What do you think of a guy who says something like this?

[BuelahWitch]

It's in relation to shoes (high heels vs. practical boots to wear in icy conditions).

"How come when women reach 40 they decide its ok to be more and more comfortable?"

I'm trying not to have a knee jerk reaction. It's a new guy who I met and we have quite a bit in common. He seemed nice when we chatted yesterday, but this struck me as kind of a stupid thing to say. Incidentally, I replied to him that I had no wish to fall and break any bones and that I had almost ruined my feet wearing heels with pointy toes when I was younger. I think he has a shoe fetish, and this wouldn't really bother me, but if he's that stupid to want someone to wear heels in bad weather...:eyes:

[The Traveler]

1. I have a shoe fetish

But I also have a life and would never ask why a woman would not wear heels while inclement weather conditions exist. Also, there is much to be said for comfort ...

[BuelahWitch]

5. It sounded kind of controlling to me

But like I said, I didn't want to have a knee jerk reaction. I love heels myself, at least to LOOK at them, I dont' wear them that much anymore, but not in ice and snow.

[The Traveler]

23. I can see why you wonder about that

He made a strange comment. Of course, we men are quite capable of being tactless dweebs (at least I am) at exactly the wrong moment. It may not be revelatory of anything but a millisecond's worth of insensitivity.

[madeline_con]

24. "...They decide it's o.k"

Yep, kind of a weird, controlling thing. LIke how dare they "decide", or they should wear "fuck me pumps" at all times, just in case. :eyes:

[The Traveler]

45. This is me

backing out of the issue leaving only these comments.

Yep, I like the way the ladies look in high heels. Indeed, I deem it a fetish of mine. Shameless am I.

Still, a lady's choice of foot wear is her choice. One must bow to the demands of practicality. Twisted ankles are painful in an unfun way. Further, I imagine that the most fashion conscious of women is not eternally in the mood to wear heels, and mood counts.

I found the man's comment weird and inappropriate, unapologetic fetishist though I am. Not knowing the dude, I can not comment constructively on the matter in any further detail.

[BuelahWitch]

46. I appreciate your comments

:hi: Thank you.

[The Traveler]

47. **whispers**

Yer welcome. :hi:

[madeline_con]

48. Boots in ice and snow....

and bring the stilettos to wear for a romp later. :evilgrin:

[The Traveler]

51. I like the way you think

;)

It's all about the moment, isn't it?

At the risk of digression, I also have a thing for women wearing shorts and hiking boots ... yow. But that line of thinking just leads to more trouble.

:evilgrin:

[NMDemDist2]

2. i don't know about your guy friend but it was a pain trying to dress for

a job interview today with snow and ice on the ground

i ended up with my flat boots and a calf length skirt etc etc

and yes, i'm over 40 :rofl:

[BuelahWitch]

4. Oh I can imagine!

I think anyone who WOULD wear heels in this kind of weather is taking chances with their life. But I'll bet you were cold, even with the longer skirt. Brrr!

[NMDemDist2]

7. LOL tights, a slip, and a thermal top under my turtleneck, a wool blazer

and wool socks with an angora head scarf, gloves and a cape over the whole ensemble and I was toasty


but geez! :banghead:

and we've got 4-8 inches more snow and ice due Friday night

[shanti]

16. YEAH, UGGS RULE!

i'm 51 and have been into comfort since about age.....well, age 40! ;)

[madeline_con]

25. Sounds appropriate. n/t

[MichiganVote]

3. Well since he's such an expert on women, what does he need you for?

That's what I would think anyway.:shrug:

[WritingIsMyReligion]

6. Er, what?

I'd ask him what the fuck he was going on about, and be wary. Maybe he really was just being a bit numbheaded. Or he's just a rather weird controlling asshole who thinks he ought to dictate women's fashion.

[flvegan]

8. Complaint + age remark + selfish addition?

"What's wrong with being comfortable, friend?" "Why isn't it okay to BE comfortable, pal?" "I should be uncomfortable for your pleasure, buddy?"

Unless he's scraping the ice at your feet as you walk, he's an ass (in this regards, anyway).

[greatauntoftriplets]

9. I'd love to see a man trying to wear 4-inch spikes.....

There is NOTHING wrong with being comfortable.

[QMPMom]

15. Just a sorta funny aside: This weekend we watched The Devil Wears Prada.

As the credits were rolling my son noticed a credit for stunt people.

He said, "Why did *that* movie need stunt people?"

My reply, "YOU try wearing Manolo Blahniks and see if it's not like a stunt!"

To the OP: Your friend better watch out or he could be in some deep doo doo for his remarks. Even fairly innocent remarks like his could be taken the wrong way be some.

[greatauntoftriplets]

19. LOL... Great response....

In 4-inch spikes, I'd be 6' 2". That can be intimidating to men.

At age 57, I wear flats, damnit to hell.

[BuelahWitch]

20. I watched that movie the other night

They call the women who wear the high heels "clackers" because of the sound of their heels on the floor. Stunt people aside, in the gag reel they had shots of poor Anne Hathaway falling down many, many times. I know she's young, but it's still gotta hurt!

[sakabatou]

10. "...the hell?"

[lildreamer316]

11. Oh Boy.

"How come when women reach 40 they decide its ok to be more and more comfortable?"
Precisely BECAUSE you have this attitude is one reason. The main reason is because they don't give a crap what you or anyone else thinks.

Let me rephrase. What he was trying to say was that he laments the fact that older women don't dress in provactive clothing and especially heels. Yes; he probably has a shoe fetish. What he fails to realize is that IF he were in a relationship with a woman who was over 40; AND he treated her well, loved her completely and WITHOUT CONDITON; loved her for who she was and the beauty of the soul inside her; that she would know this; and would probably humor him by wearing the heels (Hells!) he likes so much.

Idiot.

(and I dance in those heels....)

[NMDemDist2]

12. that's right! remember Ginger Rodgers did everything Astaire did

only backwards AND in 4" heels

:rofl:

[Kajsa]

21. Hi AZ Dem!

Love that Ann Richards!
(I was thinking of that, too)

:loveya:

[NMDemDist2]

22. she was one of a kind wasn't she?

:loveya:

:hi:

[Kajsa]

32. She sure was.

:hi:

[lildreamer316]

26. Wish I could dance like that...

I have classical training (ballet jazz and some tap) ; but I really want to go back and learn the "real" dances..tango and waltz; etc.

[crim son]

13. For one thing, I'm going to be taller than him if I put on my heels.

I think he sounds uninformed.

[KitchenWitch]

14. I was not there, so I do not know.

If he says a lot of things that are equally boorish, I would keep on walking.

Perhaps he was nervous and did not know how stupid that sounded.

[BuelahWitch]

17. Well, he hasn't responded to my reply

about not wanting to injure myself and that wearing "pretty" shoes was hell on my feet. So maybe he decided I'm just too "comfortable" of a woman for him. :shrug: That's ok, if he's that dumb, I don't need him.

[KitchenWitch]

52. Very true

I have always been a "woman in comfortable shoes". Not that I am not feminine, I just refuse to be uncomfortable just for the sake of fashion.

[Nicole]

18. I would think he's an idiot

With that said, I do wear heels often & I'm over 40. I wear them because I love them. I don't wear them when it's icy out.

[SPKrazy]

35. Ohhhh, *deep sigh*

I think I'm having chest pains



be still....

[Nicole]

37. Oh you!

Settle down now! :rofl:

[SPKrazy]

39. Hmmmmmmm

I'm practicing slow deep breathing now.

What if I can't settle down?

:shrug:



:pals: :rofl:

[Nicole]

42. If you can't

you might give yourself a heart attack. So I suggest you try. :scared:

I'm off to cook dinner & I won't be wearing heels to do it. :rofl:

[SPKrazy]

43. That's Good, I'd Hate to think of you wearing heels to cook dinner

gasp, gasp gasp

I can't breathe

okay, I'm cool now

Go eat

enjoy!

:rofl:

[swag]

27. I guess he doesn't want to put his wiener in anybody, huh?

[SPKrazy]

30. OMG

:applause: :spray:

you just said that!

:rofl:

[BuelahWitch]

38. LOL, yes, maybe he's in training for the priesthood!

:rofl:

[qnr]

28. I guess I'm the odd man out here, but not knowing the exact context, it sounds

to me like he was saying that they were being more reasonable. I guess it's the fact that he said they decide it's ok to be more and more comfortable, rather than saying something along the lines of they decide not to be fashionable. If I were to say something like he said, I know that I'd mean it in the sense of, "How come they didn't decide this when they were younger?"

[ContraBass Black]

49. That would be benign, but clumsy.

[qnr]

50. Well, I never said it was smart :) just not necessarily evil n/t

[SPKrazy]

29. I Think It's A Dorky Thing To Say

I like heels

I probably have a fetish about them, hell I know I do.

But asking about why women think it's okay to "be comfortable", and especially around ice is really dorky in my opinion.

:thumbsdown:

[NMDemDist2]

34. heels are for dancing on tables and the bedroom

give me flat boots in the snow please LOL

[SPKrazy]

36. That's A Good One AZ!

dancing on tables and in the bedroom

:rofl:

[Omphaloskepsis]

31. I would punch him in the fucking face..

I'm male and hate high heels. Give me someone in sweat pants and a t-shirt. /*swoon*/


edit: changed my to me... English is a total pain in the ass.

[Goblinmonger]

41. I'm with you

I think the heel makes the calf disappear and I love the calf.

[idgiehkt]

33. I can't wear heels

I've not been able to in a very long time. I don't know whether it's because I spent my formative years wearing 3 and 4 inch Candies or not...I basically wore hooker shoes through middle school and high school. Now my knees are messed up and even a low heel hurts. I don't know what the deal is with the fetish about high heels. I have fantasies involving people in heels, but it's never me.

edit: relevant because I'm almost 40, lol.

[Danger Mouse]

40. sounds like a keeper...

ask him why he isn't wearing a speedo even though it's really cold out. shrinkage?

[SPKrazy]

44. ROFL!

Okay I'm glad I had no drink in my hand because you got me Elrond!

:rofl: