I'm in the mood for stories about bad relationships.

[BlueIris]

I mean really bad ones, too. About the ex you had to leave because s/he slept with your girlfriend while pouring sugar into your gas tank. Or the one who "accidentally" let your cat out into traffic while you were at work. Or with whom you just had a horribly dysfunctional situation going on with for way too long. Share your pain with me, Lounge.

[wildhorses]

1. and on this note--

i will say good night:P

good to see you:hug::hi:

nitey nite:boring:

[SeattleGirl]

2. Let me tell you about my Grand Obsession.

We met at work. Couldn't resist each other. First year was WOW!!!! Fantastic. Fabulous.

The second year was pure hell. He started making really snarky comments to me, putting me down, etc. Stopped coming around as often.

One night, after I hadn't heard from him for about a week (we no longer worked together by then), I called his former wife (she was cool), and she said he had moved in with another woman!

Biggest sucker punch of my freakin' life.

But to top it off, he started calling me again. Still wanted to be with me. I was sick with him, I swear. It took awhile for me to completely disengage myself from him, but I finally did. Haven't seen him in 15 years, and hope I never do.

[LeftyMom]

3. Let's just say that the local cops don't put much effort into attempted murder cases.

I'll spare you the rest of the gory details.

[BlueIris]

5. ...yikers.

You can share the details if you want...that's what my thread here is for. I demand shock.

[bicentennial_baby]

21. word to that

x(

:hug:

[crispini]

4. Wowsers. Well, it's been awhile,

but I dated a guy once who seemed normal, but started to get REALLY jealous after awhile. I got a new job and started going out to lunch with my mostly male coworkers, software engineers. He started getting really resentful of this, saying things like, Why don't you ever go out to lunch with your female coworkers? Then he started to get really resentful of this one guy, who I did like very much in a friend sort of way, but who was MARRIED and who I was not attracted to AT ALL. This guy just spontaneously showed up at my office one time, and instead of calling me from reception like he was supposed to do, just followed someone into the building, and started doing other weird creepy stalkerish things, and I had a HARD time getting rid of him, I mean there were angst-ridden midnight phone calls, big scenes, tons and tons of drama, the whole nine yards. He was never a full-blown stalker, but he was definitely borderline, and definitely a little off balance.

Not much as far as the really bad ones go, but it gave me a fresh sympathy for girls who wind up involved with nutcases, because this guy did NOT ping my radar at all until we'd been dating 4 or 5 months, and LORD how I hate drama in a relationship now.

[Robeson]

6. I had one with a woman, whom I'm convinced to this day, was poisoning...

...me with arsenic. It's a long story.

[SeattleGirl]

7. Holy crap!

Glad she didn't succeed, Robeson!

[Robeson]

8. Me too!...

...:-) :hi:

[PaddyBlueEyes]

9. Damn

thats harsh.....

[BluePatriot]

23. *thinks*

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arsenic_and_Old_Lace_(film)

reminded me of this!

edit: huh. DU doesn't like an underscore next to a parenthesis in a link very much.

[Qanisqineq]

10. Well, just 2 or 3 weeks ago

I discovered pictures of my husband with another woman on MySpace. He is stationed in Korea, I moved here to be with him, he was recently sent to the US for 3 months of training. I'm sitting in Korea, playing around on the internet, looking up people on MySpace, and I find my husband! Kissing another woman! And she has descriptions of their sex life on her page!

Talk about a slap to the face.

[BarenakedLady]

11. Ouch!

I'm so sorry. :hug: What are you going to do?

[Qanisqineq]

12. Good question

My first instinct was to divorce him. Well, I am kind of stuck here in Korea until he gets back. He wants to try to work things out. I said I'd wait until he got back here and we'd go from there. I really don't have much of a choice anyway. He confessed to everything -- after SHE sent me an email talking about everything including graphic photos (yeah, I needed to see those). She's a little psycho, they knew each other a whopping 16 days but she was declaring her love for him and how he was the love of her life.

His chain of command knows so he's in a bit of trouble when he gets back. Right now I am just numb and don't really feel anything.

[BarenakedLady]

13. What a tough situation to be in.

Sending strength vibes your way. :hug:

[AllegroRondo]

15. Where in Korea?

I spent a year in Uijongbu. Lovely country.

[Qanisqineq]

16. Daegu

I've been here a year now. If I stick around, we'll be here another year.

[QMPMom]

14. How about the one I am in right now. I am so pissed at my husband

that I could do murder on him.

I am supposed to bring lunch for a friend and me to work today. I had it all ready yesterday evening. I showed him the container. I told him not to touch it. What does he do? He eats it.

Today this is a bad, Bad, BAD relationship.

He is now in the middle of an apology note to my friend.

[MissMillie]

17. I actually stayed w/ a guy

who told me that he was turned off by my body. He actually used that as an excuse not to make any kind of commitment to me, and I stayed w/ him.

[femmedem]

18. I am remembering the day I was moving out...

And it began to snow and snow and snow. 29 inches worth. We were housebound with each other, out in the sticks, for the next three days.

Well, that's just funny, in retrospect. But then, after we'd agreed I'd get an apartment and he'd stay in the house w/most of the cats, he moved out and abandoned the cats. Didn't tell me. I heard from a neighbor, though, who thank god had kept feeding them. I drove back and was able to round them up--except for Ben. :cry:

I hate him for that. Do whatever to me, I'll get over it. But don't mess with the cats.

[crim son]

19. I've had a few.

One was a guy who liked to slap me around/humiliate me. The first year there was almost no sign of it... he twisted my arm a few times, he was odd/kinky. As time went on he became more kinky and more violent, eventually hitting me in public on occasion and one time, chasing me into the bedroom with a baseball bat. I locked the door behind me and waited for him to leave. The last straw was a friendly rape. He showed up after a fight, walked over to my tape player and popped in "I Want to Make Violent Love", then did. I can't believe that's the act that persuaded me he was no good.

He called me for years afterward.

[skygazer]

20. Why in the world would you want to hear about bad relationships?

You really want to hear about the guy who beat me up, threatened to kill me, take my kids so I'd never see them again, forced me to do a lot of very nasty things that I won't relate here, sold every item of value I ever had and left me in so much debt that it's taken me more then ten years to get out of?

You want to hear about how I never called the cops on him because where I come from, when you call a cop for a "domestic violence" situation, about the worst thing that will happen to him is he'll spend the night in jail. Then he comes home. It's worse, then. I know - or knew - people who didn't survive that homecoming.

You want to hear about how I married him because I couldn't think of an excuse not to when he informed me we were going to do it on such and such a date, because I knew if I refused, he'd hurt me badly? How 6 months later when he got busted on a drug charge, I waited until he was convicted to serve divorce papers because I was afraid if I didn't wait, he'd get out on a technicality and kill me?

You want to hear about the letters he wrote from prison, detailing how he had met friends who were getting out soon who'd come to kill me and I'd never know it because I'd never seen them before? And how I was told by cops and lawyers that there was nothing I could do about it because it was not stated outright but "implied?"

You want to hear about how I slept with my loaded shotgun when I heard he was getting out? And how I moved 3000 miles away from everyone I knew and loved just so I'd feel a little more secure? And how I still, 12 years later, carry a weapon and check the treeline and perimeter every single time I leave my house because I still, in the back of my head, expect him to appear and kill me some day?

You have strange wishes, my friend. But there you go. You may enjoy it vicariously or whatever you're looking for.

[raccoon]

22. A guy I had a crush on once while we were working together.

He was married then. Nothing happened.

Fast-forward five years later. I was just dumped by a guy, unhappy in my job, and my self-esteem at a very low point.

This man calls me up. His wife had just thrown his ass out. (It's as if he could sense my low self-esteem across the miles...but I know it was coincidence.

We see each other a few months, during which he plays me like a yo-yo, come here, go away, I love you, I want to try to get back with my wife.
Also he would pick fights so I'd break up with him, that way he wouldn't have any responsibility for the breakup. I didn't see at the time that's what he was doing.

Thank goddess I finally woke up and kicked his ass out of my life.

For that reason I would NEVER NEVER NEVER get involved with anyone who's just separated from his wife/SO. They are just looking for somebody to bolster their ego, and sex. Who gives a rat's ass about their ego?