Alright: So what have YOU not told you Mother?

[La Lioness Priyanka]

c'mon fess up..

[ohiosmith]

1. To the day she died, she never knew that I smoked.

[idgiehkt]

2. roflmao

that I'm bisexual.

It's evil, I know. I just can't. Maybe I don't want to give her false hope, and maybe I don't want to give the pleasure of thinking I'm only 'half-gay'.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

6. i made the mistake of telling her that i was bi. if i had to do it over again, i wouldnt

i would just tell her i am a dyke, thats all.

[idgiehkt]

8. yeah, and when I came out to her at 22 she was a lot more liberal

now she is much more conservative/religious, and I don't see any point in it. If I ever develop a long-term relationship with a man I will tell her, other than that, I'm just leaving it lay.

[MorningGlow]

3. You mean the whole "I'm a witch" thing?

I tried; she did a quick memory dump and to this day swears I never told her. Strange thing is, our conversation lasted about 20 minutes. :rofl:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

7. its funny..i told her i was bi when i was 18-19.

i still have to keep coming out to her. its ridiculous.

[MorningGlow]

10. Seriously scary, right?

My mom doesn't have a memory problem--she's got a mind like a steel trap even at 81-almost-82, just like my grandparents had, and works two jobs PLUS takes care of MG Jr. (when most people meet her they think she's in her 60s), and yet on this topic...?! Nuthin'.

"WELL, you don't believe in prayer or anything." *Sigh* "YES, I do, mom. I told you I meditate. That's prayer." "But you don't believe in God." *Sigh* "Yes, I do, mom. We had this discussion before, remember?" "No we haven't discussed this!"

Over and over and over and over...

[JackBeck]

4. I never told my mother that I was arrested, but let go an hour later, after

buying two dime bags of weed in NYC.

[bicentennial_baby]

5. Well, I'm pretty sure she knows I'm Bi

But yeah, the Poly thing and
the amount of drugs and alcohol I have consumed in my life (which in her view, would be a lot!)

(although, she definitely knows I smoke weed, frequently)

[LaraMN]

9. It would be easier to list what I HAVE told her.

She has a fragile pysche; I'll spare her the trauma.

[grace0418]

11. I don't really tell her much of anything. It's not like she listens anyway, she's just

waiting for a pause in the conversation so she can start droning on about herself. The same goddamn stories, over and over and over. Either that or she's complaining about her health, but doesn't try to do anything to improve it. :eyes:

[jpgray]

12. I'm a total momma's boy--there's nothing I couldn't tell her

[NewJeffCT]

13. A lot

I could fill a large graveyard with all the buried skeletons I haven't told my parents about over the years... and, I'll likely die with those secrets.

[momophile]

14. I lied to her and told her I was 17 years old

when I lost my precious virginity and that it was to my wonderful at-the-time boyfriend.

Sorry, Mom.

[hunter]

28. I was thinking it's sorta hard to lie to your mom about your age.

No mom, I'm seventeen, honest!

[NewWaveChick1981]

15. Many, many things...

Among them:

1) That I lost my virginity when I was 17. I think she was still deluded that I was a virgin when I got married at 29. (And this is the woman who made sure I had an early sex education, and a damn good progressive one at that.)

2) That I am bisexual. Everyone else I know knows it (my family included), but I have never come right out and said it to her. I guess since I'm married that she automatically thinks "straight".

[MissMillie]

16. Nothing that I'm willing to share here

but something big.

[hunter]

17. Such a bummer, I can't shock my mom with anything anymore.

I still got stuff saved up, but it's more like stuff I'll use to liven up our visits than any great secret.

But okay, when I was a fine strong lad of sixteen a neighbor woman tried to seduce me. She invited me in to do some work at her house. I was so dense at that age that I didn't realize what she was up to.

To me, I was thinking, "Hmmmm. Does she know I can see through her shirt?" I decided not to tell her because I sorta liked looking. I actually felt bad about not telling her. But she kept standing too close to me, and brushing against me, and that was irritating, so I did the work she'd told me she wanted done and I left.

I might've lost my virginity that day, but I didn't figure it out until much later.

[Deep13]

18. That I blame her for bringing that monster, her 2nd husband, into the house.

[jpgray]

19. Sequels are usually worse.

[Deep13]

23. My father (#1) was basically a decent guy.

[HEyHEY]

20. PRetty well everything

[querelle]

21. That I Was Seeing A Psychiatrist

And was taking anti-depressants about five years ago. I don't want to worry her unnecessarily because that would really do it.

Q

[Zavulon]

22. That I had a vasectomy. She has no grandkids, and she's not going to.

It's just not in me to raise a child. I'd let the villiage do it.

[u4ic]

24. I shared very little with her

while she was alive. Other than the very basics (ie what foods I liked, my favourite colour, etc) she knew very little of my private life.


She did know of my outright hostility toward Catholicism at the time. Whether it bothered her or not (she was a devout Catholic), she never said.

[Lyric]

25. I have the coolest Mom ever

I can't think of anything that I couldn't tell her. She knows I'm bi (and considers my same-sex partner of 8 years to be as much her daughter as I am). She knows I was in a poly relationship, and didn't give me a hard time about it. She knows about the couple of times I tried drugs when I was younger. She knows pretty much everything about me, to be honest.

Growing up with all the tragedies we went through had one good side effect--my nuclear family or origin (Mom, brother, sister) are about as close as it's possible to be.

[Goblinmonger]

26. That I am an atheist

She is very strict Catholic (well, OK, so was I until college) and she would
1. not talk to me for 2 years minimum
2. drive herself crazy with the thought of me in hell
3. drive herself crazy saying rosaries for my soul
4. call in the priest brigade (some of them my old classmates at the seminary) to "save" me.

So, she just ain't gonna know. Thank goodness she lives 1000 miles away. And can't travel to see my den of iniquity.

[Omphaloskepsis]

27. My sister took care of me while I was trying to grow up..

My mom was usually high on speed or in jail. I can tell my mom everything. I don't really care what she thinks.

[ThomCat]

29. I tell my mom very little.

I don't like my mother, and I don't really respect her. But I won't tell her that, and I won't tell her why.

[Ariana Celeste]

30. i tell my mama pretty much everything honestly

my dad too, for the most part

[MikeH]

31. That I regard much of my father's behavior as having been abusive, and have not forgiven him

I had a difficult dad, who did many very good things and many very nice things, but was often very critical and judgmental. He often decided in Godlike fashion that he needed to yell at me, or treat me or talk to me in a certain way, "for my own good", if I made an honest mistake, honestly forgot something, or something was not according to his standards. And he was often very poor at understanding some difficult or sensitive issue or circumstance from my point of view; he would often scold me or lecture me in a way that showed a lack of understanding of what I was struggling with.

My mother, for the most part, was (and still is), a much more reasonable person, and much easier to get along with. However for the most part she went along with my dad; she often played the "good cop" to my dad being the "bad cop".

My dad died a little over 20 years ago, and after going through the normal grieving process at the loss of someone close to me, I came to realize about a year after my dad died how angry I still was at my dad, and how some of his behavior was actually abusive, particularly emotionally and psychologically (though I also got my share of spankings when I was a kid.)

I have been in therapy dealing with many issues, most particularly regarding my issues with my dad.

In the years shortly after my dad's death, in which I struggled with my feelings of anger toward him, I had thought about telling my mom how I felt about my dad and much of his behavior, and had sort of wanted to, and discussed the matter with therapists and with friends and other family (apart from my mother). I myself, along with other people, always came to the conclusion that actually telling my mother would do more harm than good. She might ask what I wanted her to say or do, and I had no answer to that.

I have pretty much not talked about my dad when talking with my mother, and have been polite when he has come up in conversation, acknowledging the many good things about him, and the good things he did and the good times I had with him. And she has not pressed me about the matter. I think that she can guess that I might struggle with my feelings toward him, but would rather not talk about it or hear about it. I have gotten along well with my mother over the years, and can talk about other things with her.

Actually, I now don't talk about politics with my mom. She voted for * in 2000, and has thought he was OK, if not necessarily wonderful. She particularly could not forgive Clinton for his affair in our White House. I have regarded her having gone along with * pretty much the same as her having gone along with my dad those times his behavior was abusive.

I wore an anti-* T-shirt at a family gathering in 2002, and she was offended by it. She called me in April 2003 to tell me about the fall of the statue of Saddam Hussein, and how wonderful that was. I sent her a not very nice e-mail, kind of telling her off. We have not talked about politics since; I do not know if she voted for * in 2004, or how she feels about him now.

And other than those incidents, I have gotten along quite well with my mom; I am polite if she mentions my dad, and we don't talk about politics.

If the subject of politics does ever come up with my mom, and she still thinks * is OK, I will tell her about my having ended a 30 year friendship after my friend voted for * a second time in 2004.

[LostinVA]

32. That I run when it's really hot and humid out

[MikeH]

33. Also that I post, and have a journal, on Democratic Underground

My mother is politically conservative, and I am pretty certain that she would not be interested in Democratic Underground.

Plus, I have many posts in which I talk about my dad, including many in my journal, and some in which I talk about or mention my mom or family in general, which I am certain she would not want to know about.

[Lady President]

34. I steer clear of sex talks

I don't think that she wants to know, and I'm fine with not telling. She knows that I had sex with the two majority boyfriends in my past. In reality, I'm 35 and I've never been married, so my number is a tad higher than 2.

Other than sex, we talk about everything.