Well my Christmas is ruined.....

[Sean Reynolds]

Goddamn jackass of a father fucking ruins yet another Christmas. Life really sucks I'll tell ya' what.

[everythingsxen]

1. Care to elaborate?

Whats up man..

[Lisa0825]

2. Sorry, hun.....

I used to have those years too.... now I have no family to celebrate with. Sometimes that depresses me... until I remember how much stress I miss out on!!! I hope it gets better for you.

[Jack_Dawson]

3. Whud he doo?

[DrWeird]

4. Want to talk about it?

Or do you just want to smoke a bowl?

:smoke:

[impeach the gop]

8. Yeah,

Just like Willie (Nelson)would do :-)

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

5. I'm so sorry, Sean

I really wish your dad would get the help he needs or that you could get away from him...I've seen you have to deal with his violence for far too long (I am assuming it was another violent outburst)

Hang in there and hang out with us if it gets too much..at least you know you have the space to communicate here.

[Bucky]

6. Now you know how the twins feel

[Sean Reynolds]

7. He's an ass, an utter ass that needs to just die.

I'm sick of his abuse, I'm sick of him screwing over my mother and me. I hate life, really I do. Nothing ever seems to get better for me, it's as if I'm cursed.

Year in and year out life fucks Sean over and over.

[ProfessorGAC]

9. Do Your Best To Chill, Sean

Don't do anything foolish. Just do your best to bide your time and eventually you'll make your own way. Call a crisis line if you have to.
The Professor

[Skittles]

10. Sean, do what I did and leave home as soon as you can

you need to get away. I felt the same way you did when I was your age and I got the hell out.

[Sean Reynolds]

11. I can't.....

I need to stay here with my mom. We've talked about kicking him out and me paying the bills. If push comes to shove, that will be our first step. I could never, EVER leave my mother with him alone though.

[jonnyblitz]

13. your mother is lucky

you are there and won't leave her. I would do the same thing. I hope you get through this ok. Be well dude and keep us posted.

[moosedog]

17. Sean...

Your mom is so lucky to have a son like you. I wish I could give you some advise. Your post tell me that you should not be treated so poorly. Could you go to your family dr and ask him if there is something you can do? I sure wish I could do something to help you. Be strong and take yourself and your mom far away. Perhaps to Austrailia or somewhere. Just know that I care.....Mrs. Moose

[Atman]

12. Deep breath Sean.

I am so sorry to hear anyone talk this way. I don't know you, nor your situation, but jesus, son...take pro-active steps that don't involve killing people. Just saying so here could get you in a world of Ashcroftian trouble. Grab mom late one night, make sure she has her wallet, stop at the ATM and drain the accounts, and keep driving.

Please, for the sake your future relations with anyone, boy/girl/in-laws/siblings/children...DON'T allow yourself to be reduced to the violence your Dad resorts to. Killing never solves problems, and usually makes things worse. Ask W.

Good luck to you, Sean. Sincerely. Peace.

[Sean Reynolds]

14. I would if I could....

A little history. In the summer of 1996 my grandfather had a stroke. My grandmother asked my mom, dad and me to move in for we could help take care of him. So we sold our old house and moved in with them. Well in March of 2002 my grandfather died, but my mom decided to still stay with grandma to help her out. Sadly, last month she too died. The house belongs to all the daughters, but they all agreed to let my mom stay there. So it's the family's house, not his, so we can't leave it.

[Wonk]

21. So, what did your dad do this time?

:shrug:

[liberalnurse]

25. You are so funny!

You always have your pulse on the mood. :yourock:

[Lady Freedom]

31. Who is the package under the tree?

:evilgrin:

[Wonk]

32. I don't know, but WannaJumpMyScooter might

:shrug:
http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=105&topic_id=569893#569966

[LWolf]

28. Unfortunately,

what you can do is very limited without agreement from your mom. First step: a restraining order to remove him and keep him from violating your space. The rest of life follows.

Best wishes.

:hugs:

[liberalnurse]

18. Sean.....

I find you to be a fine, brillant young man. It pulls at my heart strings that you suffer. You are so insighful about life, I've been very impressed and have bragged about you in private.

No one here can change your father, you are stuck with him but you don't have to tolerate him. You mom can make her own choices and you don't have to rescue her...thats not your job. Maybe you can go stay with friends, talk to a school counselor and find balance.

My heart is with you this Christmas ....... :yourock:




:grouphug:

[Cleita]

15. Gee Sean that's terrible.

Do you go to Al Anon meetings? I'm sure others have had similar experiences and sharing with others in the same boat might help make your burden easier to bear.

[Blade]

16. I'm in the same fucking boat you're in...

both of my parents ruined my god damn Christmas, as well as my whole fucking life. I myself have ruined my whole fucking life as well. Happy fucking Christmas to me too. :eyes:

I feel like getting so fucking drunk tonight that I won't wake up til January 2nd.

[liberalnurse]

20. Are you old enought to drink?

Drinking to get drunk won't change anything. It just will delay you dealing with the issues.

My heart goes out to you as well. Don't fall short of the plan. Work it through.

[Blade]

22. I'm 21...

so I have every right to drink my life away. Beer is a temporary solution, so I'm going to be drinking it all the f'n time now. Long story, don't want to get into it.

[SpaceCatMeetsMars]

23. Blade and Sean, don't LET anyone ruin your life, do something for

yourself, both of you, and go get some advice from professionals who deal with this day in and day out. You both deserve a decent life. And there are people that can help you deal with this crap that you don't deserve.

[Blade]

24. no..

i think all hope is gone. i've tried and tried, only got failure. I just don't know anymore.

[TreasonousBastard]

27. Blade and Sean...

it sounds quaint, trite and silly to say, but all hope is not gone.

You are not responsible for what is done to you, only for what you do.

Both of you seem bright and reasonably hardworking and healthy and there is no reason to lose hope or become despondant. This too shall pass, and you will find a way out.

There IS a way out, although I'm sitting over here and can't tell you just what it is. But, I've seen enough and been through a lot in my life, and there is always a way out. Find a place in the woods, or a private room, or somone who agrees to just shut up and watch for a while and shout your heads off, cry, agonize, break useless stuff and get it all out of your system.

Clear your heads, and you will see what to do.

That's all I can say from here.

[AlFrankenFan]

19. Every other X-Mas my father ruins mine...

...by forcing us to go to his house in Pennsylvania. It is not fun. I don't know why he even bothers bringing my brother and I there.

[mmm]

26. kick his ass out!

you didn't lose your arms and legs,
you aren't going to the chair for a crime you didn't
commit, you aren't ninety years old and living in a box.

Kick his stupid ass right out that door!

[Valerie5555]

29. Mine too thanks to Bush aka the chickenpoop coward in chief

for I was still skittish about even sending a Christmas card to this guy I knew indirectly in Washington D.C. and his wife and part of me is fated to spend the holidays "waiting for Bin Laden or Bin A Islamically Insane Lunatic's other boot to drop," and also half expecting the boot to drop on Washington D.C. and that the cowardly jerk would fly out of harm's way while people like the Laingens (as in that very former Tehran captive and his wife) suffer from and deal with the consequences of that "boot dropping," thanks to Bush boldly egging on the terrorists with comments like "BRING IT ON," thanks to Bushcrap and his terror alerts.


On second thought maybe I will decide I should make time to send the cards or the "terrorists will have won." :D


On edit: Sorry if my message was "too political," but I just wanted to rant about how much I also loathe Bush or * for causing the undermining of a beautiful nearly 4 year friendship between me and these people in Washington D.C. I knew indirectly, 1 of whom is a Republican (but I still didn't hold that against him.).

[CoNnOc]

30. “No one ever dies a virgin, Life always fucks you”

Merry Christmas :)

[OffWithTheirHeads]

33. Been there, done that

Just kick the motherfuckers ass! They don't know how to deal with real resistance and they just whimp out when confronted with someone who won't take their shit. Hit the son of a bitch with a baseball bat if you have to but don't take anymore of his crap and don't let your mother suffer anymore.

[grasswire]

34. so if the house belongs to all the sisters.....

....couldn't all the sisters get behind your mom and support her in moving him out and getting a restraining order against him?

Hmmm?

Or maybe all the other sisters would like to buy out your mom's share and she could use it to get away somewhere secret and safe?

Do other people know about the abuse? Or are you required to keep it a secret?

And why does your mother stay with him? You shouldn't have to be the buffer -- that's an impossible position for you to be in.

[latebloomer]

35. good points!

Your mother needs to find the strength to get this man out of her life. If she won't or can't, you need to extricate yourself so you can live the life you deserve.

First step-- Find a counselor.

[Pale Blue Dot]

36. Sean, first of all I'm sorry.

You have to try to take care of yourself. Have you had any treatment for depression? It would be very likely that someone who has gone through what you've gone through would be suffering from it, and you exhibit some of the symptoms here. Please understand that there is no shame in it. I have suffered from it, and my acknowledgment of that fact has helped me tremendously.

I would suggest you see a guidance counselor about this. Getting treatment for depression might help you see things in a completely different way. I'm not saying you will, or should feel differently about your jerk of a father, but you might more clearly see some solutions that you cannot see now.

Anyway, I hope this post does more help than harm, and good luck.

[Valerie5555]

38. Your dad and the Shrubbery are 2 of a kind or

ASSHOLES

[bif]

37. At least my brother isn't coming over!

To spend the whole fucking evening giving you a blow by blow about how he shot all the deer he killed this fall. And then getting into it about how everyone should be armed and how black people are ruining this country. I'm really looking forward to another Christmas with my family! Yeah, right.