I just lost a friend to suicide today.

[Scooter24]

And it really hurts to know that I'll never get that chance to know him better.

Such a charismatic and funny boy with lots of friends and a loving family.


I feel like I just got the wind knocked out of me :cry: I also feel a bit angry at him for leaving his family and friends the way he did. And I feel ashamed at that.


RIP Bradlie
1985-2007

[bridgit]

1. that's not right it's very sad, please accept our condolences...

:cry: :hug:

[Scooter24]

4. Thanks...

I've been on the phone all evening with friends. We're all a bit shocked.

:hug:

[Whoa_Nelly]

2. that is so sad.

:hug: for you

[Scooter24]

6. thanks...

:hug:

[LynzM]

3. Oh man, Scooter... many hugs to you....

I hope you know it's ok to feel all those things, to hurt and to be angry at him for leaving... :hug: :hug: Much love and many hugs to everyone who knew and loved him.

[Scooter24]

8. thank you...

And I feel bad for his best friends. They are just crushed.

I think I'll be turning in early tonight. I just needed to get it out of my system.

Thanks DU.

[graywarrior]

5. Very sorry to hear this.

:hug:

[Scooter24]

16. ...

:hug:

[graywarrior]

21. Geeze, what a great looking kid.

I had a few friends in high school blow themselves away. We thought it was normal where I come from. Stuffed all the horror of it deep inside and drank our way through it.

I'm really sorry, man.

[crim son]

7. I believe your feelings are entirely normal.

Try to remember that Bradie himself wouldn't have considered leaving his family and friends unless he was in unbearable pain, and you will be able to forgive him in time. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[Scooter24]

17. I know...

:cry:

Thanks.

:hug:

[Haole Girl]

65. crim son, I have never forgiven my mother...

..21 years later.

I just wanted you to know that.

Time does not, necessarily, heal all wounds.


Scooter24... :hug:

[crim son]

67. I am sorry, KC2.

You are right, some wounds are too deep.

[Haole Girl]

68. I'm sorry...

..I hadn't had my coffee yet...
stayed up too late last night.
I shouldn't have posted that,
or even posted. :hug:

[crim son]

72. But you are absolutely right.

Don't be sorry. :hug: :hug: :hug:

[Shell Beau]

9. What a short life! How terrible!

I am sooo sorry! :hug: Suicide is one of those un-understandable things (if you'll parden the bad English). I'll pray for you and his family and other friends!

[Scooter24]

18. thank you.

:hug:

[EFerrari]

10. Hug to you, Scooter24

:hug:

[Scooter24]

19. ...

:hug:

[EFerrari]

27. We lost someone to suicide. Try to be kind to you no matter

how you feel or what you think.

:hug:

[reyd reid reed]

11. It's sad when that happens...

Tragic doesn't even fit...it's beyond that. We had a family member who committed suicide several years back and it felt like someone yanked a rug out from under us. When I got the call, I had to ask the caller to repeat herself -- it was just inconceivable.

You do go through a combination of grief and guilt and frustration and anger...it's a normal reaction so don't feel ashamed of it. I went through the same thing. And all the 'what if's' and the 'if only's. In the end, they don't change anything and they make you feel even worse, so try not to fall into that trap. And it is a trap.

I'm sorry for your pain...and for his.



:hug::hug:

[Scooter24]

20. dupe

[Scooter24]

22. ...

:hug:

[Ptah]

12. That's very sad news, Scooter24.

[Scooter24]

23. ...

:hug:

[Nicole]

13. I'm so sorry

:hug:

[Scooter24]

24. ...

:hug:

[elfrangel]

14. So sorry for your loss....

:hug: to you and the family.

[Scooter24]

25. thank you so much

:hug:

[idgiehkt]

15. I'm very sorry

My condolences to you. :hug:

[Scooter24]

26. thank you

:hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

28. My dear Scooter24............

It is a huge loss, and you and your friends have my deepest condolences as you work through this......

I know you're hurting.......My brother-in-law shot himself a couple of years ago, and it took a long time to recover from it.........

:hug:

[Scooter24]

31. Peggy

thanks ever so much. I can't imagine how his best friends and family are going through this.

Your thoughts are very welcomed :)

:hug:

[flvegan]

29. I lost a friend to suicide earlier this year.

I feel your pain, and I'm sorry.

I think back to the innocence of our childhood, and I can't imagine that this would ever happen.

When I felt angry at my friend for this, as you are, I had to keep in mind that I wasn't mad at him. I was mad at what he did and how it made me feel. I couldn't bring myself to be mad at someone that, for whatever reason, felt like there was no other way. To me, it felt like I was piling on, and how could I possibly relate to the feelings of someone that took his own life?

Again, I'm sorry. 1985...he was 22.

22

[Scooter24]

32. thank you...

It's just that when I found out the news, I just sat here thinking "why?"

So many question's left unanswered.

[The Traveler]

30. Aw, hell

I'm sorry, bud. I know this feels bad.

[Scooter24]

33. thank you

[SeattleGirl]

34. Scooter, I'm sorry you lost your friend.

And please know that everything you are feeling, including the anger, is a very normal response to suicide. I've lost several people to suicide, so I do understand.

I wish you peace and healing.

:hug:

[Scooter24]

35. Thanks SeattleGirl

He was very well loved.

:hug:

[Broken_Hero]

36. I'm very sorry for your loss,

I understand the road you are on, I lost a very good friend of mine to suicide, back in 91...it was devastating. That year alone, we lost...4 people.

[guitar man]

37. oh no

Sorry to hear that. :hug:

[S n o w b a l l]

38. I'm so sorry...

I can't even begin to tell you how this tears at my heart. That picture...so full of life. He must have been in such pain. It's so very sad. As someone who's been there, I can understand the reasons. I hope you and his family can forgive him but the anger is normal.

I'm so very sorry for your loss.

[judaspriestess]

39. I'm so sorry

I lost a boyfriend to suicide when we were 18 years old. Can you believe 18 years old? It was tragic.

[devilgrrl]

40. I'm very sorry for your loss.

:hug:

[lavenderdiva]

41. oh no, Scooter

I'm so very sorry to hear this news. Your friend, Bradlie was so young, but must have been in so much pain to choose this path. My heartfelt condolences to you and his family. All of you will be in my thoughts and prayers. :hug:

[KitchenWitch]

42. Two years ago, one of my son's friends killed himself

He was 14, popular, athletic, smart, funny, and from the outside he looked like he had everything going for him. He seemed like a pretty happy kid.

Obviously, he had some deep dark things he was wrestling with, that he was not sharing with others about.

I am so sorry for your loss, and totally understand your anger.

:hug:

[u4ic]

43. I'm so sorry, Scooter24

Please don't be ashamed of the way you feel. It's part of the grieving process - it's quite shocking and confusing when someone such as you described - one who seems to have it all - takes their own life.



:hug:

[rockymountaindem]

44. My condolences n.t.

[gemdem]

45. Sorry for your loss.

:hug:

[BlueIris]

46. I'm so sorry.

That is terrible. But we're here for you.

[rumpel]

47. So young...

I am so sorry. What a shock it must be for you and your friends and his family.

:grouphug:

[QMPMom]

48. I am so sorry. I will be thinking of you.

[UrbScotty]

49. Words can't explain it, can they?

:hug:

[liberal renegade]

50. I am so sorry for your loss, Scooter

I know how you feel as I lost a 19 year old nephew to suicide on Valentines Day. He died of an apparent broken heart. A 4.0 student at the University of Colorado at Boulder, a member of Denver Taiko, a world traveler, a great big loving family and everything to live for.

Not in a million years would I have ever imagined such a gifted young man taking his own life.

www.denvertaiko.org

[Maine-ah]

51. don't be ashamed about that anger.

a friend of mine killed himself when we were in high school. I was angry too. It's a normal reaction. :grouphug:

[NC_Nurse]

52. I'm so sorry...

I lost a friend to suicide about 10 years ago. It's so tragic. I'm very sorry for your loss and I hope he's
at peace. :hug:

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

53. I am so sorry that he felt so hopeless ... it really gets to me because I suffered from depression .

He was very handsome. He looked so full of life in that picture. I am so sorry for the lost of your friend :hug: 21 22 years old, he was just a baby.

[seemunkee]

54. I"m so sorry

You have my most sincere condolences. The demons that haunted your friend are gone now, may he rest in peace.

I know what you are going through, had it happen a couple of times.

[ScreamingMeemie]

55. What a beautiful boy...My heart breaks for you and Bradlie's family

I'm so sorry.

[BarenakedLady]

56. I'm so sorry

He was so young, such a sad thing.

I lost a friend to suicide when I was 18 (she was 20). I know how painful and confusing it can be. My friend also left behind a young daughter. It takes a long time to sort all the emotions you will be feeling.

:hug:

[Drum]

57. I am sorry, Scooter24.

:hug:

[Bassic]

58. So young....

I'm very sorry for your loss. :(

[raccoon]

59. I'm sorry.

He must have been in terrible emotional pain to do that. :hug:

[bigwillq]

60. I am so sorry for your loss.

What a terrible tragedy.

:hug:

[Mad_Dem_X]

61. So, so sorry

My heart goes out to this young man's friends and family...this kind of situation is especially tragic, I know. :cry: :hug:

ETA: Your feelings are completely normal. Feelings of anger are unstandable.

[Connonym]

62. I am so sorry

for your loss. Anger is a normal reaction to suicide so please don't add to your sorrow by feeling guilty for that emotion. :hug:

[driver8]

63. Scooter, I am so sorry...

Losing a friend is hard enough; losing one to suicide is even worse.

So sorry for your loss.

[RFKHumphreyObama]

64. Words are inadequate at this time but they are all I have

My deepest and most sincere thoughts, prayers, condolences and sympathies to you and to Bradlie's family and friends. This is so sad:hug: :hug:

It is natural to experience the kind of emotions you are going through at the moment. It's nothing to be ashamed of -it is part of the grieving process. I know that it is never easy for the ones left behind and once again my deepest and sincerest thoughts, prayers, condolences and sympathies are extended to you, Bradlie's family and his friends :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

[Left Is Write]

66. I'm really sorry, Scooter24.

I know it hurts.

:hug:

[Shine]

69. How sad. I'm sorry for your loss, Scooter.

What you are feeling is totally normal, btw. Anger is a big one to deal with when suicides happen. Please don't beat yourself up for your feelings. :hug:

It's heartbreaking to hear stories of young people commiting suicide. They have so much of their lives left ahead. If only he knew that whatever he was going through would shift. It always does...

May Bradlie's soul find Peace.

[Raffi Ella]

70. I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend...

he must have been in so much pain to have made such a final decision...
My heart goes out to anyone who is in that place,very very sad.

[noonwitch]

71. I'm sorry, I know how you feel, I lost a friend to suicide in high school

He killed himself on Pearl Harbor Day in 1981. It was also the day before the first anniversary of John Lennon's death. I always associate the Lennon memorials every year and the Pear Harbor memorials with my friend's death. It's also one of the main events that led me to my career working with kids.

[Giant Robot]

73. My deepest sympathies to you and all he touched

I can perfectly understand why you would be angry and hurt by his decision to kill himself. I would be more worried about you if you did not feel that at some point. I hope you find what you need here and with your loved ones during this time.

If I may offer you a suggestion, at this point, a lot of people,maybe you, will be trying to figure out why he did this. The reality is that only one person will know for sure, and he is gone now. Just stay with each other, support each other, and feel angry, hurt, whatever now. Save the whys for later. Trying to figure out why right now will only get in your way.

[applegrove]

74. So sorry.

[WindRavenX]

75. ugh so sad

:cry:

[Madspirit]

76. I am SO sorry.

That just sucks.
Lee

[Paladin]

77. Don't Be Ashamed Of Your Mixed Emotions On This

The half grieved/half angry state of mind is a completely normal and understandable reaction to a suicide. I know from personal experience.

Sorry for your loss.

[KatyaR]

78. Tomorrow is the 15-year anniversary of the death of one of the

best friends I've ever had. His suicide knocked me back so hard that I'm still recovering from it today. Suicide is a horrible thing for everyone involved.

Hugs to you, Scooter--I'm so very, very sorry. :hug: