Was someone you know buried without a gravestone?

[bertha katzenengel]

My mother has no stone. I sometimes go to her grave when I'm home in CA.

Grandma doesn't have a stone yet. My dad's still figuring out what to put on it.

You?

[Blue-Jay]

1. Only the hobo I buried in the back yard.

[crim son]

2. Much of my family on my father's side is buried in the family mausoleum.

No stone, just a building.

[MissHoneychurch]

3. My great grandma was buried anonymously

on a big field with others, no gravestone, no idea where she lays there. It is on the cemetary and all it says is the year she died (and the others). It was her wish.

[catmandu57]

4. My great grandmother, my wife's sister

Grandma because the family was dirt poor all she had was the temporary metal marker, that has long since vanished. I know the general place, but not the exact spot. My wife's sister doesn't have a stone because her husband won't allow it, I don't know why.

[CBHagman]

5. Various great-grandparents, great-great-grandparents.

In some cases the stones may have been damaged and/or lost. In others a family headstone with just the surname on it serves as stone to mark several graves. Sometimes the individual family members' names are carved on that, and sometimes not.

In one instance, my great-grandfather, great-great-grandmother, and great aunt are all buried in the same plot, but only the great aunt's name is provided on the stone. The great aunt was the first to die, and due to the headstone's style I can tell it comes from the 1890s, at the time of her death, not from a later era. It's only the cemetery's records that reveal that my great-grandfather and great-great-grandmother were buried at the same site.

[Left Is Write]

6. I don't think so, but I can't be sure.

My grandparents all have stones, and I'm sure my cousin has one too, but beyond that, I'm don't know.

[Madrone]

7. My friend's 3 year old was buried with no stone.

They weren't able to get a stone until a year later - due to circumstances and finances. She got one sometime this past fall though.

[Blue Diadem]

8. My Mother's first husband,

He died when he was 25 from an industrial accident and my Mom was 3 months pregnant with my oldest brother(I've never referred to him as 1/2 brother). She had no money for a stone until a few years before she died. My brother was in town for a while, he helped her find his father's plot and together, they ordered a stone. It took 50 plus years but finally the man has a marker, something my Mom always wanted and I'm glad she was alive to see it completed.

I also have an older sister(1/2 sister) buried in the same cemetary. She was born premature..lived about 15 minutes. She's buried on top of one of her paternal grandparents but it's not marked.

[youthere]

9. Yes..my best friend..

She died of pancreatic cancer 8 years ago. All the "memorial" money was put into an account to be used for her headstone. It was a joint account with her husband, and her parent's name on it, so all THREE have to sign for any withdrawals.
The problem was that while she was dying, her husband hooked up with a new little "honey" that he moved into the house two weeks after she died. He wanted to buy a small gravestone and pocket the rest of the money. Her parents said absolutely not and refused to sign.
They wanted an elaborate headstone that would use up all the memorial money and he said absolutely not and refused to sign. It turned into a real pissing match.
Finally last summer her parents just went and purchased the headstone they wanted out of their own pocket and said that memorial money can sit there till hell freezes over, they aren't going to sign.

[BarenakedLady]

10. Yes

Our family plots only have plaques (cemetary policy). It is quite nice because it feels like you are in a park rather than a cemetary.

[kwassa]

11. I have visited graveyards where people were too poor to afford them

This is often true of the old little rural black churches on the Eastern shore. Some had these metal crosses, others have nothing.

[fudge stripe cookays]

12. My GGgrandmother...

whom I consider the matriarch of the family I'm writing about. I've been to the cemetery, and there wasn't one, no matter how much I looked. Years later I saw a transcription book with the notation (ns), which I wish I'd seen first so I wouldn't have spent half a day looking for it! Someday I'd like to get her a proper one.

I've never been to the church graveyard where her husband is buried. I doubt he has a stone either. But I'd like to have a matched set made, if not.