I returned a Christmas card to the sender

[Dirty Hippie]

From an old flame that really broke my heart and stomped on it in the process.

She wanted to remain friends but I felt I would never recover if we remained in contact so I asked her never to contact me again.

Lo and behold, out of the blue she sends a christmas card complete with a picture of herself in her home in Hawaii with some inane Christmas greeting.

Frankly, I felt she was gloating.

So I put it in another envelope and mailed it back to her.

It may have been a bit petty but I feel better.

[ronnykmarshall]

1. Good for you

I wouldn't have opened it when I saw the return address. That makes it even better.

[Dirty Hippie]

4. Unfortunately

she did not put her name in the return address, otherwise I would not have opened it. Sneeky eh?

[bearfan454]

2. Darn good !

I hate it when they do that kind of stuff. It can make you have bad memories and then feel bad.

[havocmom]

3. glad you feel better

Keep up the good healing. There is plenty of good life after a heartbreak. Sometimes, life is SOOOOOOOOO much better. We can never really be sure of what's around the next corner.

Oh, and she was the petty one to have sent you the gloat-o-gram.

Have a great new year OMG!

edit: cuz I am the typo queen

[November 2004]

5. Right on!

"she was the petty one to have sent you the gloat-o-gram"

[Bertha Venation]

6. Well done!

And screw "petty" -- SHE was petty because you asked her not to try to get in touch with you and she basically said "screw that, I'll do what I want to do." SHE's the petty one.

YOU are the bomb.

[RC]

7. Why the break up in the first place?

Did she cheat on you? Play mind games? Use you?
Who broke it off? Sounds like she did. Did she have a reason? Maybe she was having second thoughts and she was using that card to reach out to you for a second chance.
I for one need more to go on here before I will sympathize with you.

[Bertha Venation]

8. a broken heart + "don't contact me ever again"

isn't enough?

(edited to remove something that wasn't fair to RC)

[RC]

10. I learned a long time ago

don't be so quick to judge when hearing only side. There is usually enough blame to go around. Too many people play games & practice deceit. Not being fully honest kills the friendship, which then ends the relationship.

[Dirty Hippie]

9. I think if she had been reaching out

to me she would have included a message that was a bit more personal and maybe stated she was interested in talking. Instead it was impersonal.

And yea, she wanted the breakup. I was totally and completely in love with her but after 5 years she decided she wanted to relocate. I considered going along but she let me know I was not welcome.

On edit - Of course that is the very short version.

[Carni]

11. Before you mailed it back...

You should have written on it..."The islands must be treating you well, looks like you've gained some weight" LOL

[flattop]

12. wrong move!

Now she KNOWS it still hurts. You should have sent a return to her saying something like "your place looks great! I may be attending a conference (whatever) in Hawaii next yr, love to see it!"
"LOVE Hawaii! Just got back from 10 days there with my girlfriend"
"sorry I havent kept in touch, been so busy around here"
"just made a porn film with your sister"

Just a few ideas.............

[Dirty Hippie]

13. I like it!!!

Maybe I'll retrieve it from the mailbox and embellish.

On edit: I once considered telling a mutual friend that I had inherited a couple of million but my honesty got the better of me.

[KG]

14. shoulda just 'filed' it.

file 13.

[Bronco69]

15. She WANTS you to respond.

Regardless if she wrote anything on the card. Now that you've found out what type of person she is, go ahead and send her a reply. Be nice, but let her know you are getting along great without her.