OK, so I'm sitting at work right now trying to catch up on the backlog, and my MIL calls me...

[NewWaveChick1981]

:grr: I was right in the middle of a big, frustrating report, and the phone in my office rang. It's Sunday, mind you, and the only person who supposedly knew I was here was my husband. I answer, expecting it to be him. Nope, it's my crazy mother-in-law. She had just gotten off the phone with him and called me. There is a family wedding (her side of the family, of course) in mid-April, and she's having a meltdown because nobody's told the mother of the bride they're coming. Ummm, excuse me, but the wedding invitation requested an RSVP by March 20. :wtf: We are still not 100% sure of our plans yet (whether or not we will attend the rehearsal dinner, mainly), and we were waiting to confirm those plans (YES, before March 20!!!) before responding as requested. :yoiks: Geez, obsess much??? She gave me an earful about how bad this makes HER look to the rest of her family (they haven't said a thing about the whole situation, btw) and that nobody cares what this does to HER reputation in her family. Sheesh! Oh, and to top it off, it's now my fault she didn't win Publishers Clearinghouse AGAIN, because "nobody believes me and nobody took the time to come over and help me fill out the forms." :yoiks: Besides being insane, she's perfectly able-bodied but prefers to play the helpless victim. I'm not exaggerating.

This isn't a big surprise, because my MIL has all kinds of issues (narcisissm, paranoia, and OCD, for starters). I have always tried to be as understanding as possible about everything, because she really is certifiable (I am soooo not joking :( ), but this just set me off today. It put me almost half an hour behind on finishing this stupid report, and my stress level is very high.

Just venting. :hi: Thanks for listening!

[billyskank]

1. .....

:*

[NewWaveChick1981]

2. Hi, sweetie!

:* :loveya: My day just got better! :D

[billyskank]

3. Hi yourself

:hug:

:loveya:

[thefool_wa]

4. Makes her look? Her reputation with the family?

Wow, someone needs to get over themself.

[NewWaveChick1981]

5. Yes indeed.

:hi: Unfortunately, she's been like that since before I met her in 1987. :yoiks: It's just gotten much, much worse over the years. I can't stand to be around her.

[thefool_wa]

21. I can imagine

Stories like this make me really appreciate my MIL - she is a great woman. The only fight we have ever had was just after I asked my wife to marry me and move 3000 miles away at the same time.

She was 19 at the time and had never lived out of her parents home. Being the youngest of their girls didn't help much. But we sorted it out and, honestly, we have a great relationship.

I count myself very, very, lucky.

[mike_c]

6. tell her to call my house....

I'm desperate for reasons to stop working on grading exams today....

[NewWaveChick1981]

8. Be careful what you wish for...

:yoiks: She'll have you on the phone until Tuesday... :P

[Lex]

7. Shouldn't your hubby be in charge of dealing with his nutty Mom

primarily?

Why is it your job to deal with his nutty Mom's stuff?

:shrug:

[NewWaveChick1981]

9. He deals with her too. She believes that certain things are the "woman's domain" and

therefore she feels no need to involve him. When it comes to anything that has to do with the family or the home, she involves me no matter how uninterested I am or how much we tell her to stop. He's talked to her in no uncertain terms about this, but being crazy, it doesn't mean anything to her.

Believe me, it's HIS job, but sometimes it's unavoidable.

[Lex]

10. Aha! I thought so.

You are kind to help your hubby out with his mom's nuttiness about things. :pals:

[NewWaveChick1981]

12. Thanks... I guess "help" is the right word...

:P :rofl: I avoid it at all costs, but sometimes I can't evade her.

[idgiehkt]

11. that part about Publisher's Clearing House is hysterical

:rofl:

Sorry she gave you a hard time. There is wedding chaos going on in my family too and I can relate.

:hug: :hi:

[NewWaveChick1981]

13. Yeah... I'm just waiting for her to blame losing the Powerball lottery on Bill Cllinton...

:rofl: And she's a Democrat... :P :hi: This is, unfortunately, par for the course.... :yoiks:

[NV Whino]

22. She can't possibly win Publishers Clearing house...

I'm going to. I mean I have to. The postage I've spent over the years is now equal to the prize.

[SPKrazy]

14. Just Venting...

keeps you from blowing..:shrug:

sorry you are having a rough day, mine has been frustrated by things that shouldn't frustrate me, but have and have put me off my planned schedule of how I was to get things done :mad:

:hug:

YOu could always have your MIL committed to a mental institution. If she is over 55, I know one where she'd get treated real well :evilgrin:

:rofl:

[NewWaveChick1981]

15. Thanks, SPK! BTW, she's terrified of clowns...

:yoiks: :P ;)

And yes, this has kept me from blowing a gasket... :hi: :hug: :D My day has been way off course ever since then, but I'm just gonna chill out tonight. :D

[SPKrazy]

16. Hey, We Could Arrange For Clowns To Visit Her

while she was committed :evilgrin:


:rofl:



:hug:

[NewWaveChick1981]

17. Evil...pure evil...

Genius... :rofl: :hi: :evilgrin: Why didn't we think of this before??? :P

[SPKrazy]

19. I Never Thought Of It...

with your MIL at least :rofl:


It's easy to draw up papers

I think we could easily get a psychiatrist to agree she needed to be committed... I know some people :evilgrin:

:rofl:

We could have clowns coming in at all hours of the night if we hired them to do it...:rofl:

I am evil

:shrug:

:hug:

[crim son]

18. God, I so understand.

My mother sent out our wedding invitations five months in advance of the wedding. About a week before the date, my STBE's two insane aunts called my mother on separate occasions and complained to her about the "short notice" and how they couldn't possible make the trip to the west coast given the time constraint. Mom then received a written complaint from one of them, making the same ridiculous complaint. It turns out of course that this was par-for-the-course behavior for my husband's family, and that they never had any intention of attending the wedding. What was interesting is that they had no qualms about involving *the new bride's family* in their ridiculous family squabble. What was good about the incident is that it prepared me for the insanity to come. You've no idea. :eyes:

In-laws. WTF are you gonna do?

[SPKrazy]

20. In My Case...

we were the bad people...

Or I should say my wife was the bad person in the eyes of her in-laws, we decided on a date... that date happened to fall on a Friday which was to say the least, inconvenient for everyone. I would have changed it but noooo dice with the other party here. So we had a Friday wedding and it was a pisser for many people.

I'd have been happy with a small wedding with no one present actually...

My in-laws are a little strange- my MIL is a Right wing Bush lover who can't admit he has ever done anything wrong...

FIL is a goof who whenever I talk to him wants to talk to me about "time"... I never have figured that one out.

:eyes:

(see, I'm replying to you here, :rofl: )

[NewWaveChick1981]

24. That sounds like a freaking nightmare.

:hug: Sorry it was so bad. :pals:

Yeah, my in-laws are a lot of kooks. The only ones with any sense live about four hours away from here. :yoiks:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

23. ugh! sorry!

[NewWaveChick1981]

25. Thanks, lioness...

:hug:

[NC_Nurse]

26. I know that feeling.

My husband and I have MANY certifiable people in BOTH families. It's a Keystone Cops of crazies! :crazy:

Sometimes it's just laughable. Other times I want to scream. Hang in there. :hug: