I totally chickened out about telling my mother i am moving in with Lisa.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

After ages we had a decent conversation that didnt make me want to stomp on my phone.

she even asked me how my friend lisa was doing.

i told her my lease was running out soon and i would be moving.

she asked me where...but i just couldnt tell her i am moving in with lisa. i knew it would end badly. So i just chickened out.

Now i feel like such a loser.


Sigh!

:cry:

[Fleshdancer]

1. You'll tell her when you're ready

There's absolutely nothing wrong with doing something on your own emotional time line. You're not a "loser", you just aren't ready for that particular conversation right now.

[bicentennial_baby]

2. Hey sweetie...

If it helps...I've been living with Sniffa and the Mrs since June...None of our parents even know that we're together, they think we're roommates...Talk about chicken! :o

:hug:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

6. thanks dear. that makes me feel much better.

its not that i am not out to her. i am. but she conveniently forgets. and coming out year after year is exhausting.

[bicentennial_baby]

9. It's ok...

You do it when you're ready...I was going to tell my Mom, but with her brain surgery and stuff, not a good time lately...And as for Sniffa and the Mrs, it's up to them when they are ready to talk to their own parents.

You'll do it, when you feel the time is right, and you're ready for it. :hug:

[Lydia Leftcoast]

11. Ah yes, parents in denial

I once knew a gay couple who had that problem. One of the men was out to his whole family, and they were okay with it, but the other one couldn't quite bring himself to have The Talk with his fundy parents.

So I'd meet the guy's mother, and she'd talk about how she was hoping that her son would find a "nice Christian girl" and settle down.

This was the mother of a man who 1) had been living with the same man for 18 years, 2) had bought a house with him, 3) was involved in a whole range of pursuits that are considered stereotypically gay, 4) and, in those sad days, was continually attending the funerals of friends who had died of AIDS.

If those weren't enough hints...

:shrug:

[crim son]

You aren't a loser for not feeling like getting into a

confrontation right now. Maybe you should do it after it's a fait accompli. :hug:

[LostinVA]

4. Yup, that was my suggestion

[La Lioness Priyanka]

7. i will tell her before i do it. because i feel like she should be able to accept her daughter

but i know its going to be another difficult conversation

[crim son]

13. I don't blame you one bit, and you know your mother best.

My thought is that if she believes she has a chance to make your change your mind, she's will try & that will add to your stress. Needless to say, whatever you do I am thrilled for both you and Lisa.

[crim son]

3. dupe, delete.

[HiFructosePronSyrup]

5. Just move in...

then send her a greeting card.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

17. that would be funny.

[Connonym]

You're not ready, nothing wrong with that

I think you need to cut yourself some slack. It's HARD to tell people things they don't want to hear. It's especially hard, I think, to tell your parents something that you know will hurt them. As long as your friend Lisa doesn't feel it is a slight, I don't see any reason to wait until it feels right. Mazel tov on moving to the next step in your relationship.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

16. i dont think lisa has told her parents yet. but i dont really know how she will feel about it.

i will tell her later tonight.

[graywarrior]

8. Far as I know, there are no rules dealing with that.

You'll know when the time is right to tell her.

[Gormy Cuss]

10. Don't beat yourself up over it.

You'll have another chance to tell her. Pick a time when you can do something positive for yourself after the conversation ends badly. That may make it a little easier. :hug:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

15. thats a great idea. maybe i will tell her just be before i shedule a massage

or umm lisa-time

[wildhorses]

12. ---

:hug:


you will find the courage in time and until then it is okay:hi:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

14. thanks love.

[WindRavenX]

18. my mom took it pretty well when I told her I was moving to Utah w/ Kyle

You may be suprised :)

[La Lioness Priyanka]

19. my mom is homophobic. i wont be surprised. i will be sad.

[WindRavenX]

20. ugh

Sorry to hear that sweetie =(

[SeattleGirl]

21. You're not a loser, pri

Everyone has things that are difficult to say to certain people. This is yours. You'll eventually find the right time and way to tell her.

Congrats, btw, on your move.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

22. thanks sg. i just feel cowardly.