So, say you're just sort of seeing this guy

[GirlinContempt]

Or girl maybe. And, over a casual post-work drink, he (or she) presents you with two giant glittery things for your hands. Not like, diamonds or anything. Say like, onyx and amber. And they say they got it just cause the rings made them think of you. And they are great. Say you like, I don't know, square cut stones, they're square, and say you like silver, they're silver.
They might just look like this (hypothetically)


What the FUCK do you do? Like, you aren't in a serious buy each other jewelery relationship, you're perfectly content seeing this guy or girl, they're awesome, but this is out of the blue.
What.
Do.
You.
Do.

[lildreamer316]

1. As long as you've been clear;

you should not stress about it too much.
Beautiful rings.
But do make sure everything is clear--as nicely as possible.

[GirlinContempt]

2. I feel guilty.

I have been clear, but I feel guilty

[lildreamer316]

11. Please don't dear.

But if you feel it is not right to accept them; that's fine--but you cannot take responsibility for someone else's assumptions.
I know that's hard.....but I can see you are kind and it will be ok. Don't stress; really; it just adds to it.

Hope I don't sound too preachy-sorry.

[mainegreen]

3. Evidently post on DU! Either that or deer in headlights face.

That's what I would do. Deer in headlights. Face.

Seriously though, if it's not a super expensive ring, then great. He/She gave you a gift of appreciation. So feel appreciated. Maybe glow a little bit.

:shrug:

[GirlinContempt]

7. Well drinks are done

And I was total deer in headlights. I didn't know what to do except be polite and worry later.

[idgiehkt]

4. I don't know

They are very pretty. I think as long as you feel the person is clear on the exact circumstances of your relationship it should be okay to take them. When I am with someone I buy them stupid crap all the time. I never ask for any of it back. I'm a goofball like that when I'm crushing on someone. It's just if they expect more than you are willing to give is when it gets weird.

[GirlinContempt]

8. I buy people all kinds of stuff

I just get weirded out when someone buys it for me. And I don't wanna... i dunno... give the wrong impression or whatever.

clearly I'm articulate on this subject.

[bicentennial_baby]

5. Check yr MySpace

:D

:hi:

[GirlinContempt]

6. I repeat

aaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh hhhhhhhhhhh h hhhhhhhhhhhh

[bicentennial_baby]

15. he was hotttttttt....

as they say in MySpace parlance :D

[GirlinContempt]

22. I can't even think about it

ugh

[Magrittes Pipe]

9. Quid pro quo.

[GirlinContempt]

10. Thanks Dr Phil

[Magrittes Pipe]

12. It's mah job.

:thumbsup:

[GirlinContempt]

14. Ya'll need to listen to yaselves

[sasquatch]

19. .

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cSDZMTs1sbg

[BlueJazz]

13. He wants to take it to the next level.

[GirlinContempt]

23. What's the next level?

:P

[BlueJazz]

29. ...or should I say take you to the next Level.

...I can only guess but some Men have trouble facing their feelings and maybe (what he has done) is just wanting you to appreciate him a lot more...


..or on the other hand...I'm full of shit...

[AlCzervik]

16. sometimes a gift is just a gift even if it's shaped like a ring.

[GirlinContempt]

24. Yeah I know

but like, he seems more the "here's a hilarious tacky record I found at a junkshop" kinda guy

[jane_pippin]

17. Say thank you.

And try not to overthink it too much. Maybe he really did just get them because he saw them and thought you'd like them.

[GirlinContempt]

25. Well of course I did

[jane_pippin]

33. Sorry, I didn't mean to imply that you

weren't polite. I just meant, "just say thanks and enjoy the gift." Unless you really get a vibe like the gift was offered as some kind of "Let's Up The Ante" offering that you're not into, then I say don't worry about it and simply accept it for what it is: A gift you like from someone who knew you'd like it.

If you do get that vibe and you're not ready for it, then I don't know what to tell you. That's always a difficult situation.

[GirlinContempt]

34. haha no I didn't think you meant that

:)
I dunno what I mean myself.

[jane_pippin]

36. Ok good. :) And good luck

to you in figuring out how to take it. They're pretty rings, by the way.

I think the shitty band across the street is finally done banging pots and pans together and singing like dying cats, so I'm going to bed. :hi:

[LostInAnomie]

18. Tell him to hold on to them...

... until you are comfortable enough to accept them. Which for me, would be right before I get it on with them. :patriot:

[GirlinContempt]

26. Before?

HuH? :P

[LostInAnomie]

32. Well, don't make it like some kind of exchange...

... Act like it's some kind of romantic gesture that you're ready to get a bit more serious. Then later on get down to business.

It's the American way. :patriot:

[Chan790]

20. Nothing...

well, I say thank you. I do not sweat it. I buy people gifts all the time because I see something and I think "Hey, I want to get that for (X)." Sometimes I know that it may be strange, but...I'm a random gifter. Perhaps it means he thinks your awesome too. I'd consider it a sign of your awesomeness.

[GirlinContempt]

27. Fair enough

[Danger Mouse]

21. I'd ask them wtf they're expecting,

I mean, that's moving way too fast, imho.
And kinda creepy.
But that's just me.

[GirlinContempt]

28. That's sort of a hard thing to ask politely

over sociable drinks after receiving a gift I think.
"Thanks, but wtf are you expecting you creep?!"

[Danger Mouse]

30. Oh, come on? What's so tough about that?

In all seriousness...
I'd be totally knocked speechless.
I'd very nicely thank the person, but ask them if this means that they want to make the relationship more seriously (like, what their intention is)...and if I'm not comfortable with that, let them know...kindly, of course.
That's probably not helpful at all, but I think that's what I'd do if it were me.

[GirlinContempt]

31. Yeah I'd find it hard

but thanks :)

[Danger Mouse]

35. Well, assuming that this is what happened to you

how DID you react?

[GirlinContempt]

37. Awkward thanks

[Danger Mouse]

38. So now what's your next move?

Do you want to move forward, or break it off, or continue things as they are?

[GirlinContempt]

39. Stay the same.

[Danger Mouse]

40. Hmmm...

Do you know what it is that he wants, now that he's given you those?

[GirlinContempt]

41. Sorry I missed this reply before

I have no idea what he wants. Probably the same as before. I think it's just one of those weird 'rings MEAN something' notions many (apparently myself included) seem to have.

[Danger Mouse]

43. Well, I had a girl begging me for rings when our relationship

wasn't even serious.
Rings, presents, I can't afford this stuff :P
I have the same notion, too, though...if someone gave me a pricey gift, I'd wonder what it meant...I guess some people have the money to throw around...I certainly don't!

[bridgit]

42. hm, well i do like amber there's little doubt about that...

but not necessarily in that cut, or style of setting but if this would be, hypothetically, a mui sincere initiation or application for 'advanced', long term friendship ;) one could accept, have a few more drinks, say a few more words of hopeful even wistful consolidation, let some time string out front and then float past some jewelry designer shop windows and drop a few hints as to any possible design revisions :thumbsup:

[GirlinContempt]

46. I realized just today

That he was there when my amber ring (procured from longterm boyfriend two men back) broke and I was sad, though not heartbroken.

I enjoy a strong square hunk of junk with a solid silver plaino setting. Totally me :D Yeah I just felt weird but I'm getting over it.

<3

[bridgit]

49. i think that's right too = never say "no" to love or kindness...

:)

[GirlinContempt]

50. Yeah, initial weirdout pretty well over.

It was sweet. And I should take it at face value.

[Pierre.Suave]

44. Well, if a girl did that to me

I would be awfully worried. I don't wear rings.

Honestly, that soon in a relationship if a girl did that, I might be looking for a way out.


Unless she was really, super hott, then I might keep her around for a while.

[GirlinContempt]

48. Well maybe this hypothetically person is really super hot

like that kind of really super hot where you constantly want to run off into little rooms and make out like teenagers.
They bend over and the small of their back shows and you break a sweat just thinking about... it.

Or maybe not.

[Pierre.Suave]

51. If this person is hot

then take the rings and use them for as mush sex as you can until you cant anymore...






















that is in jest by the way, before I get flamed...

[GirlinContempt]

52. Yeah I figured

:P

[NNadir]

45. I would move to Finland and open a chain of Hawaiian confectionary stores

but that's just me.

[GirlinContempt]

47. Most sound advice yet.