My sister in law is at the end.

[Swede]

Cancer in her lungs and liver. My brother speaks like it's not happening. Detached. What is he gonna do without her?

[u4ic]

1. I'm so sorry, Swede

Two loved ones...so close together...:(



:hug:

[crim son]

2. I'm terribly sorry about that, Swede.

Your BIL's reaction is not unusual amd I don't know if denial of the event will make it harder for him to cope when his wife is gone. Some people seem to shut down and never truly deal with their grief. Hugs to you and your family. I'm sorry.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

3. My dear Swede.........

I'm so very sorry.........

How horrifying for all of you.......

I hope she has hospice care for the end.....

All you can do is stand by, and prepare to pick up the pieces........

Let him know you're there for him.......

And do take care of yourself, too.......:grouphug:

[Swede]

4. Peg it's not fair right now.

I lost so many folks in that last 5 years.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

7. ....

:hug:

Wish there were something I could say or do to relieve your pain....

[Deja Q]

5. I would give my life for hers. Seriously.

My lungs are decent and my booze consumption is minimal.

I will gladly trade mine for hers.

What's the relevant blood type?

Seriously. PM me. Anything I can do I will, I am not joking or being flippant in any way.

[Swede]

9. H just your post is nice to hear.

Thank you.

[Haole Girl]

6. I'm sorry..

..that is so sad..and, that your brother speaks like it's not happening. :cry:

[reyd reid reed]

8. ...

I wish I had something magic that would make all the bad stuff go away. Just know that you'll all be in my thoughts.

:hug::hug::hug:

[Nicole]

10. I'm so sorry

:hug:

[BarenakedLady]

11. I'm so very sorry

I was just going to ask if you were ok because of your other posts. I hadn't seen this one.

You and your family will be in my thoughts. :hug: :hug: :hug:

[RFKHumphreyObama]

12. Oh Swede

Words are inadequate at this time I know. Rest assured that your sister in law, your family and especially your brother are in my thoughts and prayers:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

[fishwax]

13. I'm sorry

:hug:

[xchrom]

14. that's very sad to hear swede.

please take of yourself and your brother as best you can -- through these very difficult times.

my condolences to you and your family.

[SeattleGirl]

15. I'm so sorry, Swede.

I truly am. I am sending prayers to your SIL, that she pass in the most peaceful way.

And prayers that you, your brother, and all who love her, will find peace. :hug:

[Beausoir]

16. Life is so brutal.

I am very sorry for you all.

Someone I love is going through the same thing with metastatic liver cancer. Too young.

[JustABozoOnThisBus]

17. Detachment and denial are a couple of ways to cope

of course, they don't work. nothing does.

it'll take time. and support. but mostly time.

no helpful words come to mind. only words like ... shit

[ikojo]

18. So sorry Swede...I have a co-worker who was

diagnosed with lung cancer in 2006, she underwent treatments and appeared to be in recovery. She undergoes regular body scans to check for matastisis and they found a tumor on her adrenal gland. I think she's been getting radiation treatment for that.