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Patiod (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 01:08 PM Original message |
Required vs Optional - support of aging parents? |
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Rabrrrrrr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 01:15 PM Response to Original message |
1. If your brother doesn't care, he doesn't care. |
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BeFree (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 01:20 PM Response to Reply #1 |
2. Go fly a kite |
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pitohui (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 01:32 PM Response to Reply #2 |
7. i think the poster was making a statement of fact |
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Rabrrrrrr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 01:38 PM Response to Reply #2 |
13. So if your dad beat the shit out of you your whole life, denigrated you, |
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Patiod (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 01:47 PM Response to Reply #13 |
16. Spoken like a true Guy |
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pitohui (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 02:31 PM Response to Reply #16 |
31. well i'm a woman and i'm capable of making a choice based on self interest |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 03:54 PM Response to Reply #16 |
38. I'm a woman and I agree with Rabrrrr completely. |
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China_cat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 05:00 PM Response to Reply #16 |
46. In my family the women would have been more than |
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Midlodemocrat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 02:01 PM Response to Reply #13 |
20. I agree. You don't have a moral requirement to take care of him. |
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Patiod (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 01:33 PM Response to Reply #1 |
9. Thanks - I'm lucky to have an understanding SO |
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Midlodemocrat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 02:06 PM Original message |
I agree with Rabrrrrr, you need to take care of yourself. |
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Lars39 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 01:23 PM Response to Original message |
3. One of my brothers is doing a similar avoidance... |
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philosophie_en_rose (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 01:23 PM Response to Original message |
4. "Optional" |
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Patiod (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 01:35 PM Response to Reply #4 |
10. I have friends who are sisters - same story |
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pitohui (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 01:23 PM Response to Original message |
5. it is optional |
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Courtesy Flush (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 01:29 PM Response to Original message |
6. There must be a name for this phenomenon |
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pitohui (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 01:32 PM Response to Reply #6 |
8. it's the prodigal son |
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Patiod (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 01:36 PM Response to Reply #6 |
11. My mother once asked me what she should serve for dinner |
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fudge stripe cookays (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 01:38 PM Response to Original message |
12. I'm having this quandary right now. |
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Patiod (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 01:58 PM Response to Reply #12 |
19. Yikes! That's appalling. |
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fudge stripe cookays (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 02:06 PM Response to Reply #19 |
22. Thanks. |
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fudge stripe cookays (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 01:43 PM Response to Original message |
14. A friend of mine put it really well... |
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miss_american_pie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 01:45 PM Response to Original message |
15. I wouldn't agree that it's a basic requirement |
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Strawman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 01:52 PM Response to Original message |
17. Maybe set a boundary with your mother regarding your time |
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Patiod (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 02:06 PM Response to Reply #17 |
21. Thanks for your good thoughts |
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Strawman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 02:44 PM Response to Reply #21 |
33. My wife has a similar issue with her mom/sister |
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Phillycat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 02:14 PM Response to Reply #17 |
25. I agree with every word of your answer. |
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Midlodemocrat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 01:57 PM Response to Original message |
18. BTDT. You won't regret helping your folks. |
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Patiod (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 02:08 PM Response to Reply #18 |
23. I'm taking the same approach Midlodem! |
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Midlodemocrat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 02:13 PM Response to Reply #23 |
24. Believe me, I feel your pain. It is so hard to care for aging parents |
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AngryAmish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 02:15 PM Response to Original message |
26. It is a requirement |
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Midlodemocrat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 02:17 PM Response to Reply #26 |
27. She's the one doing the caring, she's just venting about her brother, |
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fudge stripe cookays (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 02:18 PM Response to Reply #26 |
28. I'm 40. |
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begin_within (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 02:19 PM Response to Original message |
29. I take care of my 88-year-old Mom full time, and my sisters do nothing to help. They |
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Patiod (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 03:13 PM Response to Reply #29 |
35. Oh, he grew up Catholic, he'll be burdened alright!!! |
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begin_within (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 04:25 PM Response to Reply #35 |
43. What I meant was... |
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flamingyouth (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 02:24 PM Response to Original message |
30. I feel for you. |
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azmouse (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 02:39 PM Response to Original message |
32. I think it's optional but it's a good thing to do if you can. |
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Patiod (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 03:14 PM Response to Reply #32 |
36. Thank you so much. |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 02:56 PM Response to Original message |
34. I 'm sorry you're in a sucky situation, but I don't agree that it's a requirement. |
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fudge stripe cookays (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 03:26 PM Response to Reply #34 |
37. Unless... |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 04:14 PM Response to Reply #37 |
40. Thanks and you're welcome. |
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fudge stripe cookays (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 04:19 PM Response to Reply #40 |
41. You are awesome. |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 04:26 PM Response to Reply #41 |
44. Do what you need to do to take back your life. It will always be hard and |
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Left Is Write (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 04:00 PM Response to Original message |
39. I really feel for you. |
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Patiod (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 04:24 PM Response to Reply #39 |
42. Thanks LisR! |
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Book Lover (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jan-03-07 04:29 PM Response to Original message |
45. If they supported you, then you should support them |
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