Ugh.. I got rejected!.. high school sweet heart..

[southernleftylady]

Ok I am on myspace and I have a friend on there who is in touch with my high school sweetheart.. well I asked her to ask him if he would want to get in touch with me.. and she said he doesn't think its a good idea...
ok..
we graduated 10 years ago..
ive been married for 6 years now and he just got married last summer and has a newborn

I just wanted to say hi to him and see how he is doing.. show him pictures of my boys...
but nope.. got shot down...
wonder why?

[crim son]

1. He is probably deferring to his wife.

At his time of life he believes he has everything wrapped up - doesn't need a past and the future will take care of itself. Give him twenty years and in the meantime you shouldn't take it personally.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

2. I would reject it too.

The past is the past. I wouldn't keep in contact with any of my exes, regardless of the circumstances. It's just not worth it.

[Pacifist Patriot]

3. Not everyone's in to reconnecting. Don't take it personally.

[Lex]

4. Maybe the break-up with you went badly

from his perspective?

[Sequoia]

5. His wife forbids him to connect with gals from his past.

I know quite a few women like that. Why rock the boat, the men might think.

[Blue_In_AK]

6. He is wise.

I've had a lot of experience with this (I'm now married to my highschool sweetheart after a 37-year separation). If both of you are in good marriages (we weren't) you don't want to go down this path because the feelings that are sometimes brought up in these situations can be overwhelming. You may think your intentions are innocent, but if you two were in any way serious, especially at a young age, the subconscious tends to take over. Trust me on this. When I first reconnected with my now H, I thought we could just "be friends." Not a chance in hell.

For us it worked out, because, as I said, we were both in terrible marriages, but it took three years and a lot of heartache to get there.

[pitohui]

7. because nothing good comes of this most of the time

most of the time people who hunt you down after that many years are up to no good, we're talking the friendless people who want to waste your time, the bored looking for a playmate for extra-marital fun, and the downright losers who want to hit you up for a loan

there's a reason you lost contact all those years ago, your lives got on different tracks

let it be

[MichiganVote]

8. I thought HS reunions were the thing for this sort of happening