Now my tale is told

[WilliamPitt]

Some of you might recall my posting a variety of threads last winter and fall about my plans to get married. You also might have noticed that I never put up a thread announcing the fact that I had, in fact, gotten married. That's because I didn't. The wedding was supposed to have taken place in May, but in April a number of things took place that required me to call the thing off. I'm not getting into it, so don't ask, but sufficed to say it was the best - nay, only - decision to be made under the circumstances.

April, May and June were like death. I moved out of the apartment I was sharing with my fiancee and occupied my mother's house. It was empty, as she was getting ready to try and sell it, and had departed for New Hampshire. I was still teaching through these months, and all the kids knew I was getting married. I couldn't tell them what had happened, because they would have freaked, and right around the crunch-time end of the year. So I had to go to work each day and shine it on like everything was cool.

Starting in June, I went on my book tour, and it lasted through most of October and into November. That was like my own personal Hajj; I was constantly on the road and never in my own place. My own place, by this time, was a single room in Harvard Square in which I both worked and slept, and seldom left when I was actually at station. I did a lot of writing, and a lot of thinking, and suffered.

Somewhere in October, after I got back from Europe, my ex-fiancee and I began a serious dialog about what had happened. I had not seen much of her since April, and there was a lot to be dealt with. But we put on our hard hats - the ones with those little flashlights on the brim - and did some serious emotional mining. Much to both our pleasure, we found all the gold and diamonds that had been buried in the April apocalypse. The treasure was still there.

So a few weeks ago, I packed up my little room in Harvard Square and moved back in with her. I am sitting tonight in a small office on the second floor of our apartment in Cambridge. She is downstairs asleep on the couch with the cat on her head. For the first time in almost a year, I am feeling like a normal person again, and not like a refugee or an old sad bastard. Her parents, who wanted to stab me to death with spoons a few months ago, welcomed me into their home for Christmas with open, happy arms. A good sign. And marriage is back on the table again.

So, if I've been surly, or insane, or angry, or absent here in these last several months, now you know why. If you were wigged out by how much I spent on that dinner, it was for her and for us and for hope, and so now you know why.

Now my tale is told.

[Catherine Vincent]

1. Is this the lady you spent a lot of money on for dinner and

the limo ride? Lucky girl.

[WilliamPitt]

2. The same

[Ellen Forradalom]

72. A bargain at twice the price.

An investment that I hopes pays off many dividends for years to come.

[SOteric]

3. Good onya Will.

It's hard work, but always worth the personal evolution. Life is too short to squander real devotion.

[BurtWorm]

4. Merde!

(What dancers say to each other before a performance so they'll avoid saying a certain two word phrase that might jinx it.)

I knew there was a story like this behind that dinner.

:toast:

[supernova]

5. Awww.

I'm glad you two have patched things up Will. :thumbsup:

[madmax]

6. Very happy for you, Will.

Now just go out and elope. Save all the b.s. til after you're married. We did - works for me and my hubby ;)

[WilliamPitt]

7. Oh, you better believe it

If you think I, or anyone else even prepherally involved in this whole sleigh ride, will be getting on board for another wedding extravaganza, I have a bridge in Baghdad to sell you. :)

[Flaxbee]

13. Happy to hear it's working out..

.... I'd wondered why I never saw a wedding/marriage thread, and I'm glad to hear you're happy again. I strongly second the eloping strategy. My husband and I wed on a Friday morning at NYC City Hall, and I have never, ever, EVER given it a second thought.

[populistmom]

8. I hope things all work out the way they're supposed to

At least you remain happy. Relationships are so complex sometimes from the reasons why people get together to begin with to why they stay to why things may or may not work out. I hope yours works out and happiness and much fullfillment await you. She's a lucky woman.

[WilliamPitt]

10. That's what I keep TELLING her

:)

Thanks.

[Pobeka]

9. Relationships aren't about sex, they're about communication

Being able to come back together after a parting --the way it sounds like you did -- is significant.

And, I won't ask you anything :-)

[madmax]

11. Sex after marriage?

Nobody told me about that! :evilgrin:

[proud patriot]

12. Fabulous William ! !

I'm glad your happy and hope that happiness continues.

If Diamonds can survive an apocalypse the treasure can survive
life with lots of ups and downs .

[VelmaD]

14. Congratulations doll-baby

You're a hell of a guy and I wish you all the happiness in the world. I hope that things work out for you. :hug:

[KCDem]

15. congrats, Will!

I'm glad the woman came to her senses. ;)

:toast:

[curse10]

16. I'm so glad to hear that

I was always afraid to ask about it :-)

[frogfromthenorth2]

17. Man...after reading this I just want to read your book...

Even if English is not my native language I surely appreciate the way you write...

[Ohio Dem]

18. Cool, Will.

I still can't figure out why people here freaked so badly when you posted about that dinner. I'll leave it at that.

I'm happy for you.

[blondeatlast]

55. Agreed. If love isn't worth it, what the hell is?

I'm happy for you, Will. FWIW, I defended your dinner!

[JanMichael]

19. Well that's a relief! I was wrecked with concern!

Bwah! Sorry, the NyQuil is kickin' in and my snarky metre is on full.

Glad to see things looking up fer ya' mate.

Now we gets back to crackin' fascist heads!

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

24. Easy for you to say

You already scored :evilgrin:

[JanMichael]

26. Well ya but, but, I'm going to shut up now...

Nighty night...

[Wickerman]

20. Gald to read it, Will

she sounds like a good woman and gald to hear things are calming down for you a bit. Pleased to read that her parents have no desire to use any utensils, sharp or not on you, either.

[leftofthedial]

21. good for you Will

happiness can be so fleeting sometimes.

We'll keep a place at the old sad bastard's table for you, and hope you never reclaim it.

:toast:

[Kathy in Cambridge]

22. Congrats Will!

I'm glad to hear you guys are working things out!

:-)

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

23. You spent $600 on THAT!!!!??????!!!!!!!

Nothing like putting your money where your mouth is :D I mean really! Totally fucking literally!

Glad things are going well and glad you both did whatever soul searching it took to find your way back.

Time for some joy...there's always plenty of time for pain.

Best wishes to both of you and may the transformation continue.

Hugs...you KNOW I love you :loveya:

[Cleita]

27. So she makes you happy and content to be home

with her and the cat, don't delay, marry her ASAP. I know Shakespeare has a sonnet there somewhere about this, but I can't think of it right now.

[Cleita]

28. Hey NSMA.

I meant the other post for Will. :hi:

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

32. I know...the cat thing made it clear :-)

[Zuni]

35. that is what did it for me

any girl who can sleep with a cat on her head is worth the trouble.

[GURUving]

25. Sounds like Chapter 1 and Chapter 2

In a bunch of years, I hope to read the epilogue!
Happy endings are why __________ (fill in the blank)
:)

[silverlib]

29. Congratulations!

I've been "reading you" for a long time, your books and your posts.

Best to you and may love always prevail!

[Ellen Forradalom]

30. What a tale it is.

If she makes you feel like a normal person, that's a good sign.

[bratcatinok]

31. I love happy 'endings'

and new beginnings. I never questioned in my mind why you would spend the money you did that night. I figured out from your thread that day you weren't one who normally did that and that you considered it money well spent. Who am I to condemn or question you about what you decide to do with your money?

Congratulations on your success in finding the gold and diamonds again. Isn't it great to be home again?

[jonnyblitz]

33. COOL!

what a nice thread to read after hanging out in GD 2004 all night!
:thumbsup: :hi:

[Kat45]

40. jonny, I see you made the same mistake I did tonight.

Hanging out in GD 2004! Why, oh why, do we do that? Maybe it's like when there's an accident, and you just have to look... LOL

[Zuni]

34. 'The cat on her head'

It is those details that make it a truly great expierience.

[rtassi]

36. Please Bring Her Sailing When You Come This Season

William,

Although I have only communicated with you twice, I felt as though there might be a story behind your tireless work. I am happy for you. I am blessed with my wife, with whom I now have family and a best friend. She is my Anchor, perhaps you have found yours.
God bless you both.

Capt. Bob

[MaineDem]

59. Welcome to DU, Capt Bob

:hi: from the western mountains.

[rtassi]

70. Thank you!

I am just starting to figure things out!

[MaineDem]

73. Most of us don't bite.

:)

[Generic Other]

37. Will she like having all of us as in-laws?

Glad you're heart is whole again.

[blondeatlast]

56. The holidays are gonna be a pain int the ass, though!

[Kat45]

38. That's great news, Will. I'm glad it's all working out.

I remember that thread about the expensive dinner; now I know the story behind it. Best to you.

[RetroLounge]

39. One Word...

Elope.

[WilliamPitt]

64. One word

Duh.

:)

[Susang]

41. I'm glad things are working out for you Will

Obviously, I don't know what happened between you, but I do know that living with a writer (as wife, husband, partner, whatever) is extremely difficult and trying, as I'm sure you realize.

Writer's lives are chock full of insecurity, both artistically, emotionally and financially. It takes a strong person to withstand those stormy waters. I'm glad she's still in the picture for you.

Then again, I'm biased. I'm married to a writer and ride a Honda Metropolitan Scooter. Your gal is marrying a writer (hopefully) and rides a Honda Metropolitan Scooter. Now, the question is....Is she my evil twin or am I hers? ;-)

Good luck to you both! :toast:

[jus_the_facts]

42. Best wishes for you and the Miss.....'cuz ya know...

....it could have never worked out between us Will...me bein' a YANKEE fan and all! :evilgrin:

Be happy...be well...be cool...but most of all BE YOU!! :loveya:

:o LSU RULES :o

[Kool Kitty]

43. Love's hard, isn't it?

I'm glad this worked out for the both of you.

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

44. I feel a POPCORN post coming on!!!!

(to the tune of Gilligan's Isle)

Come sit right down
and you'll hear a tale
It will only take a bit
about the extravagant love life of
one Mr William Pitt

He quit his day job
to expose the ills
emanating from DC
he wrote till his fingers turned
cobalt blue
and posted it in GD

The articles brought him fame a bit
but they made him a target too
as some who only wished they had guts
gave him crap up the wazoo


he posted on
his love life gone
he traveled far
books were sold
he worked it out
with a chic night out
and now his tale is told!!!!


(OK the TALE part in the header prompted this. I know I could have done better but it is late)

[VOX]

45. Solid, lasting relationships are so damned finely tuned...

Sounds like you're getting there. Hats off to both of you for thinking/talking it through.

Love needs to have its temperature checked every day.

Best to you -- :toast:

[xchrom]

46. that is so sweet!

good for you, and i'm sure the road there wasn't easy.

[buddhamama]

47. it's a nice tale

and you're a sweet guy, Mr.Pitt.

it's obvious that you love this Woman.
there are times when situations/life make it so love isn't always enough to keep two people together, in my heart i believe this is not one of those times.

All My Best to You!

[DemExpat]

48. Shucks, Will, if you had said the $600.00 was for HER.......

you could have saved yourself some animosity.....:D

What a happy ending, and you can be sure that this split-up and subsequent soul-search/exmanination/serious dialogue will make your future together that much more 'solid'...

All the best, I'm happy for you both!

DemEx

[Maeve]

49. There are several smart moves in that story

1)"When in doubt, back out"--you two had a lot of work to do before marriage, and
2)You've been doing it, hard hats and all!
3) It also sounds like the time apart was needed to re-set priorities, so add a silver lining to that gold and diamond horde...

Glad to hear it's better. Remember the old Irish proverb:
Níl leigheas ar an ngrá ach pósadh.
There is no cure for love but marriage.
:D

[Khephra]

50. That's wonderful news, Bro!!!

I couldn't be happier for you! You two deserve all the happiness in the world!

:loveya:

[matcom]

51. ROCK ON BROTHER!

:bounce:

EXCELLENT news! we'll have to have the BOTH of you out for dinner when we get back from Mexico.

P.S. Please tell her i said hello

:)

[Brewman_Jax]

52. I wish you well

and I hope that all continues to go well. :thumbsup:

[GOPisEvil]

53. I wish you both the best.

Cheers to your future. :toast:

[peacefreak]

54. Best wishes

You are a man of heart & courage. She must be a spectacular person. Love is a rare gift, well worth fighting for. May you both have all that your hearts desire.

[latebloomer]

57. So glad your long sojourn in the desert

has come to an end.

Love and Happiness-

lb

[LWolf]

58. I'm happy for both of you.

[MaineDem]

60. Smiles

Ahhh, Will. If you're happier together than apart there's something to build on.

I'm glad to read this. I wish the best for you. :)

[maxanne]

61. real love

is never easy when smart, complicated people are involved. As long as both of you are willing to work for it - all will be well.

I'm happy for you, Will, happy for you both.

[Bossy Monkey]

62. So happy for you both

Best of luck to you. Now quit smoking!

[salin]

63. Excellent

Sorry that you two had to go through the pain - I would venture to guess that the gems recovered will prove over time to be of a larger carat that initially thought. Excellent news, Will. Thanks for sharing it with us. To 2004 may it bring many such reconciliations with great hope for the future!

[Lisa0825]

65. I'm glad you found the gold and diamonds.

"April, May and June were like death."
I know exactly what you mean. I also know how it feels to look back on the depth of it, after you've come back to life. It makes you appreciate the relationship even more.

Best wishes to you both.

[Blue_Roses]

66. Good for you!

You seem like a person who has a lot to offer in a relationship (of course I said that about my couch potato husband 7 years ago). Good luck to you and your fiance'. It sounds like you two will be just fine!

:)

[RogueTrooper]

67. I'm glad to hear things are going well

:yourock:

[Terran]

68. And they lived happily ever after!

:thumbsup: :toast:

[Deb]

69. Whew! So that was "it"

You've been making this "Mother's Radar" bleep for awhile now.

Glad to hear you are whole again. Congrats to you both!

[cally]

71. You're the first person I've ever said this to

Go get an Elvis impersonator, wear jeans, and just get married. I will think you are sane if you do that.

Seriously, I'm happy for you. Having a partner and commitment is a wonderful thing. :toast:

[LynneSin]

74. You forgot the baseball cap

Jeans with a baseball bet - one of those baseball hats that truckers wear.

[cally]

75. I couldn't go that far and still say

anyone was sane. :hi: ;-)

[MuseRider]

76. May you be nothing

but happy! I am so happy for you and your lady. You deserve the best and it sounds like you are working for it. Congratulations to the both of you.

[never cry wolf]

77. Will, fwiw

damn, man. I didn't join DU or even hear about it til last summer but I caught the thread you had where you got a TON of shit for the dinner. Hang in my man, if it is the right person, no cost is too large!

I am extremely happy for ya, but she had better be the frikkin bee's knees!!!! fuckit, everybody has the ONE!!! I found her 32 years ago in high school, she was not ready, now she may be.

damn, I just got back in my office from KC, coupla scotches in the port, nother on the plane. ten thumb disease has stricken my keyboard, there is sooooooo much i'd like to say but mainly, Will if she is the one, never let her go and great on you for realizing it!!!

maybe someday we could collaborate on a book, not tonight tho.

CONGRATS!! I know the feeling, t'ain't much better!!!