How do you justify your infidelities?

[Bucky]

Poll question: How do you justify your infidelities?

It's always challenging. Let's share.

[Deja Q]

1. Ain't never been in a relationship that warranted infidelity...

Ain't never been in a relationship, but I'd wait for the partner to cheat on me first... :evilgrin:

[thefool_wa]

2. I don't justify infidelity

Because I avoid it at all costs! :)

I love my wife and would never sully our relationship by sleeping with another woman. Besides, if I did that I would never get to sleep with my wife again and that is totally unacceptable.

There you have it.

[LaurenG]

3. Hasn't happened

I haven't been in that situation before. :shrug:

[Bucky]

4. Hey no one EXPECTS to get hit by a tornado. But you need to be prepared anyway.

Seriously, what are gonna do if it happens... take responsibility for your own actions?

[crim son]

5. Yes.

In the case of infidelity, you have betrayed your relationship. Whether or not you have a "reason" you do not have a right to expect that relationship to continue. And if it does, I pity your partner.

This is a situation with which I am familiar.

[thefool_wa]

7. PREACH ON GIRL!

Infidelity isn't a tornado ripping the trailer park of your mariage appart. Its more like the can of gasoline you dumped all over it then set afire with your lies!

(of course I mean the general sense of "you" - not yoou specifically my dear crim son :))

[crim son]

8. It's okay.

And I am not the victim, I am the perpetrator. Instead of leaving a bad marriage, I went elsewhere. Our marriage is now ending. I deeply regret not having ended it before I got into a relationship that ended up to be meaningless anyway.

One thing I have learned is that if you haven't been in a situation, you may not be able to fully understand it. I've been judged and in some cases condemned and I understand why.

[thefool_wa]

10. There is something to be said

for finding motivation to get out of a bad relationship. I try not to judge (even though my colorful metaphor may seem to say otherwise)

I would agree about not understanding a situation fully until you have experienced it. I count myself lucky to have a devoted wife who I myself am totally devoted to. Its a very secure feeling...

That being said, do not think that I am without sin in this matter. While I have never cheated on my marriage, I was not the most faithful boyfriend in the world to, well, almost every girlfriend I had until I met my wife. I guess you could say she changed my cheatin ways (if you were in a country western song).

[crim son]

12. I hate telling the details of my situation because it sounds like

I'm making excuses. But I was faithful for seventeen years of hell. Then I fell in love so momentously that when it ended I went, quite literally, mad for a time. That man is gone and my husband whom I'm divorcing, understands why I did what I did. It's a very convoluted situation and I'm not proud of it but neither do I hide it. Maybe I should.

Thank you for your sensitive response. I'm glad you have married the love of your life. :hug:

[thefool_wa]

15. no problem

There is no such thing as making excuses when it comes to the almighty pursuit of happiness, because really no one elses opinion matters in affairs of the heart. One should stay where they are unhappy and not everyone deals with the need to find a way out the same. Don't be so hard on yourself :)

as for me, I got lucky and I know it. I count my blessings every day that I found love the way I have it since so many spend so much time pursuing it and never get there. I wish it was something I could share with everyone (the love and happiness, not my wife :)).

:hug:

[thefool_wa]

6. Its not like infidelity is something you can't control

Only you can keep you from sleeping with other people :)

aside: that morph of Colbert and Lincoln is AWESOME - did you do that?

[BarenakedLady]

9. I justify nothing

It is what it is.

[thefool_wa]

11. One could say

You leave things naked as they should be :)

(oh, I crack myself up sometimes)

:rofl:

[Shakespeare]

13. There is no justification.

Cheating is wrong, period, no matter how much you want to rationalize it. If you want to be with someone else, then end the relationship you're in.

[Robb]

14. I just wanna give props

to the "C'mon, puddin" answer. Bucky is a dingbat. :thumbsup:

[unsavedtrash]

16. non-monogamous

Not for everyone but it works for us.