing to do.

Not to say that it must be that way with everyone, but for me, I felt it the right thing to do.

But then, my partner is the only one that I've ever been with, so it wasn't all that difficult to give her a number.

:-)

[femmocrat]

72. Nope. He never asked, and I didn't volunteer. n/t

[ganeshji]

80. this may be wrong but

my husband doesn't know, my girlfriend knows, and my boyfriend has no idea. They all know sort of know each other. It's a step.

[HEyHEY]

86. I have a feeling they could go to the local gas station washroom and learn

[xchrom]

89. first i wouldn't go out with some one who hasn't

been a round the block more than a little.

second sexploits make great pillow talk -- so yes telling about how many and fun events are a regular part of my routine.

i am simply uninterested in people who haven't had a number of partners.

[ganeshji]

94. Multi-tasking

Variety is good. Nice, clean, protected variety.

[Ellen Forradalom]

95. He's never asked

So I've never told.

[ganeshji]

96. I don't know

I just think variety is ok. Nice, clean, protected variety.

[Roon]

99. Some things are left better unsaid eom

[Mutley]

101. Not an exact number or anything

but I don't hide the fact that I have a past.

[rbnyc]

102. Yes. I just asked him.

He said, well over 100.

Then he asked me if I knew how many partners he's had. I was 2 off. Pretty close.

[lavenderdiva]

104. Locking