Are you good about keeping in touch with friends and family?

[skygazer]

I'm just horrible. I really am. I just emailed a good friend who I haven't contacted in over a year - it just didn't seem that long. And I HAVE to call my son this weekend - I haven't talked to him since January! :banghead:

[Ariana Celeste]

1. I'm really not.

It seems I talk to my SO's mom and my best friend's mom more then I talk to my own. It's not that I don't care. There's just not a whole lot to talk about.

And after I got arrested last December suddenly my family wanted to talk to me all the time. It was pretty overwhelming for a few weeks there. Now I'm back to normal on that front.

[ohiosmith]

2. No. Most of my family annoys the hell out of me.

[skygazer]

7. Mine does too

My kids are okay but my father and siblings are only tolerable in small doses. They all live about 3000 miles away though and after one sister died last year, I find myself feeling guilty. I could at least email them.

And my friends I really should keep in touch with if only so I could reasonably hit them up for loans.

[Redstone]

3. God, no. It's my worst failing, by far. And, boy, do I feel bad about it.

I really do. But no matter how many times I swear to become a better correspondent, I never do.

Redstone

[Drum]

31. Same here.

:(

[NightWatcher]

4. I'm terrible about keeping up

I get so stuck in the daily routine that I never call friends and family because nothing changes and no one needs an update.

[bigwillq]

5. Yes, for the most part.

E-mail and/or my-space for some of the people that I don't see too often or are far away.

I'm a phone person though so I usually chat it up with family and friends pretty often.

[skygazer]

9. That doesn't surprise me

You're such a nice person. And I love the new sig pic, btw. :hi:

[bigwillq]

11. Thanks!

I love it too. :hi:

[huskerlaw]

6. I'm awful.

I forget birthdays. I almost never call.

I have some really good friends that I haven't talked to in well over a year.

It's definitely one of my biggest flaws.

[alarimer]

8. No, I'm horrible

I have relatives in Austin that I only seen a few time a year and almost never talk to. Strange, considering that they are only a couple hundred miles from me. I never talk to my sisters and brother. I get the news through my parents, whom I do call once or twice a month. They never call me unless somebody is sick or dead.

As for friends, I have moved so many times that I don't keep in touch with anyone.

Although lately I have been emailing various members of my family because we are trying to dispose of my grandmother's belongings. She is in a nursing home and her partner died recently and his family decided to sell his house, so her stuff has to go. So my cousind set up "Nanabay" where we get to call dibs on various small items. My mother and aunts get the big stuff of course, but I asked for a drawing my grandmother did some years ago. She was something of an artist.

[supernova]

10. Gotten worse as I've gotten older

I used to be on a kind of schedule. I'd at least call or we'd get together once a month at least. But now, time seems to get a way from me. I look up and it's been 2 months. :wtf:

I'm not as good about it as I could be. *Sigh*

[seaglass]

12. I call my mom once a week but that isn't enough. Now she says

"Thank You for calling" everytime we end our conversation. I know that's supposed to give me an even deeper guilt trip - and it does!!!

For the rest of the people in my life - I'm horrible at keeping in contact.

[skygazer]

13. I think it would drive me crazy if my kids called me once a week!

I don't know what the hell we'd talk about. :rofl:

[seaglass]

15. Yeah, she just wants the contact. She's hinted a few times that

her sister is shocked we don't call her every day to make sure she's still alive - then she laughs. Funny how I don't find that funny at all - just more guilt-inducing. :-(

[skygazer]

16. Every day?!

Why doesn't her sister call her every day then?

I hope I never put my kids through guilt trips like that. That's just wrong. My first husband's mother did that - she'd crawl right up his butt if he didn't call her every Sunday no matter what. I guess sometimes people never remember to keep a live of their own besides their kids.

You can be my kid if you want. I won't bug you at all. :hi:

[seaglass]

22. It's not really her fault. She is all alone and retired, not in the

greatest health and feels like she's not needed. :-(

This is the mom that would nurse me back to health with gingerale when I had a HANGOVER (and she knew it!) so I owe her big time :-)

And I'm probably old enough for you to be my kid - but thanks for the offer:hi:

[MountainLaurel]

14. I try, but my family doesn't help

Because they're all still in the same area, and I'm the one who has moved away, for the most part I have to travel if I want to see them. When I was in DC, my mom would come over every few months (to get away from the rest of them). I would come home in between her visits. But now that I'm in Maine, it's too far for a long weekend, and vacation time for all of us is short. Plus, I don't think I could get them to fly to come to see me (my grandmother wouldn't fly anyway, and the rest consider it too expensive). Regarding phone calls, very rarely do they call me. My brother and I used to chat via AIM, but since he became a father, he doesn't have time.

I'm at a point where I'm ready to tell them that if they want to see me, they're gonna have to haul their asses up here, because I'm tired of spending all my vacation time going to visit them. North central West Virginia isn't exactly a happening spot to spend a week. (Family activity tends to focus on sitting and watching TV or going to the mall.)

[crim son]

17. Nope. My phone phobia is a real problem. n/t

[SPKrazy]

20. Phone phobia?

what's that about?

:shrug:

:pals:

[crim son]

23. I can't stand making phone calls. Sometimes I'm okay receiving them.

My father was a physician and he had the same phobia. The phone freaks me out, but only for personal calls. Business calls don't bother me and I have no idea why. Hi, pawpicker!

[SPKrazy]

24. Okay, that's interesting

hi crimmie!

:hi:

gawd, being a physician, and knowing what his specialty was, i know he had to get a LOT of phone calls LOL

poor guy

:hug: you!

[Drum]

32. I have some tendency toward this, as well

:shrug: / :scared: / :blush:

[azmouse]

18. No.

And I don't care. In the last 25 yrs I've talked to my oldest brother maybe 3 times. My other brother has become a Bushbot. Not interested in talking to him either.

[u4ic]

19. No

it's something I need to improve.

I should clarify - by email or letter, no. By phone, yes. Often one leads to the other - not keeping in touch via email for so long, and then doing a marathon (3+ hrs) phone call.

I'm much better on the phone than by the written word.

[SPKrazy]

21. Sometimes yes...probably mostly no

lately not so good with my dad...

although i talk to him once a week, i feel like i've kind of gotten bad about getting in touch with him. i have some friends that are on my to contact list.

so mixed bag.

:shrug:

[crim son]

25. Once a week isn't terrible.

I can't remember if you have siblings. Do you? I speak to my parents not as often as once a month, but our relationship is "fine."

[SPKrazy]

26. 1 sister

1 dad and I speak less to my sister as she is hard to get hold of I guess :(

I'm actually talking to my dad now as he just called as I started this reply LOL

:rofl:

:hi:

[crim son]

27. Cool.

I was wondering if your dad heard from her. I have three sisters so my parents are constantly hearing from somebody.

[SPKrazy]

29. Yeah, my sister sees my dad

at least a couple of times a month and she talks to him a lot.

she just won't answer the phone most of the time when I call her DAMNED CALLER ID! I don't feel too snubbed :cry: when she does that.

My dad talked to M. for a bit, and then he said "can I call you back I'm eating" so politely and adult like it was soooo cute! :)

Oh, and this morning, he goes: "don't get fired" to me as I'm leaving because of the whole Dr. asshole thing and him being fired I guess :rofl:

:hi:

[mike_c]

28. luckily, my friends are generally pretty good at staying in touch with me...

...because I'm HORRIBLE at it.

[mzteris]

30. Of Course!! I'm on the Lounge every day!

:grouphug:

:D


Family now, that's a different story. :( Of course, since most of them are a wee bit to the right of me (ok they're raging 'pubs) I don't consider it any big loss.

[S n o w b a l l]

33. I'm terrible...

phone phobia here too...I just never answer it. And im's. I'm surprised my friends haven't given up on me yet, though I suppose they will soon. :(