Question about dating

[blue cat]

If you go out with a guy on Sat., and then he sends an email on Monday AM saying that he had a good time and that we should do it again....is that a blow off? I think that it is, esp. since it is Wed. and he hasn't called. It's no big deal, but just wanting feedback.

[Broken_Hero]

1. I don't think its a blowoff,

and I hope you both have another date, :D

[alarimer]

2. This sort of thing happens to me all the time

But maybe he's just busy. Or you could give him a call, with some sort of specific activity in mind (movie, concert, coffee, whatever) just to get the wheels turning. If you don't get an answer or he doesn't return your call, then you might have an answer.

[Bucky]

4. Don't call him back. Return his email, but make a concrete suggestion

have a specific thing in mind, like a festival, a new movie you "really want to see" (but NO chick flicks; those scare us :scared: ) or maybe a sporting event if it's not a dumb sport like marathoning. Something you'd want to go to anyway so he doesn't think you're too eager.

[AllegroRondo]

10. *ahem* marathoning is not a dumb sport

but I will agree it has very limited spectator appeal.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

12. Any sport that can possibly cause you to defecate on yourself is dumb.

Sorry, but marathoning qualifies.

[AllegroRondo]

14. thats an urban myth

sorry, I've run over a dozen, and ive NEVER seen anyone defecate on themselves. even at ones with 40,000+ participants. I have seen people who need to stop and use the port-a-johns along the way, but thats why they put them there.

[Bucky]

17. Shoot, if marathoners actually defecated on themselves it'd be a GREAT sport.

I'd pay to see that. It's much more entertaining that some sweaty skinny dude splashing orange juice in his face.

[dpbrown]

21. This is not a myth

1988 New York City Marathon: Grete Waitz won the women’s marathon in 2:28:07. One of the great runners of all time, she was shown only from the waist up in most photographs. Why? She had lost control of her bowels during the race, but had hung in there to win nonetheless.

1996 Boston Marathon: Uta Pippig wins the women’s marathon, but with diarrhea and menstrual blood streaming down her legs.

[SKKY]

3. Nope, it's not a blow off...

...He only waited until Monday to not seem "pushy". I'm willing to bet he'll call again- soon.

[crim son]

5. A blowoff would be no email at all.

It's your move next and that's why he hasn't called, IMHO.

[MissMillie]

8. yep... I agree

he said he had a good time and mentioned a second date. Some confirmation from the recipient of that email is in order.

[Bassic]

19. Good call I think

That's how I used to do it.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

6. did you respond to his email?

[conscious evolution]

7. Call or e-mail back

He's interested and is unsure if you are.If you are interested make a move.He will probably appreciate it.

[Callalily]

9. Did you e-mail him back?

If not you should. Let him know that you had a good time too. And as stated above, say you'd like to see him again too and give some suggested outings. I'm sure you've gotten a take into his personality. Suggest something that would hold both of your interests.

Just my two-cents worth. Good luck. It's nice to make new friends.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

11. Oh hell no.

In my experience, not scaring away a girl by calling too soon is one of the touchiest subjects in dating. He's playing it safe with the email - not a bad thing in my estimation.

[geiger]

13. Oh, i am SO glad i'm not tryng to "date" anyone right now

I just got off the phone from a friend who told me a mutual acquaintance of ours just saw her boyfriend ("the best boyfriend she ever had") off to Iraq.

Don't try to read too much into anything. Just enjoy yourself and him and your time together. HAVE FUN, that's all. If you're not having fun, move on.

[NashVegas]

15. Absolutely Not

And I hope you emailed him back on Tuesday to let him know that you had a great time too, and perhaps mentioned a few options of things that are coming up in the future you'd like to see/do.

If you didn't email him back on Tuesday, apologize for the delay.

[Beer Snob-50]

16. Excuse me...SENDING AN EMAIL

to say one had a good time!!! I think a phone call would have been better. But i guess it is not a blow off.

[trackfan]

18. Definitely not a blow off.

To me that shows interest. He doesn't want to scare you away by coming on too strong.

[Fountain79]

20. If he responded back then probably not....

If he wasn't interested at all he wouldn't have communicated at all, he would have just not done anything. Has there been any more communication since this last message?